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If it's just an interim job, then always reply positively. There is no plus side to whining and you already have one foot out the door. All you want is to get through this with a revenue stream as smoothly as possible.


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You don't ask open ended questions. You ask concise, directed questions for specific relevant information pertaining to a task or project they care about or have some stake in. People are not there to teach you.


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If you believe it is illegal, you tell the CEO, and you are not going to do it unless the CEO tells you in writing that it is legal. Or if it happens, you go to a lawyer and ask what you need to do to make sure any legal trouble isn't your problem. If you think it's a bad idea and will cost the company money, reputation or in other ways, you tell the CEO in ...


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I think there is asking, and then there's asking. As a person in a new job myself at the moment, I find there are two styles of this question. People who have little to no investment in whether you are happy or not - they are just asking to have something nice to ask. Proper response - "It's fine". I don't think you need to fake actual joy. I ...


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I'd much sooner lose this job than go against my religion Would it be a good last resort to mention that I'm not able to do this for religious reasons? Yes, mention it. Clearly you have nothing to lose by stating your religious requirements. Remind your manager that you stated during the interview process that you cannot work on Saturdays, and tell them ...


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I have also had these feelings, though I am in a different field which is not gaming. Remember that the younger generation does not have the benefit of all of your years of experience. You can use your experience to become important to your coworkers as a mentor or teacher. This may work to your favor if you can demonstrate to them the methods you have ...


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I am considering bringing this behavior to my manager's attention. Am I over-reacting, or is this as unprofessional as I think it is? I suggest you don't. You are acting as professional and mature as possible. Keep doing that. This person seems to be acting unprofessionally, and that is their loss. Your reply was not rude nor snarky in my opinion (if any, ...


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If this is in the U.S., it would be against federal law to require that you (a religious adherent) work on the Sabbath. Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits employment discrimination based on religion... an employee needs accommodation of a religious belief that working on his Sabbath is prohibited https://www.eeoc.gov/laws/guidance/what-...


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Is this normal? It's unusual. But of course it depends on the personality of the company owner. But what does it matter if it's "normal" or "abnormal"? The owner of the company gets to decide how the company works - normal or not. Now you get to decide if you want to work that way, or find a new company (with a new owner).


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Help them (by answering the question) to help you. Do not, I repeat, do not expect people to be happy (or waiting) to help you (even if they say so). Everyone has their own responsibilities to be taken care of and helping you may not be on their priority list (most of the cases). If you ask questions which should be answered by a tutorial / googling or needs ...


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I faced similar problems. The gaming-industry is special in that regard. Young people will work out of enthusiasm, as long as they are provided enough money for a bed and cheap food. This does not apply to anyone who gets older — as you noticed. Furthermore technical, tool-specific skills will not age well in this industry. Young people will enter the ...


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Would it be a good last resort to mention that I'm not able to do this for religious reasons, or should I just turn in my notice? Yes, by all means tell your manager the real reasons why you can't work on Saturdays. To be honest you should have told them this earlier (I would have done it since asked if I could work Saturdays), so they don't think that you ...


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I found this interaction very offensive and unprofessional. It was. It's one thing to ask this question, it's another to do that in front of an audience. That sends its own message and compounded with the other behaviour you describe it sounds like it could be deliberate. Certainly the fact that your reports have expressed support in the face of those ...


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Since I'm still relatively new, I get asked the question often "how are you liking the job?". Should I just say I like it even though it's not true? Honesty is great but like all principles usually comes with a price tag. In this case the price tag for admitting that you are unhappy can put your employment in jeopardy. If you decide to be honest ...


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No, it's not normal, and it should be a huge red flag to you. even if we foresee a problem then it will be his problem to own He's being disingenuous. If you foresee a problem and don't raise it, then you will be the one thrown under the bus when it actually blows up. If you foresee a problem and do raise it, you'll face his wrath. Not a good choice, but ...


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This is I think going to be unpopular.... For software at my work we hire FIRST for subject matter expertise, it is easier to teach C and Assembly (Yes, and the rudiments of small core embedded dev) than it is to teach live TV workflow and the gnarly problems that ops people have to deal with sometimes. An OK programmer who understands how the domain ...


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It's very simple (and let's keep it that way): If you're okay with that timeslot, send an acknowledgement. If you're not okay, request for an alternate time. Wondering "why" they scheduled without confirming with you first - well, there can be multiple reasons, starting from as simple as a sloppy recruiter (one individual) from a poor company ...


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Just replace in your signature "Sam Smith" with "Mrs. Sam Smith" or "Miss Sam Smith" or "Mr. Sam Smith". Whether you want do that depends on whether your gender agrees with what the average prejudiced person would expect due to your position and name. Also applies if you have a foreign name where the average person you ...


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When your manager asks you about how you like your job, then that's a great opportunity to point out issues in your work environment. Saying everything is great when things aren't won't lead to any improvement. Many workplaces suffer from organizational blindness to a certain degree. People found ways to arrange themselves with glaring problems in their ...


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When I work with domain experts in my current software engineering job, I tend to prepare yes/no questions I intend to ask by giving context of why I am asking myself a question e.g. link on related issue / ticket / task, what I inferred from it, asking if my understanding is correct or which of my two scenario is the correct one. Similarly if I need ...


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IT is definitely youth-oriented, but not necessarily because older people aren't valued. It's because the demands of keeping up with constantly changing technologies can become overwhelming. I've seen many people transition more into leadership and management as they get older. There's a need for managers who actually have a good understanding of technology. ...


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Chances are you can take their sincerity at face value regarding their enthusiasm for your energy. As somebody who gets approached in this way quite a bit, I can tell you that it is nice to be approached by keen, energetic, interested candidates (You might be surprised what the "average" is like). What I would be mindful of though is, while it's ...


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As I've said multiple times before, you don't get to decide what you do at work, your employer - or more specifically, your current manager - does. The only appropriate thing to do here is to talk to your current manager and say that your old department has asked you to do some work for them. Explain to your manager how long you think the work will take, and ...


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Yes let you manager know, and propose to catch up on work on a Sunday or after hours instead (not that I recommend over-time, but this is to emphasize that you want to work and help the team and not be seen as trying to 'skip' out.)


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Is there anyway I could've handled it better? Any specific phrasing? I think you handled it well, given that you state you asked for it calmly and even tried to empathize with her despite her unprofessional action. Is it better to have these talks one on one or have other people around so they can't say I was harassing them? Unless the situation escalates ...


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No, it's not normal, but you are still obligated to follow this policy. The company pays you to do what they tell you to do. That's what your work contract says. Well managed companies will tell you to do whatever is in the best interest of the company and speak up when you believe they are making a mistake. But unfortunately not all companies are well ...


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Open questions are great for interviews. They're not the right tool for gathering requirements. When you ask, "what are your thoughts on X?", best case scenario is that the expert thinks "oh, wow, I've been doing X for 20 years and this person is asking about my thoughts? Where do I begin?". Worst case scenario, they either assume you ...


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The manager of your project has to deal with this situation. If you are not the manager, you can actually do nothing really useful. If you are the manager, keep reading. escalation done to their seniors with no results There are two mistakes here: You do not escalate to their team, you escalate inside your team. You do not escalate to seniors (whatever ...


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I just so happen to have had this same, strange phenomenon happen to me recently! It's too weird of a coincidence for me not to answer. As was noted in the comments of your question, this is entirely subjective and based on my unique situation. But you asked for similar experiences, and I think this is the definition of that :) When I saw the email invite ...


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Out loud: "I'm liking the job." Inside: "I'm liking the fact that I get paid every week and I don't care enough about any of it to give a rat's ass." You're not being dishonest in the slightest.


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