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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off? To directly answer the question in the title: A polite way to tell him to back off would be to pretend that he made an offer to help. That allows him ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

I have the role of the tech lead / architect of the team, Then act as one. I assume as a lead it's your job to divide up the work, define the tasks, assign them to team members and make sure they ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

As a lead giving negative feedback is part of your job. One way to make giving negative feedback easier would be to flag that it's on the way. E.g. "I have some feedback, it's critical, is now a ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

It's clear from your question that there is a problem, but it's not clear what that is. No matter what it is, however, my advice is: Be a professional. That means doing the right thing for your ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

So the freelancer has more experience in general, more experience in this particular kind of project, he knows everything, and he listens to everything? First thing, have you tried tapping him for ...
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New at a job and it feels like everything is too fast, should I tell my boss?

Subdivide tasks & find a buddy When you first start as a junior, it's easy to be overwhelmed by all of the new information that's being thrown at you. It's also easy to feel like you're stupid ...
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New at a job and it feels like everything is too fast, should I tell my boss?

As a new comer to the company its normal to face information overload. You said that amount of work given is not huge. Then focus only on that work. Its ok if you dont grasp all the information given ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

The best way to say no is "yes, when." So it's simple: I'll be happy to share the report when it's ready. Repeat this, like you're brain dead and can't think of anything else to say, and ...
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New at a job and it feels like everything is too fast, should I tell my boss?

I thought about quitting because am feeling very disappointed in myself and my preforms and I haven't been sleeping well worrying about the job. There are 2 things: 1. Don't Quit and Don't Feel ...
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How to resign in a way that will protect my friend but expose my manager?

You should resign with as little fuss as possible. Doing otherwise will have no benefit. Your early departure will shine a negative light on your friend, since he referred you to the job, and his ...
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New at a job and it feels like everything is too fast, should I tell my boss?

You are being too hard on yourself. What you are going through is very normal and expected. Since you are fresh out of school, you just haven't had this experience yet. The working world is very ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

For the particular example you gave, solving the issue seems simple: tell him where in your repo you've put the code you use to run the tests. (There should also be documentation there about how to ...
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New at a job and it feels like everything is too fast, should I tell my boss?

I feel that it's worth mentioning something else here: Your success, or lack thereof, at work is not dependant on your perception, but the perception of others. You intimate in your question that your ...
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How to resign in a way that will protect my friend but expose my manager?

Since your goal seems to be to help your friend, why don't you ask them? Random strangers on the internet have no idea what may or may not help them in their current situation. They know their boss. ...
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Having difficulty understanding meetings

Based on your question, your English does need an improvement. First you need to think hard about what the problems are and what are the solutions. In general, try to prepare for the meetings. Try to ...
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How to deal with a co-worker who explains your work instead of letting you speak

When I'm dealing with a person who is constantly talking while I have something to say, I just raise my hand, and the best way to do this is raising your hand in front of that colleague and the ...
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How to deal with a co-worker who explains your work instead of letting you speak

First of all: I like Raphaels answer and agree: Let your friend (I'll call him Bob) do the "opening" and the technical overview and intervene if there is something he misses. But I ...
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