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How to deal with a manager who keeps insisting to stay with no clear offer after I have already accepted another company offer? Politely without committing to anything. Once you hand in your resignation they have no way of forcing anything. If they want to spend that time having meetings instead of preparing handover that isn't your problem.


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In my professional experience as a software developer, if there is one skill I would say that is more useful than anything else, it is communication. When you get into your career, you are going to have to work with other people, share your ideas, explain to your boss what you are doing, and convince others of your point of view. This means being able to ...


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You use the broken record method. Whatever they say, your answer is “I have given my notice, and my last day of work is the 6th of June”. If they ask why you are leaving you say “I have given my notice, and my last day of work is the 6th of June”. If they ask what it takes to make you stay you say “I have given my notice, and my last day of work is the 6th ...


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Something to keep in mind, in a lot of cultures the first name is actually the surname. So when you say "first name" you are actually confusing a whole range of cultures surnames and given names. Which is ironic given the question. It's best just to be direct. "Please call me Bob" is better than "Bob is my first name". A direction is clearer than a ...


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If the facts are with you, argue the facts. If the law is with you, argue the law. If nothing is with you, just argue. ————— old lawyer's proverb This is the sound of them having nothing to offer you. They can't offer a serious money raise, or they would have offered it already. They can't place you in a job role you find fulfilling, or they would have ...


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I am afraid that when you get a job in IT you do spend quite a bit of time writing reports, doing presentations etc. Therefore, this course will give you the tools necessary for working in IT. Please put more effort into it.


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I've had this happen to - people assume my last name is my first name as it would be a guys name but I'm a girl. It's tricky when you're communicating via email but usually I just sign off the email: Thanks [firstname] [firstname][surname] - Data Scientist, [Company Name] Usually that makes it pretty clear.


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You've accepted another offer, you've given your leave and you're moving on. There's nothing they can do about it. You don't need to tell them anything. If they ask where you're going you can simply say that you had 'another opportunity' and you've made up your mind. If they try to make offers to get you to say, you can simply thank them and decline to stay. ...


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How to deal with a manager who keeps insisting to stay with no clear offer after I have already accepted another company offer? Try something like: "Thank you. But no." Repeat as often as necessary.


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College is not a vocational school. The expectation in higher learning is that your primary degree is not the end-all-be-all of a well rounded education. And yes, there are a lot of soft skills and ancillary knowledge that is important in a technology path because you will ultimately be dealing with people, and people are not machines. Also keep in mind ...


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In France it is almost the norm to use Firstname LASTNAME. While initially this looks weird, it helped numerous Jean MARC or Paul MARTIN to convey what is what. Looking at it from an international perspective, it usually works. We still get cases where both are mixed, especially in the case where Firstname is a common last name in the other country. Extra ...


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Usually, I use polite and subtle ways to correct people, e.g. using PS When someone gets a name or other important fact (job title, etc) about you wrong, the most effective way to correct it is head-on, quickly and to the point. It's not really the time for subtlety or passiveness. Assertively correct the fact, before moving on with the conversation. So in ...


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I'm at the tail end of a 36 year career in programming. With the exception of two years as a group lead, I've been on the technical side the whole time. Easily a quarter of my work life has been spent writing and making presentations: status reports, progress reports, documentation, architecture proposals, responding to technical questions from users, code ...


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Simple: you explain what will happen and give them a choice. Boss, with only one resource on the team, Project Foo will take a year to complete. This will block Initiative Bar, so we won't be ready by the end of year, and this is likely to cost us up to $1M in sales. If I can hire another person, this would cost us $100,000 all in, but we could ...


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I would write a formal email to my manager along the lines of: As you know, I have decided to quit this company to pursue my personal career goals. I greatly appreciate your ongoing engagement to keep me on board, and it shows me how much the company values my work. Unfortunately, I have made my decision and committed myself elsewhere and I don’t break my ...


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Do software developers ever use any skills not relating to STEM (Science, technology, engineering, mathematics) subjects? You could also ask "Do people ever use any non-technical skills?" The answer is always yes (with varying degree) unless you're the sole administrator of a Fallout bunker where no one but you is around. You do need to communicate with ...


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Unless you are limited to only one question a day, you fix this with followup questions. Was it you who put that database change live this morning? Yes. Don't stop here! There must be a reason you asked. Consider this question sort of a topic-setter for what you want to talk about. Why did it go live this morning, when my calendar says it will be ...


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He immediately told his boss, but he did not find any solution. I also know (informally) that some big boss asked why there is such a big attrition rate in that department (generally the company culture is great and the attrition rate is quite small), so managers are struggling to keep all folks in place. scheduled a few other 1:1 meetings to ...


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How to deal with a manager who keeps insisting to stay with no clear offer after I have already accepted another company offer? Be polite with him. It looks to me that he's making a real (although maybe a clumsy one) effort to keep you. Problem is, in the workplace is not always possible to do what one feels is good. He is feeling very likely much ...


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Short answer: There is a world of difference between KNOWING that you're right and SHOWING that you're right. If you can't make a connection with people through your writing or your presentations, you're not going to get anywhere with your plans or ideas. Humanities can teach you how to make that connection.


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There are plenty of good answers already, but I will still add mine. The first person I've ever fired as a manager was a very smart colleague, who however, would focus to a large extent on what he found interesting largely ignoring the rest. And what he found interesting was the technical/ mathematical aspect of his job. We worked in business, i.e. we didn'...


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Are humanities subjects useless for computer science jobs? Well, since you mention jobs, here’s what a guy named Steve Jobs had to say about applying things he learned as a college dropout still hanging around his old campus and following his curiosity in a seemingly aimless, “useless” fashion by taking random humanities classes: Reed College at that ...


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In short, because you're using a company asset to promote the workplace of a different company. Like you said in your post, you were aware of where your coworkers were going through personal conversations. Which is generally just fine (though you don't want to stray into "Dude, you should check out how great it is over there - they still have openings, you ...


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Because they are my seniors i am terrified of bring this topic during retro or in front of managers. how should i deal with this ? You should not be terrified. In fact, the Retrospective is exactly the place to bring these things up from previous sprints. However, you should also bring it up professionally. A phrasing that comes to mind: Last sprint, I ...


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"he told me to keep only him in the mail and he will initiate the HR process after intimating the HR." Obviously he was lying to you, and never intended to communicate your resignation to HR at all. Quickly collect you own personal copy of all emails between you and our manager, and put them where he cannot cause them to be destroyed. You may need ...


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Tell your IT support. Let them know that you were cleaning and accidentally knocked a heavy object onto the screen. The computer is functional, you are able to work, but the screen is definitely damaged. Ask what you can do to help with getting it fixed. Accept responsibility and let them know. I've been in tech support for multiple years, and the ...


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Some people don't care and don't feel any need to adhere to traditional standards of politeness. That's fine, but I'll answer in the context of a culture that does value politeness (Texas), where people are raised to use their "sirs" and "ma'ams" and suchlike. Just like you don't want to be the worst dressed at a party, you don't want to be the least polite ...


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Do software developers ever use any skills not relating to STEM (Science, technology, engineering, mathematics) subjects? Maybe I'm not even a developer but combining software development with Linguistics got me an audience with a King, made me around 50K and currently has my software in 11 govt departments and every school in a country. The more strings ...


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If I can share some of his burden (exchange tasks) (I prefer this), or If he also work for payment, so I can pay him Suggest option one, not two. If he's normally your sponsor, do not offer to pay him. We are in Vietnam (different cities). I can afford around $20. His day job is full-stack web dev. At that rate, you'd just insult him. Also, ...


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I think the best thing you can do is to change your feelings regarding this. Instead of being annoyed by everything try to be amused instead. Amused that they think you will reconsider. Amused that they want you to stay but offer nothing. Amused they use your time for meetings instead of handover. Amused that they think you are ok with using old technology. ...


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