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At the end of your post, add something like "I have keeping an eye out for a suitable position with my employer for them, but they don't match our current openings so I'd like to help them find a good position elsewhere." That both expresses your loyalty to your employer and to your friend.


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Just to add a different perspective - in some cultural contexts, ellipses can be perceived as less rude than periods as the latter could imply curtness or sternness, while the former implies the speaker is making an open-ended suggestion. I have found this to be the case with some (especially older or less technologically savvy) colleagues in some ...


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Here are some options for you Create a fake account for the group. It is public right, so anyone can basically join with ease? Just make a new account to do this with. Send an email to the HR person asking if they can add your friend to their list of people to hire. Let the HR recruiter at your company in on the scheme. Maybe they know somewhere your ...


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Exposure is your best avenue. I'm a developer in the american midwest - for a long time, we didn't really have a large minority population or a lot of 1st/2nd generation immigrants. My exposure to different accents was pretty limited growing up, and generally limited to east-asian during college. Because of that, when I first started interacting with ...


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I am on the other side of the coin and converse with many developers who are also not English speaking as the primary language. I find two main types of results from these conversations: 1) The developer says outright that they did not understand, don't get it, and sometimes try and paraphrase what they did understand. and 2) they say yes yes yes, go away ...


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It's possible that there's gender issues at play here that you might not be aware of. You mention in the comments that you're a transmale, so it's possible you may not be aware of certain gender dynamics that cismales grow up understanding. In particular, there are many women who are simply afraid of men, especially angry men. When you had your "small tiff",...


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The proper grammatical use of ellipses is not really relevant here. You are asking if use of ellipses is generally intended as, or interpreted as, dismissive or rude. The answer is no, it is not, and there is no point in taking offense at it. In any workplace there are people that use lots of exclamation points, or ellipses, or "scare quotes", or Weird ...


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It may or may not get her fired but it's almost certain to make it works and it's damn sure not going to help resolve her situaion, which is undeniably extremely unpleasant. I can sympathize, I really can - I've been there where I'd have liked nothing more than to ride in like the wrath of god and lay down some harsh words on someone mistreating loved one ...


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I would say there isn't a hard and fast rule — an ellipsis can be safe enough in some situations but not others. The key question is, are you being clear with your tone and is the omitted information completely irrelevant? When you end a sentence with "...", imagine you have replaced with the phrase "there is more, but I won't go into it here". In some ...


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