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I don't want to hear about problems or any complaints Prepare to give a suitable response that fits to your relation to the supervisor. It should express if you ask a question then be prepared to get an honest response -> don't care? then don't ask! Generally if you already did your best to get help without being asked directly and this conversation will ...


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You mention you're from India, and that often you get calls, but they don't lead to interviews. In my experience, they've seen your resume on job portals before calling you. This means your resume is not the problem. If you're getting the phone calls, and not progressing, you should focus on the contents of the phone call. Maybe record the next few and share ...


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I would tackle this from two sides: First, it may sound old-fashioned, but think about taking soft-skill courses on communication - either those given in business context ("Communication for Consultants" or whatever), or more on the medical side (i.e., finding a speech therapist). Large businesses offer support with this kind of thing, and that's ...


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Your problem is not communication. It's self-confidence. I don't think anyone of my team or the organisation that I work for likes me, and I am not sure what to do about it. This is what screams at me that you lack confidence and self belief. It's almost certainly not true. I've worked with people who nobody liked, but they are usually utterly obnoxious ...


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I'm also a non-native English speaker, but even in my own native language, I used to have a stutter (and when I was a baby, it took me an extra year to even say my first word). Now, I did outgrow my stutter and I did go through years of speech therapy, but I honestly can't tell you if speech therapy really helped me outgrow my stutter. The fact is, many ...


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You are in IT, so you'll appreciate the simplicity of the solution Fix the problem Communicating effectively isn't about being older, having a family, or studying. It is about: Having a clear idea Sending that idea to someone else Receiving feedback that confirms the idea in their head sounds like the idea in your head. Communication isn't the sending of ...


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Reframe your concept of communication. Communication is a two-way street, and if fails when one or both parties forgets that rule. In most instances where I've observed someone lose a job, it's due to their inability to listen, not their inability to speak to their point of view. If you have to repeat yourself more than twice, something about what you're ...


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I'm in the tech industry but I'm also a writer so my perspective comes from that. I'm very good at communicating my ideas (usually). I suggest that you: Read Poetics by Aristotle. It's a very short book (maybe 60-80 pages at most) and it will teach you how to understand the fundementals of storytelling which will then make it easier for you to tell a story. ...


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Have you considered that your problems might be due to an actual physical or mental disability? I think the first thing you should do is get yourself evaluated by an appropriate professional. This has two benefits. In the short term, your employer may have trouble firing you, given provisions of the Americans with Disabilities Act and so on. As I ...


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I keep repeat the same point over and over. Is it possible you have palilalia? Palilalia is an involuntary repetition of your own sentences. This is something you could start by asking your GP about. You could also ask about the possibility of having other neurodivergent traits such as autism. I mention this because the way that you formatted your question ...


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Toastmasters Toastmasters has already been mentioned in other answers (which I upvoted), but I can't emphasize it enough. I have been a member since 2014 and it has made the difference for me - going from freaking out & unprepared every time I (reluctantly) spoke in public to being confident and able to give a speech when it really matters. I didn't give ...


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Stuttering is nothing to be ashamed of; it is a medical disorder that can be improved significantly with proper medical treatment. I strongly recommend seeking out a speech therapist who's experienced with stuttering. I particularly recommend the Precision Fluency Shaping Program, which helped me personally with my stuttering. If you have a long-standing ...


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Be very good at your job. Provide value to your employer. Other answers address the communications skills. That's very important. But regardless, being good at your job will make a big difference in how people react to these issues. People may still not like you, but they'll need you. If I need to choose between someone who'll politely suggest that I turn ...


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I think I detected another problem that may be underneath the surface. You mentioned wanting to move into management as a way to further your career. Since this is primarily a role based around communication, that might be a poor fit if you feel communication is not your strong point. You also mentioned working on an MBA / PhD degree. Sorry, but the tech ...


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When communication is concerned, you cannot learn it passively. If you want to learn to communicate, you must communicate. YouTube videos, lectures, papers, books can tell you what to do - but you still must do it. There are a couple of organisations that give you that experience. One that I've been involved with for a while is Toastmasters. I'm sure there ...


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If English isn't your primary language then you do indeed have sub par communication skills. Your English is good enough, but you're not paying enough attention. When you're in a minority it's not enough to be as good as others, you HAVE to be better. No lazy spelling, clear enunciation, think before you communicate, communicate confidently. Mostly it's just ...


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No, you should not quit the job. (To answer your question) The first immediate thing you can do is to talk directly to your boss and describe your long history of difficulty in doing business presentations to a big group of audiences. This may reduce your chance of getting fired. I don't think you should get fired over this if your management is clearly ...


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Hire someone professionally to assist you You mentioned "repeat the same point over and over" and "look at YouTube videos". These are relatively poor solutions to a speech problem. There are professional speech therapist that can help with this. Check with your family doctor for reference or the local community center. Since you have not ...


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The gist of my answer is: Find out if this is a realistic task, one you would like to do and good for your professional career. If not, look for a new job. As already suggested I would also suggest to talk to your boss first. And in a more informal way to your colleagues to get a better "assessment" about how they would feel about these changes. ...


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At my last job, we had a very friendly culture, as well as a very helpful one towards each other. As a result, we found ourselves asking questions and going long in the tooth in our explanations of things we were working on. Once we realized that it was becoming a problem, and causing our 15 minute stand-up to go on for an hour, we knew we had to make a ...


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Take notice of a few things first: 1- Who creates the good opportunities? If the star employee is doing all the cool stuff that was listed long ago or if management/clients do so independently from him, then we may proceed with the answers you might be expecting. Nonetheless, if your colleague is the one who comes up with the ideas for doing exciting things ...


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I'm assuming that this is the same 3-month course opportunity you discussed here How can I tell my Line Manager that I want to leave as the work as I don't feel passionate about it given what had happen/is happening. I like to come back to the company (and not burn my bridges) when they are ready as I feel like during these 50 days my skills and knowledge ...


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The best opportunity you have is the one you make. I started out as the junior programmer in a group with a senior that had been with the group since the beginning. Generally, if upper management was excited about something getting done from our area, they'd go to him. After all, if upper management is interested in it, they're going to want the highest (...


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Unless you truly did make a mistake or truly "dropped the ball" in terms of working with this coworker, I wouldn't be so fast in taking responsibility for the damaged relationship. Now, if your coworker's behavior really is "out of the blue" as your narrative indicates, then here's what I'd suggest: Assume your coworker has an axe to ...


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Call it out as a blocker during the meeting. The purpose of a stand up is to discuss what you did yesterday, what you're going to do today, and anything that might block your ability to do either. A teammate wasting everyone's time by waffling on and on in meetings counts as a blocker, because time you spend listening to them is time you're not spending ...


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You move forward with it by accepting that you are the actual problem in many ways. You have a damaged relationship, and in order to get started, you have to forget how it got damaged. You have to accept that it is damaged, and you have a responsibility to repair it. This sounds incredibly unfair on the surface. You feel you're not at fault for it. You feel ...


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A systems view: the person's behavior is at least partially driven by the environment and structure around them. So, in addition to some of the ideas posted already, consider changing the structure. If they are giving an hour-by-hour update on their day, then something in the structure tells them that this is appropriate. You can enforce the timebox to show ...


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Flex your moderator skills - moderation of the diverse scrum artifacts is part of your job as scrum master. In your next daily, lead in somewhat like this: In the past, we often talked about all kinds of things. Let's try to focus now; everybody just quickly list off which story you worked on yesterday; which one you will be talking about today; and which ...


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"Thank you for taking an interest in furthering my career and growth. However, my direct superior thinks CompY's training will benefit me, and thus the company, better, and has already appropriated the funds from our team's budget and has instructed me to enroll in that training." Any further "fishing attempts" by the other manager should ...


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The other group's manager is completely out of line Your training regimen is none of their business, and their entire comment smacks of jealousy. It is possible that they have mismanaged their own group’s budget or scheduling, and as a result, you completing the training will reflect badly on that other group, which was unable to organize itself. That said, ...


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Already a good answer. My addition is not to take this at face value. It's beyond their role for this other manager to do this, so they have an agenda. Most likely it's to do with budget, you'll be setting a precedent which his/her team may want to emulate so the manager might follow up. Don't get involved, politely direct all enquiries to your manager to ...


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This is not your problem. If asked, you can thank them for their advice, but state that your manager has confirmed that you should take the Company Y training. If they're still unhappy for some reason, direct them to your manager. That said, unless the training cost comes out of the other manager's budget or something, it's unlikely that they will care ...


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So first of all, as someone with ADHD, thanks for asking the question. The answers provided are pretty solid, but I'm adding this answer mostly to provide some insight because I see parallels in your co-workers requests that mirror things for me. There's a lot of little things associated with ADHD that the acronym does a very poor job reflecting. One of the ...


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Show that person Grammerly They will thank you. Best writing app ever.


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"When can i expect an update on the below tasks?" I have received such messages from different guys in the past 20+ years. If this common question could make me anger, then I hate the whole world! If you do not skip or miss some more information, then I would consider it should be something else to make him "unpredictable". If I were you, ...


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It's difficult to sell such a concept. Ideally you actually have a viable service before you start cold-contacting people. This would mean having suitably qualified/certified people to do the work in specific languages. Some govts retain similar businesses to help interact with their consultants, but private industry seems less likely to. A least that's how ...


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There are already some great answers about how to handle this situation assuming it's a security restriction at your company. However, I've been in the exact same situation at a highly regulated company and the resolution was very different from the answers above. The IT help team assumed since my package downloads were blocked, that I was trying to download ...


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If you want to install python libraries to support your own learning, that can be done on a separate computer, not connected to the company network. You could get a cheap computer and monitor, install things at home, get an internet connection through mobile data using your own phone. Completely separate from your company network. IT should be able to lock ...


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The IT department that you are portraying as clueless is actually correct, and you are the one who is (excuse my harshness) clueless. You can't just download a runnable computer program from the web without thoroughly vetting it because it could contain malware that could destroy or greatly damage your company. By default, you should be blocked from ...


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You hint at the answer in your question: it's literally going to add weeks to developing any little POC. What you do is give realistic estimates to your boss. "This would usually take me a week to do, but given X, Y, and Z hoops we have to jump through here, it's going to take 4 to 6 months" This way you put the ball in your boss's court. Do ...


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As others have noted, it is not unreasonable especially for large, conservative, and regulated companies to be cautious of security and/or licensing risks with third-party code and to want to have some process in place to manage that. What is unreasonable is to do it in a way that entirely destroys productivity by requiring a lengthy process where IT must ...


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You need to change your perspective. Don't call that opinion, because it's not their opinion, it's their security policy. And you're not going to change that policy, because it was established on the higher level. You need to learn to deal with it. You are not restricted from using the libraries only because you need to ask for the permission. The normal ...


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We've got exactly the same in the Eastern Europe. The appeals and parades with long boring speeches about the superiority of the socialism and perpetual friendship with the CCCP. Of course they were obligatory, in workspace and in the school. Children learned by heart poems praising the greatness of the communism. The people in charge were fully engaged. You'...


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There could be a basic misunderstanding in IT's answer. Here is an answer from a software engineering perspective. IT's answer that there could be anything in open source libraries is basically correct and our cognitive bias prevents us from understanding the threats, which are two. As correctly stated by @MichaelMcFarlane, uncontrolled use of open source ...


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In my experience (in over a decade contracting in banks and government departments), the trick is to find other developers in your organization and find out as much as you can about their workflow and the level of access they've been granted. If you can prove that whatever you want is functionally equivalent to what someone else already has then your request ...


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Ask for sandboxing of the development team if possible I assume that you are in a highly regulated environment of some sort as I have never encountered this level of bureaucracy and I worked in both banking and government where we handled financial information. However, what they did in banking to allow us to do this was to sandbox our team away from ...


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They are really slow at turning things around. I would focus on this bit. Asking for the freedom to pip install any library you want with no oversight will likely be a non-starter but you should be able to make a case for streamlining the approval process. Explain why it's important that the new hire has access to these tools and how not having them is ...


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This is not as odd as you think. Companies have been burned when employees download software with no controls, so I've personally seen IT restrictions grow. I can see at least two issues that you need to address specifically. One, using open-source code can cause your work products to become open source. It all depends on their respective licenses. Do your ...


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Software development has a practice called pair programming, where two programmers sit on a single computer and write the code together. Perhaps you could try "pair writing" the report together, if your colleague is OK with such an intense collaboration session.


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If those hours are not acceptable, then take it up with your manager, not the CEO. How hard you can/should push depends on the culture where you are. Here in Norway I can imagine it could be pretty hard*. Handling this kind of thing is what middle managers are for. One thing that stand out to me, because I am prone feel like this as well. You feel like they ...


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