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How do I deal with an autistic employee who criticizes teammates publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?

Full disclosure: I am autistic (Asperger's syndrome) and I have fought hard not to be the guy you are describing. BE BLUNT, BE DIRECT, BE FACTUAL, STAY ON POINT We have a great deal of difficulty ...
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How will losing mobility of one hand affect my career as a programmer?

It need not have a significant impact. Many programmers work with medical issues ranging from quadriplegia, to blindness, to carpal tunnel syndrome. Some programmers have long and productive careers ...
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As a stutterer I have been asked to move into Management

The people who want to promote you know that you stutter. You have discussed this with them and they, who have promoted many people to management in the past, feel it is not an issue. As you say, it ...
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How and when should I disclose that I'm deaf?

Let me start by stating that I understand the difficulties you face. While not profoundly deaf, I am legally deaf -- just over the threshold. When I first graduated college I had a lot of concerns ...
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Should I disclose a 'learning disability' (dyslexia) to my employer?

You should talk to your manager or HR contact to make sure that they understand your situation. In many cases, if you are in good standing and a valuable (potential) employee, they will work with you ...
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How will losing mobility of one hand affect my career as a programmer?

I am a web developer, and I lack the use of both hands and wrists due to quadriplegia. You need not fear that losing the use of a hand excludes you from the programming field. As you say, there is ...
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How, and when, should I explain to potential employers that I have a severe digestive disorder?

Wait until they've made an offer. This gets you past any potential biases from a recruiter/HR person/etc. that you most likely won't work with in your day to day job. If they rescind the offer, it's ...
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What is the etiquette to follow when writing a farewell message for a co-worker leaving permanently on disability?

"It was a pleasure working with you. Wish you all the best." No need to make a song and dance about the disability. Write the farewell message exactly as you would in normal circumstances.
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How do I deal with an autistic employee who criticizes teammates publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?

I'm autistic, and by coincidence our workplace autism support group recently discussed this kind of issue. As a generalisation, autistic people are often prone to accidental rudeness, because we don'...
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How will losing mobility of one hand affect my career as a programmer?

I used to work with a developer who was missing most of his right hand. He had some of his index finger, and a thumb, both very small and weak compared to his good hand, and no other fingers on that ...
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Is skipping an online code test and instead having a probationary period a reasonable accommodation?

Question: would it be a reasonable accommodation to ask HRs to skip this LeetCode part altogether and replace it with a remote-work probationary period, working with real tasks, paying me their ...
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I have been invited to join a diversity team: What are the advantages and disadvantages?

Diversity teams are rapidly becoming a common response by companies that are realizing that their culture is affected negatively by not being intentional about cultivating the simplest of processes to ...
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Should I inform interviewers before calling me that I stutter?

Since you've already noticed that phone screens don't go well when the interviewer isn't forewarned, you have little to lose by telling them. I recommend working on a sentence to include in the email ...
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What's the best way to introduce new staff to existing staff members' disability and health needs?

I would stretch the introduction over several days. I recently experienced an exciting first day at a new workplace and was introduced to approximately 50 co-workers. I was so overwhelmed that I ...
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Should I disclose a 'learning disability' (dyslexia) to my employer?

As they say in the Military, "Never lie, but never volunteer information that you were not asked for." This is my opinion based on my 35 years in the workforce, 25 of which has been in technology. ...
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How to deal with an intellectually disabled co-worker who gets nothing done?

Be nice to him, patient. He has enough problems and deserves respect for trying and not blowing up with frustration every day. Limitations like this are usually well known when hiring and they're not ...
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How do I deal with an autistic employee who criticizes teammates publicly and doesn't understand the harm in doing so?

If the employee was not autistic, you could point out facts and lead them to the conclusion you want: When all those people read that it was Mark who caused the problems, that lowered Mark's ...
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Boss wants to terminate my wife for using crutches and making his department seem "less energetic"

That's a tricky one. In essence your wife's boss has given her the keys to the Ferrari but you need to consider carefully what you want to do with it. What her boss has done is clearly illegal ...
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How will losing mobility of one hand affect my career as a programmer?

I'm a software engineer too. I broke my right humerus a couple of years ago and the inflammation ended up pinching off nerves and leaving my whole right arm a useless floppy noodle for months. I ...
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How to deal with disabled coworker who wastes time in office?

I work in the US. I have to develop some software with a disabled coworker (self declared, has disability parking card etc). If your coworker has a placard, he's not self-declared. It is ...
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What's the best way to introduce new staff to existing staff members' disability and health needs?

Full disclosure: I have multiple handicaps, including one mentioned in your question, I'm profoundly deaf in my left ear. I understand your quandary. Ironically, the efforts to make more inclusive ...
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How to deal with an intellectually disabled co-worker who gets nothing done?

Try something else than writing the instructions into his phone. If he forgets where to bring the printing paper and tries to look it up in the phone, he gets distracted and cannot remember what he ...
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How do disabled individuals evacuate multi-storey buildings in an emergency?

Someone I know works in a multi-storey building, and their evacuation plan for those who cannot safely evacuate themselves (e.g. wheelchair users, people with broken legs in casts, etc. who become ...
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How to deal with disabled coworker who wastes time in office?

There are 2 causes for this employees behavior: Medication Motivation I once worked with someone on medication for schizophrenia. The person explained to us (the whole team) that the meds make them ...
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Can my employer require me to refrain from wearing headphones (disability issue)

It doesn't sound like you're being singled out for wearing headphones, it sounds like you're being singled out because your wearing headphones caused a customer to feel ignored by a store employee. ...
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What does an Employer want to see when considering a candidate with High Functioning Autism?

Full disclosure: I have Asperger's Sydrome, a form of high functioning autism. Given the exposure autism has had in recent years, we are no longer treated as if we have some contagious disease. That ...
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How do disabled individuals evacuate multi-storey buildings in an emergency?

At my last job (big company, occupied full buildings), they had EVAC+CHAIR at the stairways. These are operated by two people (or, apparently, only one might be enough), can be assembled quickly and ...
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Is it bad faith to quit after getting rejected for a leave of absence?

Instead they told me to apply for short term disability through our benefits package. So it seems your company has an official way to deal with that and they know about it. I can find nothing bad ...
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