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Might lose job and have no income due to insulting my coworker

Let me preface this by saying that I am in several "protected groups" and have dealt with workplace discrimination based on that. Including having been told that "They shouldn't be ...
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Dealing with a racist work environment

Start looking for a new job. As soon as you have found one, put in your notice and get out as fast as possible. It is very unlikely that these people will change anytime soon, and you certainly don't ...
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Accused of racism for refusing to name room after foreign name that sounds like an offensive phrase

I would personally use both her first and her last name, and do the same for everyone else in the raffle. While not bigoted per se, refusing to treat all entrants the same is a problem in the ...
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Is it discriminatory to put "bonus" video game skills in a job advertisement?

Is this discriminatory? No, probably not. Is it inappropriate to put in a job ad? Yes, most definitely. First, I'm going to assume that your colleague just wants to include the "bonus" section for ...
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How do I address poor performance that is exacerbated by religious practices?

Stick to the facts. How do you know it is their religion that is causing the issue? It could very well be some form of issue with their home life, or maybe they lost "the spark" and are not happy ...
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Dealing with a racist work environment

If you want to keep your job and don't want to lie, your last remaining option is basically not getting involved. Engage with them professionally, make sure to communicate a lot about your actual job ...
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Giving feedback to someone without sounding prejudiced

As long as you kept your feedback limited to the things she did, what the effect of those things were and what she could do to get a better outcome I don't see how anything you have said could be ...
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Is it discriminatory to put "bonus" video game skills in a job advertisement?

Suppose the hiring manager was a woman and she announced that she thought the ideal candidate for the IT role was someone who had worked needlepoint as a hobby. Oh, and scrapbooked. It would fit the "...
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Conflict between one employee's claim of religious freedom and another's sexual orientation

How do I handle this conflict between Helen's religious freedom and Mark's sexual orientation? There is simply no conflict here. Religious freedom doesn't mean you are allowed to "insult" or "talk ...
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Should I disclose a 'learning disability' (dyslexia) to my employer?

You should talk to your manager or HR contact to make sure that they understand your situation. In many cases, if you are in good standing and a valuable (potential) employee, they will work with you ...
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Problematic employee that can't be fired

If you're dealing with someone that has problems with social interaction and social cues, one thing to do is ask yourself: Do they comply with instructions? The reason I ask that is because... well, ...
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Accused of racism for refusing to name room after foreign name that sounds like an offensive phrase

Here's a simple solution (for you): pass the buck. You can just follow through on the original plan of the promotion and name the conference room after her. I'd expect management to object to the ...
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CEO ridiculed me with gay jokes and grabbed me and wouldn't let go - now getting pushed out of company

You need a lawyer What you have experienced is sexual harassment. You are being further victimized by having your career damaged by this person. You need a lawyer HR will not be your friend here. ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I think you should mention your name change in the resume or something like John Doe (Formerly Known as Jane Doe). I understand the risk of possible discrimination but if your potential employer ...
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Might lose job and have no income due to insulting my coworker

There is already a great answer on this, but I just want to add my perspective, in the hope that it may help you in future situations. Your question is very aggressive sounding. Even your question ...
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In the United States is racial, ethnic, or national preference an acceptable hiring practice for departments or companies in some situations?

No, it's not. Discrimination laws are written without regard to which group a party belongs to. Meaning that if a perceived minority discriminates, it's just as illegal. You've specifically stated ...
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How do I address poor performance that is exacerbated by religious practices?

I think you should not touch religious ground here at all. One, because it is totally irrelevant, two, because you can get yourself into all kinds of legal difficulties. Why is it irrelevant? Because ...
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Accused of racism for refusing to name room after foreign name that sounds like an offensive phrase

How can I defuse this situation without seeming insensitive or intolerant? What am I doing wrong? Unless you are willing to follow through on the terms of your fundraiser, you're going to have a ...
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Are children a reason to be rejected for a job?

(It is in dispute if this answer is suitable for Germany) Are children a reason to be rejected for a job? Yes. Are children a VALID reason to be rejected for a job? No. How can I prove they ...
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Told boss about racist remarks coworker made, but they don't want HR involved. What do I do?

From your point of view, this seems to be a clear case of harassment. You don't mention the country - in many countries this would be a huge problem for the harasser, and it could become a problem for ...
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(When) should you step in to defend a minority?

this would be a male manager speaking on behalf on a female shop-floor worker. Absolutely, as a manager you back up your workers regardless of their gender or anything else. You don't let people ...
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Conflict between one employee's claim of religious freedom and another's sexual orientation

You are completely misunderstanding what religious discrimination is. A law against discrimination means you can't treat people differently for being religious (or make rules that conflict with a ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

Background checking rarely happens at the resume shortlisting stage. It usually happens closer to the end of the hiring process. Keep your preferred name in the resume. When a company wants to make ...
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Might lose job and have no income due to insulting my coworker

If I were you, I would contact an employment lawyer specializing in discrimination cases and ask them to write an evidence "preservation letter" to the legal counsel of your company. For a ...
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How do I address poor performance that is exacerbated by religious practices?

Standard caveat - I'm not a lawyer and therefore can't even begin to advise on any potential legal outcomes (speak to a lawyer or ask on Law.SE if you need any guidance there). It's a very, very ...
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How to address a transgender coworker and accomodate their toilet needs?

If a person changes their name from "Jake" to "Richard" then they expect to be called "Richard" from then on. If you insist on calling this person "Jake" because he's just "a Jake pretending to be a ...
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How to respond to caste-based discrimination in the workplace?

Firstly, you have excellently written about the problems faced by a significant chunk of people in India. Fortunately, I haven't faced any. But, my dad faced the same situations at his workplace ...
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Is it discriminatory to put "bonus" video game skills in a job advertisement?

No discrimination. Yes, you're overreacting. ...and you diminish a very important protection mechanism with banal nonsense ! In fact employers are free to chose their employees' suitable ...
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Should I mention my name change in my resume, when it would expose me as Transgender?

I'm in a very similar position and also work in a management position with responsibility for hiring. From my experience, the fence sitting of employers is a real thing so what I did: Inform ...
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Do I have to attend a "Queer Town" workshop?

An I obligated to attend this workshop? If it is paid and on company time, and part of a larger initiative and not just you personally, then yes. You are. I know you cannot discriminate against ...
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