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You forgot the fourth approach which is all 3. First you talk to your tech lead and tell them about your deficiencies. You make them understand you know you aren't ideal on the project and you're ready to do whatever you need to do to contribute and make the project a success. Second, you talk to the other dev and go straight for the honesty. Accept the &...


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Go for verbal references If it's printed off, it's easy for the company to use against people if they choose to. Trying to prove that someone had a conversation with someone else though? That's hard. And you can't be fired for cause based on the suspicion that you might have done it. Most companies are OK with actually talking to your co-workers for ...


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I've worked in such places as a senior engineer/manager and I'll admit - I've done the same. Provided references upon request and been willing to suffer the consequences if I had to. I've done so because I really felt that the rule was an unfair hardship to the engineers working in the company as their first job - who largely don't have a bench of ...


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I've worked for exactly ONE company who had this approach. There was even a proviso that we couldn't give references even after our employment was over. I got calls. I handled it as such: "Company ABC has a policy prohibiting giving references. I cannot tell you how much I valued John Smith's work in my department. I cannot tell you how many great ...


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Yes. Take him up on the offer. ASAP. The company may collapse tomorrow. You're already looking to get out, so take the help. I'd suggest silently not signing the new workplace agreement if at all possible. Say you will read it and sign it, take it, file it away, and ignore it. This technique works wonders on 9/10 Hr departments, especially those which have ...


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Is it safe/smart to take up this offer? Safe perhaps not, that depends on a lot (how stable the company job is, how much other jobs there are in your region and your field etc). But smart yes. All else aside, simply for the reason that your bosses cannot be allowed to have any success with this. If they learn that they can treat you like their personal ...


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Of course your company is being unethical by definition as it is not following standards of conduct in the software industry. The standard is that the company doesn't ban private references. Is it safe/smart to take up this offer? You're like a passenger on the Titanic asking if it's smart or safe to get into a lifeboat. Is it safe? Yes. The new employer ...


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Just some quick advice: In a physical office, lots of interpersonal communication just 'happens'. People go grab a coffee, and stop over at the new guy's desk on the way back to say hello and introduce themselves. Conversations happen with people in your vicinity that you might be included in automatically or you can easily join. People might invite you out ...


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Most of your perceived issues don't exist unless you invent them for yourself. Your main problem will be staying motivated and working. It's extremely easy when working remotely to slack off and procrastinate. And the company will be looking for people doing that. The company will have professionals outlining procedures and keeping everyone in touch. Follow ...


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Set up yourself a dedicated place in your home where you work. I find this helps manage the work/home aspect of things and stick to it. Otherwise integrating in an organisation is quite variable as there may or may not be a compagny identity. If there are unofficials ways to communicate with outers in more 'private' groups or such things it might be a good ...


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There are some steps you should immediately take to protect yourself from being terminated and losing your ability to control your future, as at seems like there is some possibility that your manager is preparing to terminate you. This is especially important if you want to find another position at the same university: it might be very hard to find another ...


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Don't worry about it. Business is business. If the company was going underwater, do you think they would give a second thought to terminating you? If you do, you're naive and you need to snap out of it, because the answer is a thorough and resounding NO. And thus, you should treat them with the exact same amount of respect they treat you, which is none. ...


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Don't needlessly limit yourself. Three reasons I say this: "job offer which is so good that I can't turn it down" "I'm aware that my manager, the leadership team, and my coworkers all consider me a top performing employee." Over the last 2 months, many of the top performing employees have left my current company. In other words, your ...


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Nope there is very little you can do to cushion the blow just hand in your notice work out your notice period and then leave that's it. Never try to be super nice and helpful when leaving any org as they will take advantage of this for sure. Be formal, here's my notice this is how long this is what I think my end date should be that's it. If you had someone ...


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The blow will be bad, no matter what you do, but there are some things you can do to minimise it: Do it sooner rather than later Management is working hard on a plan for the future. Right now, that plan includes you. They might be thinking up new structures, where you play a specific role. Knowing as soon as possible that you won’t be around will save them ...


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I'm seeing a very similar situation whereby employees are switching employer to those that have coped better, and more professionally, with the current economic situation. If your employer had better understood business needs, who were the competent employees, and more importantly how they were feeling they'd have made a better job of it. Besides, with a '...


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When I give 2-weeks notice to my manager, and when I'm talking to my coworkers who will be very upset that I'm leaving, is there anything I can do to cushion the blow? You can offer some of your colleagues to ask at your new place if they are looking for more people, though you will want to do that off current employers property, time and comms. Besides ...


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