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In the end you need to do what's right for you. Just explain that you are going to go on and further your education and so this is what you're doing. As for the timing--put it back on them. Explain that you would have given more notice had they extended the offer earlier. But you were waiting for the offer to make your intentions known. You owe ...


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What should I do? Find your next job Get and accept a formal offer Give the required notice Work out the notice period Put this job in the past You aren't ethically bound to work for a company doing things that are against your morals.


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TL;DR - Get out, soon. Did anyone has been in this situation? A very close friend of mine. How things went by when you refused to do such kind of unethical activities? Did you get punished indirectly? Things did not turn out to be good for him, he faced lots of internal push-back next, when he refused to take part in this unethical wrongdoing. ...


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As a person with "hidden" disabilities myself, I would appreciate if, instead of telling her (you would probably unintentionally communicate a botched version of my disability and how it affects me at work), you let me know (in private) that "When I used to work here I overheard you and manager discussing your problems with X, I have now heard that some ...


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He probably does not want to put the request in writing because he knows that can get subpoenaed later. I think there are two steps for you to take: Document what you have been asked to do. Write down the dates of these directives and these conversations to the best of your memory. You should also backup the email exchanges this request has been alluded to, ...


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I am not a lawyer, but this seems to go beyond the ethical realm into a legal one. I work in IT, and my manager is trying to get my coworker and I to submit a falsified security scan to a client of ours. This sounds like fraud. Contact a lawyer immediately to determine how best you can protect yourself, and to find out if you have done anything that ...


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This is definitely not a common practice for all companies. It's also a gigantic red flag for your future working conditions - if they're prepared to lie to their clients like that, then how can you trust anything they say to you? This is an employer you should leave as soon as you can line up a new job, and never look back at. Don't get caught up in their ...


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...he tried to make me feel bad for not telling him beforehand. He basically took for granted that I would accept their offer and keep working for them. He wants me to keep working until mid August in order for him to find another person to take my place, and not to fall behind on work when he leaves for his vacation this summer. Your boss is a short-...


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Is it unethical to quit my job during company emergency? No, it is not. What should I do? Take care of yourself first In general you should do what is best for you, because the company most certainly will look out for itself first. All you are obligated to do is honor your contract. If you want to quit, turn in your notice, and then leave (you may ...


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I'd say, you should not try to disclose any information you're not supposed to know, in first place. In this case, however, you can do some good with the knowledge, question is "how". You mentioned, I happened to overheard a conversation between him and a manager, and he is apparently suffering from the Alien hand syndrome. So that manager has the ...


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There is a middle-ground option, though I'll leave it to your judgment if you think it's too close to just revealing the truth: You can mention that disorders which would cause that behavior exist, without suggesting that you know someone has such a disorder. In my observation people often react primarily to things being out of the ordinary, and not with a ...


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Keep in mind that all your boss wants is cheap labor. If he wanted you that much, he could have offered you enough to make you stay there; but he didn't offer enough. Obviously, you don't matter to him that much as you, as a person, all he wants is a cog in the machine to keep grinding. You don't have any more obligation to him than his attitude deserves. ...


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I 100% agree with the other answers that you need to seek another job immediately and distance yourself from this employer. Additionally, make sure that you have a paper trail for your conduct in this matter. If you haven't already, email HR and your boss with a follow-up email about your refusal to lie on your resume, and print this conversation and any ...


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You are a software developer with 2 years of experience in the bay area in the bottom 1% income bracket for the field and you're now having HR complaints against you? Find a new employer.


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You (almost certainly) couldn't save the company anyway Unless you have concrete evidence that your leaving would cause likely and significant harm to others (as opposed to a vague feeling that the company can't function without you), then not only is it not wrong to leave during a "crisis", but you couldn't save the company by staying. It's common to feel ...


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So far, everything that manager has asked me to do related to this has been spoken verbally. I have made several failed attempts to get him to put anything in writing. You don't make him put anything in writing. You put it in writing for him. To: My Boss Subject: Work order Hi Boss, As discussed, I put [unethical feature] you ...


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It is not relevant. The hiring manager must consider you and what you have to offer as you are today. Once you're hired it is just a good story. But until you sign the contract, let them take the initiative on it. Don't hide it. If you're asked, you present it assertively and as a positive ("Yes I did, and I took your feedback and worked to improve."). ...


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I can speak to part of this from my experience as an infosec coordinator at a SaaS business. (I can't speak to all of it, because my employer has a culture of compliance; our executives would never play this game.) In most cases these requests come from a part of the customer's business who are simply checking boxes before signing off on new vendors. On ...


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I am told that I should learn to present myself better and "stop being so modest". That's true. In other words, how much ever good something is, if it can't be sold, it's of no use. As you might have already figured out, a resume / CV is your gate-pass to the interview. What you know and don't know, and whether you are fit for the role will be decided ...


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You should not be faulted for making a meaningful decision about what you want to do with your life. You had already given your boss feedback that there were other options you were considering pursuing. He either assumed he could win you over or ignored what you said. Neither one of those is your fault. Unfortunately, this is probably not the last time ...


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It sounds like your colleagues are using these instant messaging tools very informally. In a workplace setting, instant messages typically augment in-person conversation, which is inherently informal to begin with - so it's typical for IMs to take on an informal feeling, too. You asked two questions, How to respond to these type of messages? That's not ...


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If that was the case should I disclose the illness to prevent misunderstandings ? or is it really completely unethical, and none of my business ? No, yes, maybe (see below) - in that order. Should you ever find yourself in a similar position in the future the best thing to do is to privately bring it to the attention of the person with the illness. That ...


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It doesn't really matter if you have privileged information or not. My answer would be the same in either case. I would say something like: There are all sorts of reasons why someone's hands might be moving strangely. When I don't know the full context, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. This gently gives them a little guilt about gossiping, ...


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The practice may be what they plan to do but you should not. Get Out As Soon as Possible. I had an interview with a principle client along with a member of my new consulting company. Before meeting the consulting employee handed me the resume they were submitting. It would certainly get the job but was most inaccurate about my background and abilities. I ...


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You're obviously a decent person and that is being used against you. I was similar situation a few times in my career so I speak from experience on this. I'm going to a little brash here and say it how I see it. Your boss was basically manipulating you to make you think that a perfectly acceptable decision is wrong. Your own physical and mental well ...


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Yeah, it's a tough one but you did leave in a get-out-of-jail-free card in your question: the person with the syndrome told his manager. Tell her that if it really bothers her she should talk to her manager about the guy's behaviour. Management are aware of his condition and they should, if they are decent human beings (tall order, I know), be able to ...


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You do not have to compete with people who fake their CVs. On one hand, it's true that you must learn to present yourself in the best possible way: this involves having a quite mature conscience on how you communicate both on your resume and during interviews. On the other hand, do not fake anything nor feel pressured by people who do so. People who fake ...


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Welcome to the industry Neil. Am glad that you care about ethics. Unfortunately, there are many service companies that do this. Not just in India but also in the US. Sad but true. Clients often dont care either though they are most likely aware. If you are into software/CS, consider joining a product development company or startup. Looks like you are in ...


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I'd be curious to know what your thoughts are on this matter. Of course, here we go. Am I wrong? Not basically. But in details I think you are trying to do it in a non-working way. Let's try to imagine we are the one to put stuff whereever they want. Would we care more if someone else takes things out? If we were a defiant kid - no we wouldn't. Instead ...


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The way these replies are presented it makes me think the conversation is over. you: Did you get my Report them: S you: im off to lunch them: k you: I put the bucket of money on your desk them: tx So I would assume there would be no need for a response. however with a reply of y i would think you would then explain yourself as needed....


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