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Ninety nine times out of a hundred, a random person who saw money being handed off to someone else wouldn't think anything of it. There could be a variety of reason why this money is exchanging hands and the observer would have no way of knowing what the context was unless they asked one of the individuals to which they would either be told "Bob wanted ...


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A co-worker friend who has left a wallet at home might ask to borrow money. It's someone you know, and it's no big deal. People seeing that would probably not notice. But in that case, they always pay it back, or buy lunch for you the next time. Keeping close tabs isn't important if there is a back and forth that tends to balance out. You said that you'...


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Is this ethical? Ethics are very subjective and heavily dependent on local culture. But in most professional environments that would not be ok. And if not what should I do? Regardless whether it's ethical or not, you want it to stop: Tell your boss clearly that you are not ok with him sharing personal details with anyone else and certainly not in public. ...


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If it's from friends (people with good working relationships who pay you back) and the amount is something you can give without repercussions for you, then it's OK (in the Czech Republic). Also: If you don't want to lend them money, then politely say no. You don't have to explain yourself and if pressed can either say some prepared white lie or tell them the ...


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So summarized, you want an employee to remain/put back in your team just so you can discipline him and possibly have him fired? I think this just looks petty, vengeful and certainly also not in the company's best interest. If Joe is such a lying manipulator just be glad he will be the problem of someone else soon. You will just have to accept that sometimes ...


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I think the main issue is with: The copyright or intellectual property or business plan. (And, there could potentially be some security issue). Only employees hired by the company can access certain files, codebases, patents, business plans, etc... If a non-employee knows about these things, they could share the info with competitors, or with the press (...


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Where I work this wouldn't be an issue. People loan other money for small things like lunch, no problem. The employees where I work are actually trustworthy.


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I concur with most answers that there is nothing wrong or suspicious in lending/borrowing a small amount of money in the office. In most cultures I'm familiar with. It just can range from "uncommon" to "ubiquitous" in different places. So I'll address the "with audience" part, which hasn't been covered. If anything, making the ...


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As an employee, what exactly is the problem with hiring someone else to do your job? The main problem is that you are not doing what you were hired to do. You were hired to do the work, not to sell your work to someone else to do it for you. There is no way to rationalize this without being dishonest to yourself and your company. In short, you are in ...


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It is perfectly normal for a developer or senior engineer or someone else to run a meeting when the normal person running the meeting is going to be out. (Or, where I work, when they are there, but want someone else to get the practice.) It sounds like it is a normally scheduled meeting, so the schedule and invitations are probably already set - you just ...


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Let Joe go; his behavior then becomes someone else's problem. Set up a meeting with HR, and ask how/why they can authorize internal transfers without checking with you. Then, talk to your manager about finding someone qualified to backfill Joes position. Joes habit of moving between teams will eventually be noticed.


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"I am okay with that." No you are not. If it's your mom, dad or wife, or perhaps a very good friend, you may be ok with that (and even there you have a veto on the matter). Your boss, in any case, if they are none of the above, has no business in your private life. You now let them in, so you have to - tactfully - find them a way out. Calling you ...


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If the company wants to employ a contractor with the concomitant duties of a contractor (NDA etc.), they would hire a contractor. If Bob owns the contractor company, they can outsource the job to whomever they like, as long as they are accountable for all problems emerging at their side. The company didn't hire a contractor, but an employee. So, the employee ...


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I don't think other people will think anything when they see you handing money over because people use cash to place bets or in the U.S. we have this thing where school kids sell things to support their school. The parents will offer those things for sell at work sometimes. Stuff like holiday candy for example. I've known several types of people who always ...


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HR did not check with me Are you sure HR is required to check with you, or are you just assuming they would? if Joe does this again, I will give him a formal warning letter. He replied to that email, asking for a warning letter A very clear signal that he does not fear you. At this point, I need to set it straight that this kind of behavior will not be ...


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Employees don't need their boss's permission to leave for another job. All they are required to do is give you the notice period that you specified in their contract. That notice period is supposed to be time for you to find a replacement. Internal moves are similar. If he wants to go, and the other team want him, you can't stop him. He could resign, work ...


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One important thing for a healthy work/life balance is to maintain boundaries. To keep your work-life and your personal life separate. That does not mean that you can not talk about one in the other. You might even have people who play a role in both parts of your life. But it is completely improper for a boss to get involved in the personal life of their ...


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It's not abusive for them to ask you to run a meeting. Just run the meeting. Everyone sometimes has to do stuff they don't like or don't feel comfortable doing - your boss is not obligated to refrain from assigning you stuff for that reason. If they are going to ask you to do this on a regular basis and you have a skill gap in this area, I would encourage ...


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Your post strikes me as odd for three reasons: You "find it unusual that someone with a family at home wouldn't be able to pay their own lunch". That is, you assume they don't have sufficient funds to afford lunch. That thought would never occur to me here in Germany or in the U.S. for a colleague; the only people who cannot afford lunch are also ...


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If a company doesn't have an actual contract with a hidden subcontractor, the subcontractor is not bound by the same terms that the employee is bound by. So that hidden subcontractor could copy your data and release it into the wild, or copy the code base and create a competing product, and the original employer wouldn't be able to do much about it, in ...


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You are contradicting yourself. First, you say that you're okay with your boss acting as your gouvernante, teaching you how to live your life -- and then suddenly say that you're not okay when they do exactly that? By presenting your habit as objectionable, they are probably trying to push you into dropping it. If they started doing this coaching under the ...


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I explained that he needed to support the product until we find someone to carry over the work. I support him as long as it aligns with the company's values. A few weeks later, he went to HR and told them that I said OK for him to move effective immediately. HR did not check with me and updated the team assignment. You have an unprofessional HR team, though ...


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There is a difference between a company paying for tasks to be done which they may choose to do through a firm that will itself hire employees to complete them and hiring an individual (contracted or otherwise) to do tasks. This company obviously expected Bob to do the work himself because they fired for it. Ultimately it is the company's decision on who ...


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