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Obviously not everyone is taking the contest seriously because it is so open to abuse. Hell if I was the obese guy and you had a "one size fits all" program why would I take it seriously? At 415 pounds I'm probably not going to run a marathon so how can I compete with the guy who can? At 5 foot and 100 pounds she probably isn't going to benchpress as much ...


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Your manager is not being unreasonable. She asked you to reserve tickets, you reserved tickets, she acquired (and paid for) tickets based on that reservation, and now she expects you to pay for them. That's not an unreasonable position to take. Perhaps she should have double-checked or something, but by the same token, you should have told her once you ...


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My question is, how should I bring this up, if at all, during a job interview? You need not bring this topic up in the interview, as you mentioned you are looking for a software development position. Just to be clear, I am not saying that I strictly do not ever want to hang out with work colleagues, [....] So only if there was to be someone particular ...


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So my question here is: "Would it be unprofessional to go to a team lunch and not eat anything." I wouldn't specifically label it "unprofessional", but some might. But it would likely be considered odd. Check out the restaurant's menu ahead of time. Find something on the menu you can eat - if not an entree, consider ordering an appetizer, salad or soup. ...


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Friendly neighborhood autist here, so I know how nightmarish "We just go with the flow" can sound. First change your approach slightly. Where are we going? change that to: "Do they have a venue picked out yet?" How many people are going? Change to: "Who usually goes?" When will it start? For this one, ask someone who you get along with: "How ...


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How do I tell our HR that I don't want to “perform” in our Christmas party? Dear HR, I will not dance in our Christmas party because I don't feel comfortable doing this. Thank you for your understanding. Best regards, donotexecuteorder66 If you don't want to do something, you don't have to do something. Nobody will blame you because of this. Just tell(...


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Working for a Germany company, I am surprised that you are included in this. Normally, trainees should be exempt from anything that costs private money, because everyone knows they don't earn much money. With 200 people, you are basically guaranteed a free breakfast every day. You could easily be eating as much cake all year as you bring yourself once a ...


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Not only should you not tell the interviewer, you should not be making up your mind at this stage. Firstly don't assume that because you generally don't like to "hang out" with work people you won't want to in this case. Maybe the people at this job will be exactly the kind of people you like to hang out with. You don't know, so don't make decisions in ...


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Don't do it! I had a similar experience where I did a singing performance. Like Joe's answer suggests, I thought I could put it behind me after. Someone recorded it, shared it, kept sharing it for years, kept bringing it up occasionally years later. And this was before the days of YouTube and prolific smart-phones - now it's even easier to suffer this fate. ...


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Pay your boss for the ticket and re-sell it if you are not going to go. By giving your boss $10 to reserve a ticket you essentially told your boss that you intended to attend the game and that it was OK for your boss to purchase a ticket for you. It is not the same as a cruise reservation as a cruise reservation is completely controlled and handled by ...


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How will I confront our HR regarding this? Don't confront HR. Discuss it with them. Explain your fears. Explain why you don't want to do this. They will likely tell you that you really should do it. I agree. I think you should do something quick, just get it over and put it behind you. But if you refuse, you can't be forced to dance. It won't look good ...


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TL;DR Go Long version At my company (~25 people, located in Germany), we're doing this once a year. It usually takes place on a Friday after lunch (during office hours, approximately ~2 hours). It's a lot of fun for everybody involved and a great opportunity for team building. Also, my boss participates himself. Think about it this way: what's the ...


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Is this legal? If legality is the primary concern, this should be asked in law stack exchange. However, if the question is more about the practice, opening up the calendar to other employees and managers is not unheard of and since you already understand that it's only for the company use, as long as it is visible to only company employees, I do not see a ...


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Is it better to just award these individuals with far-fetched data and deal with everybody else getting mad at me? No, because then the biggest liar wins. Two wrongs (your predecessor not setting the competition right, and the employees lying) does not make a right. Or is it better to confront these individuals or disqualify them for clearly cheating? ...


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I don't think it would be particularly problematic. It's certainly not unprofessional. You'd very likely be asked a few questions about it, but if you're not worried about that and have a good response I don't think it's a problem. You can either provide a canned minimalist response, or provide more details, depending on your comfort level. My team ...


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Let's take a look at the details. Events are not working events. You state in your comments that : I attended the most recent event because it's sort of a big deal for the students. The drive is a bit difficult and as we help with set up, clean up, and running the event, it makes me feel that it is improper to indicate attendance is a sign of ...


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I have actually been in a similar situation. I worked at a large company, in a small department. Each department within our division were creating short videos that would be presented at an annual management conference. My department's video involved us all dancing. It was intended to be humorous. I am very uncomfortable dancing, with the sole exception ...


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What is the point of this "tradition"? You should ask HR that question. I imagine they will tell you it's some sort of team-building activity. I can't see how imposing humiliation on the reluctant will build any esprit de corps. I've worked at places where the extroverts try to force others to join in, but I have always managed to say "no" with no downside....


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If the bosses want it, then go with it, and have fun. Just remember that's their castle where they live so behave yourself and don't get too drunk.


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A particular issue that bugs my mind is that, I am a person who just doesn't enjoy participating in social events that a lot of companies like to arrange. That would be activities such as attending birthday parties, participating in sports events, dining or things like camping or hiking together with colleagues. My question is, how should I ...


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Is this legal? Why would it not be? You just said it doesn't include anything personal and work related things only. If you're at work and clocked in/supposed to be working, your manager has every right to know where you are at all times never mind your managers manager. They're paying you to do what they require. Managers need to manage their employees ...


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I'm a UK resident, but previously spent a placement year working in Germany -the particularly traditional Franconia no less - as a placement student, so I can offer you my experience and the observations I made from the other placement students around me. The Select Few: I was fortunate enough to have a relatively small team in my office, and with 10-14 ...


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Go even if not everyone else is going. If it turns out I'm wrong, going once won't hurt your career, even if you don't get paid for it. You could even leverage a non-productive unpaid office cleaning exercise as an example of why you are in the future as careful about always getting paid as some feel people should be. The people most integrated to the team ...


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Forget the competition. Corporate environments are competitive enough without pitting people who are already in great shape against people who could actually stand to benefit. The person who organized it is gone and you’re left with a sizable budget to promote health and wellness in the workplace. Use it how you see fit. One idea that comes to mind is to ...


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Isn't it more logical to use a working day instead? Certainly it makes more sense to do this during the work week, if you actually want people to attend. A company that isn't willing to have an event on company time sends a clear signal that this event isn't important.


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"But its only a pound, surely you can afford a pound" When I was a teen, I used that same reasoning to a teacher, and she pointed out that she supported a lot of other causes too, and that money added up. That is a completely rational argument, and if someone pushes back on that, it is them being rude. So, simply point out that you support other causes ...


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I'm not recommending you do this, but it is an option. (I would just call his bluff a if I get fired so be it.) Document the policy Attend all events Unpaid - But document your attendance\time. Once you are ready to move on, find a new job and quit. Once you start your new Job, file a complaint with the department of labor and demand back pay for those ...


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They are either genuinely nice, or genuinely in need of a good contractor, or quite possibly both. So you should go to that party, enjoy it, get no more than minimally drunk, and expect that someone will talk to you about contracting for the company.


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