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Well I hate to burst your bubble but if this is the third time this happened that almost rules out "it's not you, it's them". Your title says that you were fired for being "indispensable" but apart from that being an oxymoron, it's also not what happened. You were fired for writing code that your colleagues can't understand, which is a critical performance ...


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Please take care of your health and well being. Talk to your boss at the earliest. Your mental well-being has a much higher priority than work which is a never-ending process. Having an understanding boss makes things really easier as you have one less thing to worry about. It would be good for both you and the company that you communicate your concern at ...


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This is a great way to burn bridges Simply put; don't accept an offer if you do not honestly intend to do the job. Especially when leaving school, your reputation is lacking and any bump against you can make life significantly harder. When you accept a job offer, that company will often stop recruitment and inform the other candidates that they weren't ...


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What is bothering me is the use of "tu" instead of "vous" : I don't really know how to react to this. Why being so informal ? Am I over thinking this or does it scratch you too ? You are overthinking this by a huge margin. But if it bothers you this much, instead of pondering why someone would use "tu" instead of "vous", just ignore this recruiter ...


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As a person with "hidden" disabilities myself, I would appreciate if, instead of telling her (you would probably unintentionally communicate a botched version of my disability and how it affects me at work), you let me know (in private) that "When I used to work here I overheard you and manager discussing your problems with X, I have now heard that some ...


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It's not a joke, I could not stand to have this happen a fourth time, it's impacting me mentally. This line is important, because it shows that you feel it is time to change. It shows that you recognize this as a pattern, and would like the pattern to stop. That desire is probably the most important part of the solution. Fixing these sorts of situations ...


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So my question is : can my resignation be considered as abusive? No. Slavery time is over, and if a company does not want to lose you, they are free to rectify whatever bothers you to convince you to stay. But you certainly are free to resign from a job whenever you please, and given the 3 months notice period, there is no way for it to constitute an "...


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First of all, quitting is always an option. What would your colleague do if the company suddenly closed its doors? (This happens, and the employees are usually the last to see it coming). Your colleague needs to stop making excuses and start job hunting for real. It may take a long time, but there are better jobs and non-toxic managers out there. In ...


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I'll focus on the work-related issue. Bill never wanted to do something he didn't come with. Got a solution about that problem that bugs everyone for 6 months, too bad, Bill doesn't like it, Bill doesn't do it. As a consultant you're in a much better position to deal with this. If you ask Bill to do something, he's expected to do it unless he has a good ...


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To reduce the stress: Stop caring. After 8 hours work a day, stop working. If the manager makes it hard to leave, stop working and get overtime pay without working. If he says “I could have done that in an hour” you say “of course you could” so he doesn’t see you getting upset (because that’s what he wants) while thinking to yourself what you actually think ...


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should report to the authorities What authorities? Most countries don't have a "be nice to your employee" laws. The only thing the authorities care about are violation of existing laws. If your former employer did indeed break the law and you have decent documentation or proof, that they did, then, by all means, report them. If not, that would be pointless. ...


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Normal is no support at all. Every document or knowledge you could have should have been handed when you were under contract. After this it's not your problem anymore and should have been your ex-manager's before you left. Once or twice can be understood but doesn't mean it should be acceptable. By answering you're training them to keep calling you. You ...


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You get pay raises based on your past performance, not on your potential future performance. You don't know for sure if your idea will achieve a certain outcome. Good performance is not just having genius breakthrough ideas. An employee that has great ideas but withholds them from others for glory/reward is not valuable to a company. What is valuable is ...


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Being blunt here: If you'd come to me and say "Hey, I have a great idea that can save us tons of money, but I need to see some cash before I will talk about it", I'd fire you on the spot. This feels like blackmail to me and I won't have it regardless of how much money is at stake. However if you show with a detailed record of your achievements: "Hey boss, ...


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If they haven't asked, find out who is organizing this party and just drop them a message (or walk by, if they're close) and explain the dietary restrictions to them. Since the party is supposed to make the new members feel welcome, having food they can actually eat is pretty important. If it's not a habit to ask the members or their team lead for dietary ...


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What if a company you were interested in offered you a job but then rescinded it after finding a candidate they like more? Don't do it.


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I would suggest that you have a meeting with your manager and HR and explain the situation - giving them your reasons is one thing - that should stay private between them and you. However, what is said to the customer is up to your manager - he may say "oh, for X reason we have had to change engineer"... I don't think you should tell Bill's employer your ...


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I'm French so I can answer really easily. If you are in a big company it's really common to shake hands with women until you know them better. If you are in a smaller firm, usually the culture of the company is more friendly and you should kiss on the cheek with women. So for your questions just give them your hand when a woman sees you. And if she ...


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It is a non-issue In the Unites States. There are hundreds of Universities and Colleges with religious affiliations in the Unites States. These include places with obvious religious connections: University of Notre Dame, St Johns University - New York. But it also includes those that don't have an obvious religious connection: Boston College, Georgetown ...


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Good code is easy to understand, even for poor engineers. One advice I often received is "program like if the person that will maintain your code is a mediocre programmer, and a dangerous psychopath who know where you live". And it's true. Too clever programming is bad, because maintenance is longer when you don't know the code. In maintenance, you often ...


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there is too many good people on the team Since you didn't say anything about other employees not deserving a full bonus, I'll assume this statement is true. And if this is true (and you don't have a manager who has trouble giving critical feedback and/or doesn't want to address performance issues), than I'd be miffed by the system, not my manager. ...


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I'd say, you should not try to disclose any information you're not supposed to know, in first place. In this case, however, you can do some good with the knowledge, question is "how". You mentioned, I happened to overheard a conversation between him and a manager, and he is apparently suffering from the Alien hand syndrome. So that manager has the ...


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What are you going to achieve? Just shout at the wall. Move on in life. BTW - You say that you have no proof - therefore nothing can happen


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Just tell them you don't want to burn bridges before you even get there. I can't tell you how your co-workers will react, but I feel that this response is reasonable. Tell them you don't want to compromise your standing with the new company in the event they take offense to this type of email and that you would rather keep your head down. If you must, ...


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Is this legal? If legality is the primary concern, this should be asked in law stack exchange. However, if the question is more about the practice, opening up the calendar to other employees and managers is not unheard of and since you already understand that it's only for the company use, as long as it is visible to only company employees, I do not see a ...


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I'm not sure I understood well so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. You have an offer of internship from Company A You don't really want to work in this sector but any offer is better than no offer If you can land an other offer in a different sector you're likely to accept it. If I'm correct you're describing a common state of looking for a job when ...


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The supervisor's attitude seems pretty bad, but as a manager the following points stood out to me: For the last 10-11 months, I am working in a research industry in France We both face a computer screen and he furiously debugs code while I sit besides him and look on He quizzes me now-and-again on whether or not I understand what he is doing. To ...


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I would ask in person of HR, if you don't know where to find them ask reception or colleagues. Email is one way, but faster and harder to ignore if it's in person. HR will be the people who can either help you directly or point you in the right direction. Your boss most likely is not the person handling payroll.


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