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Unless you actually have a medical condition (e.g. anxiety) which would mean that going to the event is going to be a serious problem for you, just go. If the company chooses to pay you to go to an event, that's their choice. As I've frequently said: you don't get to choose what to do at work, your employer does. Basically, work out if this is the hill you ...


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"unlimited holidays" is not a benefit. It's usually a red flag. I know one Senior software developer who had unlimited vacation and they made him feel guilty for just taking three weeks of vacation after one year. It's also a way for an employer not to pay you for unused portions of your vacation should you get laid off or you quit (should you happen to ...


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Yes they are. You are to report to work as normal. If your work today consists of a Christmas party than so be it. The reason you need to take holiday time is because This is a team building exercise It's not a day off This is quite common and they are allowed to do it. I would just be happy your employer cares enough to give everyone a paid day of no ...


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I beg to differ from my other posters. You are in a different country, it costs you time and money to contact them. More importantly, it takes your mind off holiday. Don’t answer at all. If you get back home, just blame it on the roaming that you could not answer. Just because your boss is setting a bad example by working his holidays does not mean you ...


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If that customer wanted to give a communal tip then they would have put it in the communal pot. So, that was a personal tip, or present, to you, keep it.


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I'm going to be answering this from a different angle. A lot of times when these types of events happen during the workday they are coupled with some talks given by the higher-ups. They might be congratulating the team on a good year, giving out awards, or talking about the plans for the future. It's not clear from your question, but it could be that this ...


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I work in a company (~50K Employees) where we have an "unlimited" PTO (paid time off) policy. For us, requests for vacation under 4 weeks a year only have to be approved by our direct supervisor. Then, for every week above that, the request has to be approved by another level of management. This is my second year at this company, and I've never experienced ...


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Standing flag they should take a 'hot-desk' laminate from reception when vacant and put it on their desk Instead of going elsewhere to get a sign, keep a sign at every desk. For visibility, make it a toy-sized flag in a stand or something else vertical. When someone sits, they take down the flag. When the person departs, they raise the flag. The ...


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which of these things is it reasonable for me to account for in calculating my day rate? All of them, plus the biggie - at the end of the contract they won't have to pay you any redundancy money. As a contractor, you need to factor in the time it'll take to find the next contract, which could be a month or two every six months. All these things mean that ...


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You may be obliged to share the tip, make sure that's not the case with your employee handbook. If the rule is that all the tips are to be shared amongst the staff, you likely may have to share this one too, as even though it was delivered personally, it's still tipped for the service provided in the store. If that's the case, clear it with your manager. If ...


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Depending on the "value" of the gift I'm leaning towards "just drop it" because it may come across as a little greedy. Imagine friend A giving friend B a gift and you saying "Can I have one too?" Ultimately, you chose not to go to the party because you had a prior commitment rather than being physically unable to attend due to a situation of your ...


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I've been in this situation, and if I had to attend I'd just find some quiet side/corner to eat, read, then see if I could head out early. Free food is always handy anyway. But there is always another option, one that won't make you look bad by skipping off during work hours, and might actually give bonus points. One year the Christmas party was coming up,...


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How do I explain being unaware of labor day to my co-worker with out sounding like an idiot. The truth is pretty much always the best explanation. Sometimes it won't prevent folks from forming an impression of you that you would rather avoid. But that impression can fade with time as long as you avoid similar gaffes. Usually self-deprecation told with a ...


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The main difference between unlimited and regulated European holidays is this: In many parts of Europe you HAVE to take some or all holidays. In some European countries you even have to (by work law) take 10 working days in a row (so that create a 16 days holiday including weekends). In the unlimited case there is no upper cap, but there is usually also ...


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I'm going against the current trend but I think you should answer. I'm assuming that your boss had a good reason to CALL you. He didn't send you an e-mail (even on your private e-mail address) which you can read when you want. He CALLED YOU. I may be wrong but to me it means he had a compelling reason to do so. You didn't answer and it's absolutely your ...


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For details you'd need to check your employment contract, but in all contracts I have ever had or heard about, holiday entitlement is reduced proportionally if you do not work a full calendar year. So if you only work three months in a given year (because you only started in October, or because you quit, or possibly because of unpaid leave), you only get 3/...


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When we're not in the office, we leave a sign that says "This desk is available for hot-desking". I don't think you need anything else than that. If you want to be more specific, mention when you'll be back.


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Unless you're objecting on religious grounds (i.e. you're non-Christian) then I suspect you may have social anxiety / social phobia. This is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of. It's a real condition that affects millions of people - especially under 40's. It can also be accompanied by / lead to depression and other coexisting conditions. If you find ...


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Unlimited PTO can be great, or it can be terrible - it completely depends on the culture of the company. The main upside for the employer, however, is that they do not have to pay out vacation when you leave. In California (where this concept originated), the law is very clear that employees accrue vacation with each paycheck, and that it is an asset that ...


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My coworkers are doing Halloween and Christmas at work, I'm a Messianic Jew, how do I avoid ruining my relationship with them? Say nothing. Do nothing. Conduct yourself as you normally would. If someone says "Happy Halloween" or "Merry Christmas" to you, respond with a simple "Thank you." or "Thank you, and the same to you." Acknowledging a holiday, ...


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I'm going to leave aside that fact that you negotiated poorly in the first place; you already know that. Learn from it and move on. And also, how would you suggest re-negotiating based on this? Make sure you have enough money to walk away from your client. Being able to say "No" because you have enough money to pay upcoming bills for at least the next 2 ...


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Just tell the truth I was in a similar situation several times. I never talked about the vacation until I got an offer. Often you don't know how long it will take them to finalize the offer, so that the vacation might fall into the notice period. On another occurrence I negotiated that I would start one month later. And once I just told them I planned a ...


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Keep well out of it. If either HR or N+2's boss think that N+2 should be informed, they will contact N+2 - bottom line is it's part of their job to manage the fall-out from things like this, let them manage it the way they think it should best be managed; there may be issues here you're not aware of, and you could potentially make things worse by getting ...


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I work in IT for a state office and what you've described sounds exactly like my co-worker (I'll can him John). In the 2 years I've worked with John, he has never attended a single social function to include extended lunch cook-outs and on-the-clock holiday parties. If it's not a mandatory social gathering- he doesn't attend. He's in no danger of getting ...


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I worked for a company with unlimited vacation time a about a decade ago. The policy was similar to NateTheGrate's answer -- depending on the total amount you take each year, it has to be approved by a higher level of management. The important thing to understand is that you can't really take off an unlimited amount of time -- you still have to do your job. ...


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Greedy bastards. You mailed them on a Thursday, telling them your last working day was on Friday four weeks later. That is more than four weeks notice. They are required to accept that notice. That "acceptance of resignation" email in February 2017 is pathetic. That's two months after your notice, and more than a month after you actually quit! But there is ...


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While on site in the US you should follow US work schedules. Do not stay at the hotel or not show up to the US office simply because it is a European holiday. Make sure to speak to your manager and remind him that you will be working in the US during this holiday. Ask if you are entitled to a compensatory day when you return to Europe. Most managers are ...


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There's some people who have a tradition of giving gifts to common service people at the holidays-- my family always leaves an envelope with a tip for our milkman and used to tip the paper delivery, when we got the paper. I would count this as a holiday gift from a regular customer. Unless your employee handbook specifically requires you not to keep it, or ...


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