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Have him send a letter saying that, upon acceptance of any offer proffered, he is officially out of any other processes. Turn the tables on them and see what happens. They're trying to put themselves in the position that your brother has to take what they offer. Put it right back on them.


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You asked, Is this normal practice or should we see something fishy here? That's an easy question: You should see something fishy here. The recruiter is clearly trying to trap your brother. If he actually does back out of all other hiring processes, he will have zero options. The recruiter's offer will be his only choice. He will be more likely to ...


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Is this normal practice or should we see something fishy here? No, and yes. He was given the offer Tuesday noon and asked to respond Friday morning This is known as an 'exploding offer' and is almost always a red flag if the deadline provided doesn't have a clear rationale*. In most cases, job negotiations don't have real deadlines, and the only purpose ...


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This is known as an exploding offer. So what should you do if you receive an exploding offer? Exploding offers are anathema to your ability to effectively navigate the labor market. Thus, there is only one thing to do. Treat the offer as a non-offer unless the expiration window is widened. In no uncertain terms, convey that if the offer is ...


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This is an easy one. You will need a job anyway in 7 months and your employer doesn't mind if you leave earlier. There is no renewing this contract. There is no benefit for you if you delay. Do what you can to get better at your job and at the same time look for another one.


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It is not acceptable. Just say "No, I'm sorry I won't be able to provide such documents". You can then add "I'm looking forward to reviewing the offer details and expect to accept it". And even some factual bit " I'm really excited about project X and technology Y." But if they won't extent an offer, you don't want to turn down other opportunities.


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The best answer to questions like this doesn't really change much even though people asking questions present sometimes very different back stories. We can't directly answer the question for you, but we can provide you with a roadmap to get to your own best answer. Before anyone thinks about your actual three questions though, you need to take a step back ...


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Some years ago, I got a hint that my (Netherlands) employer was not going to renew my contract. I was already looking for a new job anyway and had an interview lined up, so I just accelerated those plans and accepted the job offer when it came. I managed negotiate my exit and quit, before they had a chance to let me go. It is easier to move to a new job ...


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I would like to understand an area to then be able to use my skills & experience to enhance it, be the company expert in that area (to work with stakeholders on new features), clean it up then hand it over to go on to the next area. How can I concisely explain this to a potential employer? This is a reasonable way to express your desires. ...


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Since this is very fishy, I would be wondering where this requirement comes from: From the company, or from the recruiter? For a company, it doesn't make any sense. If I'm having interviews with four companies, I'm going to accept the best offers. If company A tells me I have to stop negotiating with B, C and D to even see A's offer, I then have the choice ...


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Is it normal for headhunters to ask for written confirmation that candidate is pulling out of other interview processes before giving offer letter? Not at all, ant it might even be illegal. It goes against the concept of a free-market (the jobs market, that is). You might want to beat them with their own weapons: As per your request, I hereby guarantee ...


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Out of point: My opinion on SAFe is that it is not "agile" but something that tries to reconcile management and product management with agile team. On the point: The issue is that like for any methodology the company can say "we're doing X" or "we're working with Y" and when you join you understand that they don't understand either X or Y and are just ...


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My personal philosophy is to explore / exploit all opportunities of a place before moving on to another place - not limited to jobs, but to anything in life. Therefore, applied to your case, I would do the following (I actually did it several times): Ask for a new position in the current company. Being a new position, salary negotiation will most likely ...


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In general, this is a good reason to change jobs and if stated right is attractive to employers. I have to disagree with Joe that ownership is a bad word somehow - in my tech management circles we strongly look for people that will demonstrate ownership. There's always the people that take it too far and become toxic fiefdom guardians, but the vast ...


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A lot of people feel this sort of guilt when quitting a job. I did at my previous one and I didn't even have the family ties as a reason to stay. I'm currently going through a very similar situation, I'm in a job I got through a friend of the family. Quitting would be really tough, but sometimes it's necessary. To cut a long answer short: no you're not a ...


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I'm not entirely sure I want to leave so I'm somewhat afraid of poisoning the well. Honestly it's probably not worth it. At best, they'll be hesitant to consider you for promotions or long term, critical projects if they feel your days are numbered. You're not necessarily gaining much either. It's unlikely that a single recommendation will make the ...


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Instead of thinking of it as a negative that you have to explain, look at it as a positive that makes you more appealing. I too like to be part of a solid team that stays together for a long time and would consider that trait in a potential colleague to be appealing. When the inevitable "why are you leaving your current position?" question comes up, ...


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Unit Tests, Refactoring and Code complexity mean nothing to management. This is 100% fine! Why do you care? These improve product quality! Code quality is a means to product quality, so argue this way. When you concentrate on a few subsystems, you gain: fewer defects higher development speed ability to advise non-technical people on good future solutions ...


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You are a knowledge worker. To succeed in your career you need to learn new things continuously. (20 years from now will anybody use JS/Angular? I started programming using FORTRAN and assembly language on a PDP-11, now not very useful skills.) Your decision about your next job assignment should be based, in part, on what you can learn. In your present ...


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SAFe is a framework, not a proscription. That said, there are some fundamental things which, if you're not doing them (correctly), you're not doing Agile. I understand your frustrations with an Agile process, especially if done badly, but if you work with it, a lot of the pain is removed (the "big bang" approach to delivery, weeks of forced "death march" ...


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My company rolled out SAFe based on the success of a grassroots agile movement. The good thing about it was bringing more of management into feeding us work in a more agile way. i.e. by maintaining a prioritized backlog and at least trying to do small features with more frequent feedback. The bad thing about it was it had a tendency to centralize decision ...


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This has absolutely nothing to do with SAFe or Scrum or Kanban or Extreme Programming. To start with, lots of companies claim to be using one or more of these methods, but you see a couple of things. One is that they are frameworks and there are multiple ways to do them within the bounds of the framework. Another thing that you see is that the intent of the ...


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Your cousin/director is absurdly spoiled I'm very much willing to stay until the end of year, but I wanted to prepare him beforehand so he can plan accordingly. Virtually no external employee would give this much notice. Your cousin would get two weeks notice and they would be gone. For someone who is not family, "near future" might be 2 months if the ...


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I am struggling to understand your situation. You've been working at this company for 2 years, started college, and it's too much now? Then no, you need to prioritize your education. If you only have to go to school once a week, or so, then consider negotiating a different set of times so that you aren't exhausted for that. You'll present yourself as a ...


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So I am no expert on GDPR so I am not sure whether this is really not allowed. This means that you cannot ensure that it does not happen. However you can always politely ask. I have witnessed several times for instance that the name of a new (already hired employee) was still not shared with the rest of that future employee's team because that person had ...


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I think 4 classes is plenty. I know people who only took one and got hired as Data Scientists right out of school. Good on you for not putting up with that shitty place anymore, but I think you are underestimating yourself and the overestimating the degree of difficulty that Data Scientists have to deal with on an average job. There is a learning curve but ...


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I would suggest you to start learning whatever new technology you want to learn side-by-side to your current role. Why? Let me explain: This would prove your caliber to justify that you can work in your new role with new technology in the current company. If you want to switch with the new tech in the new company, you will be able to clear interviews easily....


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Once you ask for the recommendation, you'll be sending up a huge flare that you are looking to leave. Even if your intentions are to stay, it will be hard to convince anyone that this is your true motivation regardless of how sincere you are or the kind of relationship you have developed with your coworkers. I would only ask if you have already had the ...


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I see nothing wrong in the way you described it to us. When asked about "why you want to change jobs", tell them this. Or, tell them this in your self introduction. A potential employer will likely use this opportunity to ask you more about this experience, what technologies you worked with etc. While at the conversion, it is also a good chance to ask what ...


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