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How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least possible respect by my bosses? Call as soon as you can get through. Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday. Good luck.


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Don't catastrophize your situation. When you wake up at 10am, you still can go to work. It is called "being late" and 50% of people admit to being late from time to time. The goal should be to do it less and be late less. TL;DR: Nobody really likes to wake up early. Everybody feel shame and guilt when they skip work or oversleep. Everyone was late ...


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Should I tell HR that I'm going to a meditation retreat? Self-exploration may not be seen as a "good enough" reason for taking time off in corporate America. Would it be better to come up with another excuse? You are taking a vacation. Assuming you are normally permitted to take unpaid time off when desired, there's absolutely no reason HR needs to ...


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You should attempt to discipline yourself so you don't turn off the alarm and get out of bed at the appropriate time. Also, you may want to consider going to sleep a bit earlier. This is a normal part of every day life. If you cannot do this, then you can expect to lose jobs which will generally lead to having a dramatic and probably unpleasant life.


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It isn't entirely clear from your post whether you're dealing with negative comments or if you're just trying to proactively tell the group about your health. Dealing with negativity I'm also on 80% work and, while some colleagues know the reasons for it, others have made a few snarky comments about how I'm never around. I try to ignore most of the ...


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Is it too much to ask for leaves for my own wedding?! Well, you can ask. You did. You were allowed to take the leave that is in your contract and you were denied leave that is not in your contract. You have no right to unpaid leave, the same way your employer has no right to tell you "I don't need you, I won't pay you for ten days, but you don't need to ...


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Why does it even matter? If what he asks doesn't help you, then ignore it. You're not quitting for it to be a benefit to him. You're quitting to benefit yourself. Strictly speaking, if you haven't resigned, he can legally claim you're staff, or consider you an employee without actually paying you, or just use your headcount to benefit himself, or commit ...


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One more time with feeling.... HR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND Consider HR on a need to know basis. If they don't need to know, don't tell them. Talking to HR is like talking to the police, "Everything you say can and will be used against you". Now, if HR does demand a reason, YOU TELL THEM THE TRUTH! You do not lie to HR, not ever. Lying to HR will in the very ...


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contact your manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride call him/her in the morning Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things very often, then I would hope for the best.


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Until you get a solidly established sleep pattern, go to bed and get up at your regular time on weekends. That may mean leaving a party early, but it is worth it to be able to keep a regular job. Once you are going for weeks without being late, try an occasional late night on Friday or Saturday. Get a loud alarm clock, and leave it out of reach of your bed ...


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How can I go about requesting an extended period off work so that I can conduct my wedding and honeymoon in the same period? One thing that the other answers haven't touched on so far, is that the requested time off is very soon. You don't mention exact dates, but October this year is only 6 weeks away! Whilst this won't help for the current situation, the ...


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It's possible that this is genuine - many who behave as your boss does seem rather oblivious to how obnoxious they are being. On the other hand (and what I think is more likely) is that it's rather more self-serving of him and could lead to an unceremonious firing for being a no-show. Or a scapegoating - "I'm such a generous boss.. I gave DaDude an ...


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If you want to be a bad boss, then your goal should be to push as much work as possible out of your employees just to the point where they almost break, but not so much that they do break. The closer you can get to each person's breaking point, the more productivity you get. But it is imperative that you do not get beyond their breaking point and get them to ...


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I felt like adding my own experience to the great answers you are getting, because I thought it might help you to know that other people have been through this and managed to find a better balance :) When I was an apprentice, I had a very difficult last year at school. I hated what I was doing there, and so I got in the habit of waking as late as possible ...


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Rephrasing the Question It seems you are asking us, "How do I get my current company to give me an extended time off so that I have a job to come back to while looking for another position?" What you give us as background is contradictory: It's possible that I might want to leave this company after a few months later. So, I do not wish to sour any ...


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Since you reference Family Leave I am going to assume this is a longer term absence (in the US the Family Medical Leave Act provides for up to 1 year unpaid absence and I am guessing most countries have something similar). If this is a 1-2 week absence (or what ever is the normal maximum vacation time per year is) then I would say this is abnormal but most ...


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I've never heard of a "pre-employment" test that involves you being on site, carrying out tasks for 1-3 weeks. The only pre-employment tests I've ever heard of outside of interviews have been tasks that can easily be completed outside of working hours, therefore without your current employer knowing, and shouldn't take more than an evening or two to ...


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The statement of your manager is obviously trivially wrong. I have had planned sick leave way to many times for my liking. It's easy. You visit a doctor. The doctor makes a frowny face and sends you to a specialized surgeon. The surgeon makes a happy face, looks at their calendar and says "no problem, the procedure can be scheduled as soon as next Tuesday. ...


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The answers so far address the personal angle. Definitely call and explain (leaving out whatever personal details you wish). From a legal perspective, google "Abwesenheit aus wichtigem persönlichen Grund" or similar phrases. Sadly, I'm in Austria right now and Google forces links related to Austrian law on me, but I remember from my time in Germany that ...


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I'm not sure how comfortable you are doing this, but I might just send out a blast email to my coworkers: Hi all (or however you choose to address your coworkers). I'd just like to clear the air about my recently and current work situation. I was off for 5 weeks, during which time, as you know, I got married and also went on my honeymoon with my spouse (...


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There are several things you can do to stop yourself hitting snooze on the alarm clock: use a clock (or phone app) that can't be turned off easily set multiple alarms don't let yourself sleep through an alarm, even on weekends The more "practice" you get waking up at a particular time the easier it will get. After a several months you may find that you don'...


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Is it too much to ask for leaves for my own wedding?! Generally not no - but 5 weeks is a rather extreme amount. Losing an employee for 5 consecutive weeks when as your boss has said there's upcoming work is majorly disruptive. Not only that but it's also exceeding your remaining holiday amount. I asked him if he can allow me to connect from home for ...


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I am not a lawyer, but according to this interview by Spiegel Online with a lawyer specialized in German employment law, public transportation strike is not a valid excuse to come late to work. Employers can cut pay in the short run, and could even pursue termination if the problem repeats. What you could do to get to work on time despite the strike: Find ...


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Any advice on evidence of what to bring to my boss or how to get it? This is an easy one - just ask your boss what kind of evidence he wants and will accept. Then ask your health professional ahead of time to be prepared to provide that evidence. There are no "standards" here. What is acceptable for one boss or company will not be acceptable for another. ...


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It is preferable if the employee or a relative can come in and take away his personal stuff if he is going to be off for a long period of time. Unfortunately due to the nature of this type of leave, it is not always possible. There certainly should be no expectation that the desk will not be turned over to a different person (such as a temp replacement) or ...


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Your boss has not granted you holiday so you can't take it without risking being fired. That much is clear. Can you request unpaid leave on compassionate grounds? If not then you have to decide which is more important: attending to this family matter or keeping your job. Check your contract for rules on taking leave due to extenuating circumstances. Also ...


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Note: since no location/culture/company policy is provided in the question, no guarantees can be made. However, your interpretation of what constitutes sick leave seems to diverge from the general interpretation, which is what this answer is responding to. One could take an hour or two off work to go to the doctor and then continue working. However, in my ...


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I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee. I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany. If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on. If your boss is ...


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While there are some answers that support changing your behaviour - that might not be necessary, it's up to you (and your boss). Some people do have different sleeping patterns. Yes, there are techniques to adapt as best as one can to the "normal" daily routine. While some of us can simply adjust to that standard routine once and be done with it for others ...


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