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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

I worked at a company where this precise set of circumstances occurred involving a married couple. The relationship was fine when she was a manager and he reported to a different manager. He was then ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

Option 5: Talk to management, have them assign you to parts of the business where there is no conflict of interest or power dynamic between the two positions. In a larger company there may be multiple ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

You know the answer here already. How can I resolve this conflict of interest, if I am reluctant to leave the company and my date is as well? You can't. Sit down with your partner and work out which ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

Some of the risks that need to be managed here: Unfair treatment (in either direction; as far as practical, she should neither be advantaged nor disadvantaged by her relationship with you. You have ...
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Asking employer to relocate me back to origin city after moving internationally

I think there is no "secret recipe" here. Be open and honest about your reasons, and explain them as well as you did in your question above - and I think you will be fine. I would however ...
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Should I bring up my fear of being fired during my performance review with my manager?

I think it's perfectly reasonable being concerned when you see people leaving a company not of their own choosing. It's also reasonable to make sure your own performance review is as useful and ...
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Should I bring up my fear of being fired during my performance review with my manager?

The whole point of a performance review is to review your performance. If your manager tells you that your performance is good or great, you can relax a little about the chances of being fired. This ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

Do what's your responsibility and let others do what's theirs. It seems the re-org itself was neither your decision nor is it under your control. So, it's not your responsibility to ensure the re-org ...
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Asking employer to relocate me back to origin city after moving internationally

I signed a relocation contract prior to moving which stated that all relocation expenses will be covered so long as I stay with the company for a year, minimum. The year is almost up so I do not ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

Define priorities Maybe you didn't do it because it is obvious, but among your goals there is actually no goal named "Keep dating the colleague", nor it is placed in a proper position on ...
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How to give feedback when you haven't worked with someone for long enough to have good feedback?

Because you have to write something you have a couple of choices: Write some trivial praise or trivial criticism; But that could make you seem un-serious, or that the person you are reviewing is ...
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How do we handle a situation when manager deliberately wants to spoil your hard work

Based on the ever helpful comments: This is one of instances but problem is that he doesn't help how to write it but want thing done in his style and AFAIK I do oppose their wrong doings and raise ...
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Should I bring up my fear of being fired during my performance review with my manager?

There are ways to express your concern without explicitly stating that you have fear of being let go. For example, you can ask, "What things would you suggest that would make my efforts more ...
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Should I bring up my fear of being fired during my performance review with my manager?

This feels like a communication flop on the part of leadership, which should have anticipated the tension and been more upfront about these changes. So your concern has merit. What to do and what not ...
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HR came to me directly... what should I do

the question is should I ? Since you already have resigned there is really not much of a downside to talking to HR. What do you have to lose ? Then again: what's your goal here? Just going for a rant ...
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HR came to me directly... what should I do

1.) HR is never your friend. This fact has been stated multiple times in SE Workplace for a good reason. There are two possibilities. They actually want you to stay along with fixing the toxic ...
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