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Personality traits are often observed and confirmed through subtleties in your behavior, and I suspect you're oblivious to those subtleties. Just as an example, I'm going to dissect a single sentence from your question: my boss, which I consider a really capable and smart manager, has a system for measuring developer performance, in which I constantly get ...


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What did I do wrong? Why am I being penalized for giving a bad appraisal? The CEO told you what you did wrong: He basically said during the last 2 months I should have complained to him about her so he could sort her out. And that going forward he would manage her and the new member of the team we're hiring, an SEO manager. As a manager, it is your job to ...


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While it may be that you have to go to your boss and announce you're not getting anywhere, I wouldn't give up until I managed to try one more thing. About an hour spent together with this other person. In the same room with both your laptops if covid permits, otherwise on a voice and share-screens platform. You do a test. You say "I'm expecting to see ...


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tl;dr - Do the startup thing, or don't. There is no 50/50 split. Beware of survivorship bias in the stories of others. As someone who has managed people who were supposed to be on a 50/50 arrangement, I can tell you that I wouldn't allow it unless it was putting the retention of a star player at risk. Split time arrangements have a high overhead (context ...


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Can I do anything to still solve the situation before quitting? Yes, by not trying to do anything. My manager said I wasn't with the company long enough for him to have trust in me and give me a better grade and that I worked too much and he didn't want to praise that. All signs of an incompetent manager. A manager should be able to find whether a new ...


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But on some days when the manager barely looks at me and only nods or grunts responses to my attempted small talk, it hurts my feelings. [...] I think the solution is to change my attitude and remain optimistic for a better day tomorrow. Yup, this is the solution. It seems that you are taking it personally when you should try not to take it that way. ...


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What do I do? Job search. There are many red flags in this situation ranging from an incompetent and unreasonable boss to every sign that this will soon be a 'Failed Startup'. So, the only suggestion I have is that you soldier on for the revenue stream until you can find another job and then quietly leave.


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You've kind of broken one of the first rules of freelancing. There is an old consultant's rhyme that goes: Roses are red, Violets are blue, Pay me. You've given this person free work long enough that now they expect it. It's time to put a stop to that. I would recommend finishing what is on your plate and telling them that you can't continue until your ...


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You may see yourself as a friendly and engaging person. But it's also possible that some other people see you as an annoying person, whose excessive conversation kills productivity, who can't separate business from private life, etc. Or maybe someone is in the break room because they need time away from the computer to think about a complex problem. An ...


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If you can't resolve the situation by talking to them personally, then you should not tell them that you're going to their boss. Personally, I'd talk to my own manager about the issue first and see what they have to say - they might well intervene on your behalf if this is affecting your work.


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This comes down to culture at a company. The sensible thing when feeling ill is to not work. You may infect others and further reduce productivity. The other reason is, when you are ill you may enter the land of negative productivity. You end up making so many mistakes, that fixing them takes more time than is saved by you showing up. Another important ...


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It's quite uncomfortable for me to share a break room with someone who won't engage in conversation with me. The point of a break is to have a break from the obligated activities of the workplace. You might prefer to spend your break socializing, someone else might prefer to spend it quietly in their thoughts. Ultimately this is an issue of consent. No, it'...


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Last week, the social media manager basically took a day off without telling me and I caught her, she screamed and cried and said she disliked working with me. How did you catch her? Why did she scream and cry? There seems to be something missing from this story. Did you lose your temper? Anyway, this week my manager asked me to write my appraisal of her ...


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You are proposing to the wrong supervisor. You need to be making these proposals at a different company. Naval architecture is by nature very conservative. It has to be. Too many lives have been lost due to mistakes in naval architecture. It has to follow existing practices. AI, by nature in its current implementations, is something of a "black box"...


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What should I do in this scenario? Make your own schedule of tasks and publish it. Include all of your current assignments laid out in non-overlapping time segments, using your best estimates for time required for each. Update it and re-publish it weekly. It might be easiest to simply dedicate Mondays for project manager #1's tasks, Tuesdays for project ...


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Any ideas as to how this situation should best be handled? If you are genuinely interested in the material at the conference and want to listen to all the talks then by all means take full advantage of the conference experience. If your manager or other coworkers decide to skip, you should feel no pressure to join them. If asked why you attended the talks,...


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There are 2 issues with your proposal. Firstly, you seem to be more excited about AI than about contributing to fulfilling whatever goals your company has. Secondly, you haven't accounted for the total cost of ownership and governance of your proposed system. The first point is somewhat covered in other answers. I will give a brief example of the second. Say,...


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Over the years I have learned that the phrase "walking on eggshells" is a fantastic tell, a way to know that someone actually is arrogant, as you have been told you are. Let me explain why. You're being careful, right? You don't want to upset your coworkers. That's great. But you are not even noticing what it is you're being careful about. You're ...


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I had my performance review yesterday. We have 4 performance grades. I got the second worst one ("Meeting expectations"), with consequences for my yearly bonus and the maximum salary increase I can get this year. I'd like to add that this is a common tactic of a bad company that doesn't care about their employees. The fact that they never told you ...


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The ways that different employers view staff taking sick leave are hugely varied - from the permissive extreme where they support you taking it for anything all the way to the other end of the scale where taking a sick day is viewed akin to robbery from the company and you should come in unless you're literally dying. Most, of course, sit somewhere between ...


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How could I go about asking my manager to match this? You generally don't. Counteroffers rarely work out (for a variety of reasons). "We just gave you a raise WTF sort of thing" That's your manager's problem not yours. Should this circumstance arise how should I go about handling this? You resign, serve your notice period well and leave. You ...


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I once lead a team of misfits up from being a disaster to sub-par, to effective and had to fight this attitude the entire time. When I took over this group, our goal was $2000 per week in specific sales within a department. It had been consistently been around 500. The team was demoralized and was just coming into get a paycheck. I had more than tripled ...


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3 words: Get. Out. Now. You said you came into the job and it was a total mess. In 8 months you turned it from a disaster zone into a functioning work environment; not a great one, but functioning. That's a HUGE accomplishment. You were given objective praise for that. The problem is, your boss "expected" something that wasn't really ...


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As long as you think that you need good reasons to turn down underpaid freelance work you don't enjoy doing, you will be stuck doing this forever. Your reasons need only be good enough for you. Next time he asks you to make a change or to do something, tell him "My apologies, but that will not be possible." If he starts to argue or tell you why it ...


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I have gone to plenty of developer conferences and not attended sessions. They aren't all interesting, believe me! I don't think it is that unusual to miss some for various reasons. To skip ALL the sessions definitely sounds unethical to me, assuming your coworkers truly did goof off instead. (I've done that, too!) Consider the possibility that your boss and ...


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If my job depends on giving an uneducated guess should just do it? You've got a week. There is no need to make an uneducated guess. You can do some research in that time. Or stand my ground and insist that I don't have the qualifications, and see what happens (most likely get fired)? You could do that. I don't know why you would. The outcome is probably ...


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If you're only communicating expectations to your team such that meeting them leaves you unsatisfied (but the work "done") then you aren't a good team leader - you're doing the bare minimum. I'd give you 3 stars. So while I believe that being demanding is not a bad thing per se, I am aware that my behaviour can be detrimental to my co-workers. ...


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When writing any report that makes recommendations, it's always a good idea to mention the degree of confidence you have in the report's conclusions, regardless of whether that degree is high or low. To put it another way, your job is to inform your manager to the best of your ability -- which includes informing them of your ability to inform them. In this ...


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To make you think from the other persons view I'm going to ask the same question from the other perspective. I'll make assumptions where I don't have enough information. I'll try to keep the writing style from the question here: How should I deal with coworkers who won't understand I don't feel like engaging in small talk? I work with a great team of ...


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Generally speaking, no. It comes across as a form of coercion and/or threat. It also doesn't help your case, but it could possibly negatively impact it since the person is now alerted and could take actions to negate or otherwise obfuscate the problem you're going to point out. It also precludes the possibility that you and their superior find a solution ...


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