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What would be the next step to handling pranks from coworkers?

If you're not participating in the pranks, and you're being targeted by them, and you've expressed that you don't want to be a part of this, then this is harassment. Go to HR. Corporate HR will be ...
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How can I handle too many expectations at a job I recently joined?

Reading documentation and staring at thousands of lines of code is unlikely to lead to enlightenment however long you do it. Often the best way to learn how something works is to have a specific task ...
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Do I owe my company "fair warning" about issues that won't be solved, before giving notice?

Do I owe my company this sort of "fair warning", to bring up issues that are severe enough to make me want to quit, even if I know there's no hope in fixing them? No. You don't owe this. ...
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Can an employer exclude you from all meetings during the notice period?

Yes - they can absolutely do that, and in instances where the employment relationship has significantly broken down (regardless of whose "fault" that is) it's actually pretty sensible to do ...
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How to handle boss' team invitation to go to a bar, when my coworker is an alcoholic in recovery?

Is there a way I can skip answering this uncomfortable question until a more opportune time? I don't think it's necessary to do that - supporting your team member doesn't mean you need to infantilize ...
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Should I leave an email regarding the nature of my PTO?

You don't need to explain the nature of your PTO. You need to simply emphasise that you will not be reachable by phone or text, and won't have access to a computer or the internets between such and ...
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Build a culture of Accountability

How can I build a culture of accountability in my team, where people feel comfortable asking for help when they need it, and where they are committed to meeting their deadlines and delivering on their ...
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Dealing with "work faster" feedback

The project probably was badly managed, but by trying to rebut every element of the feedback, you're missing a chance for a more productive conversation with your manager. It is also going to come ...
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My manager warned me about absences on short notice

Oh boy, where do we start... Okay, so legally, they can require you to bring a note from a doctor every time you miss even the tiniest amount of work. That can come in the form of a sick note if you ...
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Should I leave an email regarding the nature of my PTO?

I would not be inclined to detail the nature of my PTO, the whole point is that it is my time, not the companys. This is doubly so if you are actively pursuing other opportunities. What you can do is ...
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Manager asked for home address without giving a reason. Should I have provided it?

I'd be worried. It's not clear if they have a legitimate business need for this information or, once provided if it would be stored and protected appropriately. In my experience, contact information ...
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Do I owe my company "fair warning" about issues that won't be solved, before giving notice?

Do I owe my company "fair warning" No, it's a waste of effort with no positive potential for you. If you want to move on then just do so, don't let it affect your morale, it's just work and ...
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How can I give feedback about unproductive one-on-ones with my manager?

How to give feedback about unproductive 1:1s with my manager? Is your manager asking for feedback? You don't seem to like "unsolicited advice", so don't give any. If you don't think your ...
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Should I push my fledgling programming work out of the development nest myself?

tl;dr Should I push my fledglings out of the nest myself? No. You should find like-minded people who are invested in your applications to help you nurture and support them throughout their entire ...
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Should I disclose a mental disorder that's been impacting my job to HR/my boss?

Instead of saying nothing or disclosing the mood disorder, I suggest a third option: Let them know that you have a health condition that you are working with your healthcare team to resolve, but it ...
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Build a culture of Accountability

There are good answers already, all of which make important points, but there is another aspect which I'd like to cover: Be Accountable as their Leader I see a lot of organisations of all kinds (...
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Got verbal permission to use "Senior" title in flat organization

Am I thinking way too hard about this? Is it OK to use this title? Yes, because you got permission to use it. Be aware that the meaning of titles and the concrete responsibilities that come with it ...
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Did I throw someone under the bus?

Stealing DJClayworth's comment below, because it's an excellent summary: "Did I throw someone under the bus?" No. "Did I fail to pull them out of the path of the bus when I could have?&...
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Co-Existing with a Highly Extroverted Leader and "Forced Fun"

Honesty is the best policy. The next time you're asked to share details of your personal life, respond with "I feel very uncomfortable to be asked to share details of my personal life. I prefer ...
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Should I leave an email regarding the nature of my PTO?

I wouldn't worry about it. If you were hospitalized and in a coma, they'd figure things out. Mark your calendar as out-of-office, and have fun on your vacation. If it's not explicitly in your ...
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How can I give feedback about unproductive one-on-ones with my manager?

You mentioned "boundary-violating" but you're overlooking the fact that you're volunteering so much information. When you have a medical concern, tell your boss ONLY that you'll be out for a ...
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Can an employer exclude you from all meetings during the notice period?

They can exclude you from every meeting/activity that is not protected by law (like Betriebsratswahl, Betriebsversammlung or Betriebsratssitzungen - if you are a member). Just be diligent to write ...
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Dealing with "work faster" feedback

Well, what you said was basically: It's not my fault. The project manager screwed it up. As a manager, not only does this mean that you won't improve on your second project with that PM, you also ...
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How to handle boss' team invitation to go to a bar, when my coworker is an alcoholic in recovery?

I understand your concern for your colleague. Their sobriety is their responsibility and their private business, not yours, so make sure that you don't answer for them or otherwise disclose their ...
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How can I give feedback about unproductive one-on-ones with my manager?

There are two separate questions here, both of which have been partially answered: (1) Your manager is taking an intrusive interest in your personal life. The best way to shut that down is to stop ...
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Manager banned tests and Linux

Is banning tests and linux a red flag? Personally, I would look elsewhere if the micromanaging is this nonsensical and destructive. In addition, the flip-flopping from wanting tests to not wanting ...
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Co-Existing with a Highly Extroverted Leader and "Forced Fun"

Without a jurisdiction, it's difficult to give advice if you are experiencing physical sickness due to anxiety, different places handle this very differently. If you have 10 weeks left of a 52-week ...
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What would be the next step to handling pranks from coworkers?

If you are not that close with them, and judging by the way you feel I guess that you are not really close, report to HR. Provide evidence of the pranks and state how you feel about it. You should ...
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How to talk to manager to assign a task to someone else

That is almost entirely the wrong way to approach this. You don't decide who does which tasks, your manager (or team lead etc) does. So what should you do? Talk to your manager, explain the problem - ...
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My manager warned me about absences on short notice

Putting the legal stuff to one side. They were also angry that this was the 3rd time that at short notice I could not make the meeting because of a doctor's appointment. Yeah, they've got every ...
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