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Quite obviously talk to her father (the company owner). This would be different and trickier if she was the daughter of someone higher up in the hierarchy of a company but not the owner, because accepting unacceptable performance say from the daughter of your branch manager is defrauding the company. But in the case of the owner, it's his money (to some ...


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I'm surprised that so little attention has been paid to Quaestor Lucem's suggestion in comments on the question: Recuse yourself. Ask your management to find somebody else to interview this candidate. You have a conflict of interest: Given your feelings, it's likely that you will be too hard on him, which is unfair to the candidate. If you hire the guy, ...


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Say no to Nepotism or Cronyism! The person you will interview - whatever the outcome is, you're responsible for your opinion. Make it worthy. Given that this is a normal recruitment process, do not treat the candidate based on any other factor other than the capability and eligibility for the applied role / position. Treat them as you'd have treated any ...


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Informally talk to the owner, more in a "I think your daughter is not very happy with her shifts during the week; maybe we can find a solution which is compatible with school and social life" way than in a "let's discipline her" way. If the owner realizes he may be losing money because of this (which is what happens if you deliver pizzas late), he may have ...


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I am answering this as someone who employs family (my own children, and yes of course I have also employed people who are not my children), and sometimes asks my staff to do things I cannot do myself. When you are asked to do something you can't do, don't quit, instead say I can't do that. Go on to say I don't know how. or I am doing all of this ...


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How can I convince him to find another career that is best fit for him? You can't. Given the description: [..]using CEO connection. there's nothing much you can do. Despite being rejected by you in the interview, he managed to find a way into your team - that's indication (not a good one though) enough. Time for you to either Find yourself a better ...


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Stay and figure out something to do. This is a spectacular opportunity. most successful software company in the country I live in I might have a different answer were this just some random firm, but you are essentially saying that you work at your country's equivalent of Shopify (for Canada) or Tencent (China). Are you a nepotism hire? Probably. Will ...


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As a result of not knowing SQL and the pressence of intellectual property laws which prevents good data base learning resources online, I can't teach myself SQL. To learn SQL, you have following options: Go to library and rent any book on SQL written in this century (as the SQL standard very rarelly changes) and catchup on recent changes if needed in ...


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Nepotism isn't necessarily the issue here. The problem is you are doing the work of a less-qualified employee. The fact that she is the wife of your boss just makes the situation more sensitive. You really need to focus on the cost of this practice to the business rather than on the individual(s) involved. From now on, I suggest that you make a log of ...


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What can my friend do in this situation? Your friend can treat the owner's daughter as he would any other employee. If that includes some sort of discipline, then he must do the same. If your friend is that worried about the situation with the owner+daughter, your friend could talk to the owner first, explain the situation, then explain what he plans to do ...


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What do I do if I realize I'm incapable of doing my job? You have two choices: Learn to do your job. Find a new company to work for. There are plenty of free resources available to learn almost anything, and if you are really interested in learning what your job is requiring you can either pay for resources. An even better option is to ask your company ...


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How best do I inform my boss about the situation? My goal is to inform my boss before this information reaches him via the grapevine. We are often coming to the office together and leaving together, and every now and then spend time with other coworkers out-of-office. People do/will notice something is going on eventually. I'd like to be ...


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In human resource management there is an anti-pattern called nepotism. It means that people in leadership positions prefer to fill positions below them with people from their own family instead of strangers who are objectively more qualified. People who practice this are often accused of putting the interests of their family above the interests of their ...


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I am going to assume that you can't reason with him, and you are using "convince" as a euphemism. As a leader, you can't "convince" people to leave. Doing so is called constructive dismissal and is illegal in a lot of places. You need to treat them like you would any other employee. Sometimes managers get handed people they don't want to deal with. That's ...


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The same as any candidate It is difficult rejecting any candidate, I always attempt to do so gently - there is no need to be harsh, if not for their sake then because the world is becoming an increasingly smaller place. Treat this candidate as you would any other and, if they aren't successful and the family member takes that out on you then they're the one ...


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No need for learning sql and setting up server environments and all the rest. Lots of companies get by using MS Access, if you have excel you should already have this because it's part of the Office bundle. It's not a tool I like, but it's there and pretty easy to use. Tutorials on almost every specific problem you're likely to face should already exist.


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There are several reasons, but none of the answers so far list the most important: legal obligations and disclosures. For large companies (and sometimes medium or even small companies) with government contracts, public shares, contests or legal disclosure requirements to other companies (partners, clients, etc.) your blood relations - and their places of ...


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I would bet that your boss is FULLY aware of this issue, and at levels you don't realize. It's probably devastating him, personally. I would put the "evidence" away, for now. This is probably a very emotional issue for your boss, and likely he was hoping being teamed up with good performers would help his son "see the light." Approach your boss with ...


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As a result of not knowing SQL and the pressence of intellectual property laws which prevents good data base learning resources online, I can't teach myself SQL. This is nothing more than an excuse, and a really bad one at that. There's a deluge of free resources online to learn SQL. A simple google search for "Sql tutorial" shows 240 MILLION results. ...


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Let's take a look at this issue from a different perspective. Imagine you are the owner of a small business. You have a teenage daughter who is generally lazy, ambitionless and an underperformer in every job she had. You think it would be best for her when you would get her to take a permanent employment, but no place wants to keep her with an attitude like ...


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This is a bad situation, but there are several points that spring to mind you are (from the context of the question) not this employee's manager. dobbing a colleague in typically doesn't result in a better workplace environment you are collecting information that you absolutely should not be you are spending company resources on unauthorised activity the ...


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Have Faith No I didn't mean have faith that the person will become competent automatically. Have faith that over time people will realize what is wrong and who is wasteful resource in the larger picture. The symptoms you showed are applicable to both nepotism as well as for under performing populists (many of them are definitely the cardinal-nephews). ...


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First you say this: His girlfriend is coming over to visit, and I just found out he wants to hire her to do some part-time design work. Then you say this: Since she’d be re-doing the design of a system I’ve made, I’m naturally concerned about being put into a position where I can’t disagree. She’s part-time. And she’s your boss’ girlfriend. And ...


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This is a no win situation for you. The boss will not appreciate being told his son is a slacker, the son won't care, he surely already knows. You can, 100% of the time, assume that in a situation where the boss's son and the other employees are in conflict, the son will win. If you want to stay at this place, you need to assume he will not be helping and ...


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I think the answer is that "blood is thicker than water" I.e. between people that are related might impose a conflict of interest with respect to decisions with people that are not related.


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You have to establish what the question is in order to get an answer. First, do you even care that Dave is earning money as a freelancer? Surely if he was at home watching TV with his family, or on campus attending lectures and earning a degree, what you care about is that you're expected to work 60 hours a week for this company (or 50, or 100, or something ...


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You have to do the following things: Do not sign it under any circumstances Take a copy of said document and store it somewhere safe (not your company) Report your boss to HR for demanding you to sign a false statement If HR does not agree to take you from her chain of command, I would look for another job. She will most certainly retaliate. If you get ...


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Unless they specifically ask "was there nepotism at your workplace" I'd leave it. Those other reasons are more than enough to want to leave anyway without having to risk appearing to badmouth your previous employer.


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If you are going to work for a small, privately-held business, you need to accept that there will always be people with a personal relationship to the owner who will get preferential treatment. If you don't like that, then work for larger businesses that do not allow nepotism. In one place where I worked the president's cousin got a free car that none of us ...


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Nepotism is a difficult problem to solve unless you are in charge, or the company is serious about tackling the issue. One of the main problems is often family will work for less money and be more loyal to a company than an outsider. Often the trade off is that they are often promoted over more qualified individuals and even put into positions they are not ...


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