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What should I do? Learn a lesson, hope company A does not initiate legal action against you, and move on. Can I file complaint against him or his organization? Forget you ever thought of this, you are the one in fault here. To elaborate, unless company B used physical means to snatch that letter out of you (which constitutes a criminal case against ...


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I believe if the company had a proper hiring procedure, they should have a clear idea about my competencies within the 3 interviews they have conducted face 2 face. I've hired more than 300 people (mostly software engineers of different seniority, UX, researchers, project managers). And there is no hiring procedure good enough to understand how somebody ...


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Am I being too difficult and egoistic or Is reference check a common thing that I need to follow and respect without questing it? Yes, you are. Reference check is common. The references are not really to check on your technical competencies, rather to check on your background and behavioral aspects. Through the interview process They don't know how you ...


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Is it okay to negotiate salary and remote work at the same time? TL;DR: Is is OK and it is expected. Think about this: in the job offer, if the organization mentioned only one responsibility and after accepting the offer, they tell you about another responsibility, and after joining, they tell you about several more - how would you feel? Put all terms and ...


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Am I being too difficult and egoistic or Is reference check a common thing that I need to follow and respect without questing it? In my view, yes. Reference checks can help fill out a sense of how a candidate is as an employee, how they fit in the wider picture of the company rather than just "can they do skilled task x". It's a lot easier for someone to ...


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Given that you have answered all the questions truthfully, and did not intentionally hide / withheld information, you don't need to be worried. If you were not asked / expected to reveal any particular information, you don't need to provide it. Just give it a couple more days. Check back same time next week, if you don't get to hear in the meantime.


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There is nothing you can do. You've already screwed up. This is what you should have told them instead. "I'm sorry, but I can not in good conscience forward a private communication sent to me from another potential employer." Please note the purposefully vague language I'm using here. It's important to not even disclose the name of ...


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I am unclear how he 'forced' you to show him the offer letter. If he said he wouldn't make you an offer without you disclosing the confidential letter from company B. It is your fault you gave in to that, you weren't forced. What you should do is learn to walk away. The boss of company B sounds like a jerk, you don't want to work for a jerk. You certainly ...


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I had offer from employer A and employer B forced me to show offer letter of A Actually, nobody can force you to do anything. I agree that company B played dirty into tricking you to provide that information, but it was you who "agreed". They were even dirtier when the contacted company A with the info from you. While company A has the right to make legal ...


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FYI, if a company is forcing you to do something you know is improper, specially doing the interview, you do not want to work for them. Second, never tell a company you have an interview/offer with another. At the very least never mention the name of the other company, but I myself would not mention other company at all. If your market is small, interviewer ...


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I am rejecting this idea NOT because I can't provide the reference, but because it is against what I believe is right. We each have the ability to stand up for what we believe is right and what we believe is important. Am I being too difficult and egoistic or Is reference check a common thing that I need to follow and respect without questing it? ...


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Should I follow up with the recruiter about this? Yes. But it sounds like you already did ("I probed the recruiter about relocation details and they responded they are still waiting on background check results"). You might wish to ask the recruiter when you should expect the background check to be completed. Should I disclose anything at this point? No....


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Negotiate for everything you want at the start. It's best to lay your cards on the table so everyone knows what is happening, no surprises further down the line. That just makes you look like you didn't think things through seriously, which is unprofessional.


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You wouldn't like it if said company kept surprising you with new contract terms every time you've agreed on something. Especially in this stage of your relationship, it's best to be transparent and open about your requests. There's also an added benefit to this transparancy; if the company is unable to meet one of your requests, let's say there's a ...


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Yes, reach out to the HR about the update. In my opinion, the best time to do that was yesterday, do it as soon as possible. As a professional, you need to know how to follow up things / activities. Consider this as a part of your training.


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Am I being too difficult and egoistic or Is reference check a common thing that I need to follow and respect without questing it? In my experience, reference checks are common in the IT sector, but not from a fixed person (Manager). In this case, rather than providing contact information of the manager, I would provide that of the HR so that they could ...


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You're right - your personality and general competency can probably be gleaned through a series of interviews. However, one of the most important parts of a reference is confirmation that you worked at the company you claimed, performing the role and responsibilities you outlined, and during the period you stated, on your application or resume. While it ...


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It is noble that you intend to be transparent with your new employer. However, it's important to remember that until your girlfriend has accepted a firm offer and made a clear commitment to her potential new employer, the plans you're talking about are essentially hopes and not concrete plans. And, to be clear, it doesn't make sense to be transparent about ...


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Remember this next time someone tries to push you around. Some people will exploit you. Some people will lie to you. Some people will take advantage of you. This is an almost inevitable certainty. You'll never be able to prevent it completely, but you can learn from past mistakes to help avoid future ones. The next time someone tries to pressure you to ...


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What strategy should I take assuming I want to stay at the company\ Excel and hope for the best. Worry less about what others are doing or making and focus on proactively making yourself into a promotion candidate rather than waiting for someone to notice you. You don't do this by antagonising people above you, you do it by making it look as if promoting ...


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The fastest way I know to getting promoted is to switch jobs every 1 year or so. According to my coworkers, many of which of whom have been in the IT field for a bunch of years (5+), they mention being promoted in-house comes hard and at times there is literally no track to getting promoted. This can happen with startups, but big companies generally do not ...


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