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Excessive Demands Prior to Start Date

What you've described is a relatively common experience in startups, especially the ones with less rigid work/life balance expectations. That doesn't mean the work doesn't respect those limits, it may,...
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I felt mistreated during the interview. How should I proceed?

Call up/email the Hiring Manager/HR rep/Agent: "Hi, I want to let you know that I am no longer interested in pursuing this opportunity. I don't believe this company is the right fit for me and ...
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Oftentimes coworkers come up to me and say, "please come with me" with no context

I started replying "I'm just in the middle of something, can we go in 10 minutes?". Entirely appropriate. If it needs to be immediate, they should explain. Replying this way encourages them ...
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How can I handle too many expectations at a job I recently joined?

Reading documentation and staring at thousands of lines of code is unlikely to lead to enlightenment however long you do it. Often the best way to learn how something works is to have a specific task ...
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How can I repair my relationship with management after accidentally getting access to a confidental document?

Good, but too long (IMO). It's typically better to keep this type of thing short and to the point. Tell them that You accessed a document to learn about performance evaluation You realized that this ...
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How to say 'no' to more work?

You're in your probation period, if you don't think the job is a good fit, this is the best time to continue job searching before you have invested much time and energy into the company. Once you have ...
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I felt mistreated during the interview. How should I proceed?

That person behaved like a jerk. We cannot possibly tell if that is what they are, or just a role they played to gain a tactical advantage to destroy your self esteem and make you accept a very ...
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Coworker keeps telling me where to sit. How can I handle this?

I asked our manager if there's a reason I must sit at the desk when the other person isn't there and he said not really as long as someone answers the phone if it rings (which is rare). If my coworker ...
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How can I repair my relationship with management after accidentally getting access to a confidental document?

If your skip skip level manager hasn't contacted you directly, do not send them any messages. There's a reason that they spoke to your manager - delegation. They've passed this on to your manager, so ...
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Manager not telling me in advance where I'll be working

I expect that you floating between sites is a "half person" problem, where they need 2.5 people at one site and 1.5 at the other (for example) and they need flexibility based on emergent ...
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How to say 'no' to more work?

Start looking for another job. You really don't want to work in such unhealthy environment. You can use the time you are left to exercise to prioritize tasks. From now on, I suggest you to tell your ...
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How can I repair my relationship with management after accidentally getting access to a confidental document?

You don't mention your location but from my UK perspective, your message is terribly brown nosing. Sure, you got access to a doc you shouldn't have seen but you don't need to make such a fuss about it....
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Company threatening me after I changed my mind on joining them after observing their work style

I would consider yourself lucky. It was great to learn about what a horrible work environment company A had prior to joining. Just don't speak with them again. Do not take their phone calls or ...
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How to say 'no' to more work?

Practice telling your manager "I can do that, but I'm already pretty fully committed. Which of my other assignments can be deferred to make time for this one, or should I put it on the to-do list ...
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I felt mistreated during the interview. How should I proceed?

Just walk away and forget about it You met a bad interviewer, they flunked their side of the interview as a result, and you now know you want nothing to do with them. The interview served its purpose ...
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Excessive Demands Prior to Start Date

This may simply be their standard requests when onboarding someone, sent out automatically by someone who isn't aware that you're not starting immediately. I'd suggest contacting them and saying ...
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Coworker keeps telling me where to sit. How can I handle this?

I tend to ignore such people. If he insists, just say "I prefer to sit at my location". If he is still persistent, then say "I will shift if my manager/boss tells me to". It is ...
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I felt mistreated during the interview. How should I proceed?

Some people are just jerks and bullies. If the person is just clueless or is acting like that because he only wants people who'll accept his verbal abuse doesn't matter. Interviews go both ...
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Oftentimes coworkers come up to me and say, "please come with me" with no context

A coworker out of nowhere asking you, "please come with me", seems incredibly weird. Unless this is common where you work it kind of seems like they do not respect you. Even if I went with ...
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Instantly regretting transferring to new team

After a couple weeks into my job another manager unexpectedly reached out and asked if I wanted to transfer ... a few days into the new team ... Couple of weeks into a job are barely enough to ...
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How can I repair my relationship with management after accidentally getting access to a confidental document?

Too long and too much "fluff". Here's what I would suggest: [Skip Level Manager Name or Preferred Salutation], My name is [my name]. I'm a new Senior Software Engineer. My manager is [my ...
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I felt mistreated during the interview. How should I proceed?

In short, keep up the job search and when they eventually write back to you, you can do the polite thing and respond that you're thankful for their time but you're currently pursuing other offers. As ...
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How to say 'no' to more work?

How can I say 'No' (politely/in a very smart way) for extra work after work time? I’m so overwhelmed I have 0 work-life balance and barely eat. When asked to work late, just say "Sorry, I can't&...
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Coworker keeps telling me where to sit. How can I handle this?

How can I handle this? By sitting at your desk as usual. Other answers you got are kind (and to the point). I would add the case where your coworker is insecure, megalomaniac or establishing the ...
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2nd day at new job, still no contract (UK)

Impossible to tell. Some (most?) companies are well organised and you would have seen the contract before formally accepting the offer. Personally I would never accept a job without seeing the ...
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How can I handle too many expectations at a job I recently joined?

I am writing this answer on top of Simon B's answer. This is a very common situation. It takes many years of experience with programming to get the feel of a work environment quickly, even then it ...
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Why did my employer not offer me a counter offer after he had said he would?

He told me he and his seniors reviewed this and there is nothing additional that they can offer me on top of what I now earn. No offer has been made. This leaves me disheartened. Why did he not make ...
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Manager not telling me in advance where I'll be working

This definitely sounds rough, so you're going to talk to your manager, efficiently. To communicate efficiently with your manager, your first task is to understand your side better. This will allow you ...
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Coworker keeps telling me where to sit. How can I handle this?

Generally it is often best to just ignore anything like this. If they don't have the authority to instruct you then don't bother getting into a dialogue over it. It prevents arguments and ...
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Coworker keeps telling me where to sit. How can I handle this?

Taking a different angle to this, if your co-worker is so concerned about the look of their desk when they're not there, but working from home, they can simply not work from home. If you accept their ...
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