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Dealing with an employee that went over my head

How do I carry on managing an employee that is willing to go right over my head on an issue like this? This is not a problem with the employee. This is a problem between you and your superior. As ...
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New manager penalising my team for 'tiredness' - how to shield them?

There's a 4th option: Call your retired infrastructure support manager and ask him for advice. He knows the right people, and may care enough about his former teams to call his contacts higher up in ...
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New manager penalising my team for 'tiredness' - how to shield them?

Get "sent home" notes in writing, preferably in emails This supports both (1) and (2), and might even get this new chap to back down a bit, because when he is forced to explicitly state "Joe Smith ...
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Preventing an exodus of other employees while mass firing others? One developer holds a lot of sway?

To be completely blunt, it sounds like your company has no idea how to manage its most valuable resources: the people. For as long as that is the case, there is nothing you can say to make the ...
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Can layoffs have a "positive" effect for a business due to the remaining employees thinking "If I don't work harder, I may be the next"?

the remaining ones will work hard in fear that if I don't work harder I may be the next Much more likely that the remaining ones will think "better jump, before I get pushed". And, the best of them ...
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Team member regularly ignores "back to office" policy

As COVID-19 status was getting better, the company announced a "Two days in the office" policy. Let's get something straight, COVID did not get better. Countries relaxed their mandatory ...
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How can I manage a remote team member who appears to not be working their full hours?

First, identify the problem. If you told me that your main concern is a little icon in your chat software, I would mentally wave you off and make sure that icon is green at all times without changing ...
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How should I deal with new trainees when, after a course, they are not able to do even a simple related task?

Just a bit of context here: I have been educator for apprentices in Germany. Apprenticeship is exactly what you describe: we hire people that are interested in software development as a job, but have ...
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Reasons someone would avoid working on career growth

That you're providing the time, tools, and resources to foster career growth is commendable. That you're trying to mandate it is not. If this person isn't interested then leave them alone. This isn't ...
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How to justify getting additional team member when the current team is doing well?

Question: How to properly justify a team increase given that we don't have an output issue? (we are delivering in an acceptable manner already) Stop working overtime and see if your team can still ...
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Preventing an exodus of other employees while mass firing others? One developer holds a lot of sway?

Hand out gobs of money. You have a bunch of all pretty mad people and some worried ones who are also very in demand in the current market, especially if this guy gives them a reference. In their ...
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How do I leave a company on good terms if my project manager views leaving the company as a form of betrayal?

Apply to jobs and once I get an offer I like, hand in my resignation. This is the only option that makes any sense. This option is completely fair and honest from my point of view, but I think that ...
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Team member regularly ignores "back to office" policy

I'm not going to question the decision to make them come into the office. I'm going to assume the company was entitled to make that decision, and that you simply have to deal with the fallout. I don't ...
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Team member regularly ignores "back to office" policy

Talk to HR, but not about the employee. You need to speak to HR, your boss, or whomever set this policy and get clarification on the policy. Ask them what should be done when an employee fails to show ...
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New manager penalising my team for 'tiredness' - how to shield them?

My general pattern for dealing with office conflicts is to try to work it out with the person (which you did, and it was fruitless) and if not to appeal to higher authority and or HR. In your case, ...
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How would you standardize on-call expectations across software teams when they've diverged at the same salary level?

I would like to go with a little frame challenge here, give you a different perspective you may have overlooked: You have one of your mission critical teams that did not have a single incident during ...
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Preventing an exodus of other employees while mass firing others? One developer holds a lot of sway?

There's nothing you can say that will convince him, because you don't have the authority to back it up. If your company regularly fires people and you have no say in this process, how could you ...
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How should I deal with new trainees when, after a course, they are not able to do even a simple related task?

You are setting your expectations much too high. You're comparing yourself and your colleague, who have been educated in computer science for multiple years (I assume at least 4 years post-secondary ...
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What should I do if I have sensed my guy wants to quit and I don't intend to keep him too?

You're reading a lot into his behaviour. Sure, those could be signs he's about to quit, but they are more general signs of unhappiness. It could mean trouble in his personal life, dissatisfaction with ...
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Trouble with boss shooting me down and telling me to just accept things the way they are

I'd say you only really have two options, if your boss isn't interested in your feedback and tells you "that's just the way things are": Do exactly what your boss asks you to do, even if it seems ...
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How can I discourage my new hire from working such long hours?

Order them to stop doing it I had exactly the same with my recent hire. Awesome guy. Absolutely smashing it. I brought it up in our first weekly one-on-one. Didn't stop him. So I started ordering him ...
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How to train an employee to be sensitive

If the employee really said "There is an inappropriate comment there, but I won't make it". Then what they said is worse than if they had blurted out something stupid about removing a ...
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Managing voluntary help I am giving remotely

You left the company already. They do not want your help. Take a deep breath and relax. Continue with your life and let them to continue with theirs. You do not have to save anybody, especially when ...
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How can I repair my relationship with management after accidentally getting access to a confidental document?

Good, but too long (IMO). It's typically better to keep this type of thing short and to the point. Tell them that You accessed a document to learn about performance evaluation You realized that this ...
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Preventing an exodus of other employees while mass firing others? One developer holds a lot of sway?

"My problem is how to convince him not to quit over us firing all the product managers. One of the fired product managers brought him into the company so I fear that she will take him out and ...
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Can I leave in the middle of a project? (programmer)

Two issues. Your taxes and quitting. ...it's been more than 5 months of overtime money that has not been paid and there are no benefits whatsoever, sometimes the salary can be late. [...] ...
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Is it a standard practice for a manager to know their direct reports' salaries?

Typically your manager decides your raise and announces your raise and new salary so, yes it's standard that they know your salary. Edit: using @Thomas Matthew comment: In many companies, a manager ...
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Parting gift for departing manager for which I didn't contribute hasn't arrived, and I'm the one supposed to give it to him

Just explain it like you did here. You didn't do anything wrong. There's no need to beat around the bush or anything. Just tell your boss "hey, I'm sorry Boss, I'm not able to give you the gift ...
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Dealing with an employee that went over my head

First and foremost, talk to your superior. You've got to start out by realising that this is not a problem with your employee, if anything, it's a problem with your boss. Unless it is typically his / ...
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How should I deal with new trainees when, after a course, they are not able to do even a simple related task?

So i'm their supervisor and as the company decided to invest in people with no-experience i have to train them and help them. Ok, there is nothing wrong with this so far. For many companies ...
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