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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off? To directly answer the question in the title: A polite way to tell him to back off would be to pretend that he made an offer to help. That allows him ...
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Delayed Written offer after verbal offer

Now, 5 days later, since the first contact with no other updates. What is best for me to do? Go ahead and contact the recruiter. They gave you a window of a day and almost a week has passed so it is ...
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Emailing coworker during bereavement time

You should just carry on normally. There was no need to specifically say colleague A doesn't need to respond or anything else. Unless given instruction by someone in authority to leave them out, it's ...
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Emailing coworker during bereavement time

Email is Asynchronous One of the great things about email is that it is asynchronous. Meaning, you send your message and the recipient can respond at a time of their choosing, or not at all. ...
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Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility

Him: "Hey, I am looking for the XYZ file." Me: "I think Katy has it" Him: "Can you have her to bring it to me?" Then you could answer with: "Sorry, I'm quite busy ...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

I'll make it very simple: If you have a communication address (email), you can send a note thanking them for the opportunity and mentioning that you're looking forward to hear from them. In your case,...
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Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility

This is what grooming is in a workplace. Leave them to do it themselves. So my first response would be "Better if you do it, it's your issue." Don't go into a convoluted justification for ...
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Delayed Written offer after verbal offer

It's literally a "don't call us, we'll call you". Trust 100% that if the recruiter had any information to get closer to making their standard 10% commission, you'd be the first to know ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

I have the role of the tech lead / architect of the team, Then act as one. I assume as a lead it's your job to divide up the work, define the tasks, assign them to team members and make sure they ...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

I agreed with the Philip Kendall’s answer. I am in the US, and have worked for many software companies. I have never sent a thank-you note after the interviews either. It is not necessary to do so if ...
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Emailing coworker during bereavement time

Send your colleague mail as normal, but note that you should not demand immediate action or acknowledgement. Doing otherwise will either result in a frozen backlog that you will have to later ...
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Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility

If this happens repeatedly, I would just ask him why he wants you to do those things for him: Him: "Hey, I am looking for the XYZ file." Me: "I think Katy has it" Him: "Can ...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

It is my understanding that it is always proper etiquette to send thank you notes to one's interviewers after an interview. This is certainly not a universal truth; I have done many interviews in the ...
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How much information is too much for "Why do you want to leave your previous employer?" in a job interview?

I'll be blunt here: an interviewer is not a therapist. Sharing even just a fraction of what you have written here will be counterproductive: Keep it simple and short. Most interviewers will ask the ...
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How to deal with new manager that humiliates a team member (me and occasionally others) almost daily

Changing the behaviour of someone is hard, especially if you have no authority over that person. You did the one thing you can do, you gave feedback. That's good. And the manager was apologetic and ...
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Reminding someone of his salary when doing a bad job

What's the English term for when someone, your boss or your lead, reminds you that you are getting paid properly, so you must do a better job? I'd just call it feedback. It means that your current ...
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How to approach someone who introduced a bug to the codebase

Follow your companies standard procedure for fixing bugs, whatever that is. If no procedure (!), raise a ticket, assign a developer (or take it yourself) and fix it. No need to make it personal. If ...
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Reminding someone of his salary when doing a bad job

I would write it off to experience as rude but constructive criticism. There is no point taking this further that I can see. You admit to have messed up at that job, so while it could have been less ...
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Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility

You need to change your responses to give him the responsibility of the task. Change: Me: "Sure, does noon work for you? I could discuss it then." to Me: "Sure, noon would work for ...
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How much information is too much for "Why do you want to leave your previous employer?" in a job interview?

If you're applying to another prison, some of this detail might be ok. But to any other job at all? Provide none of it. Anyone would dislike what you're describing -- but you're also describing a ...
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Emailing coworker during bereavement time

The normal process is: You write and send the e-Mail as usual. The bereaved person can ignore work completely, including the e-Mail. Unless they decide they need something that deflects from the ...
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Would working with a client outside work count as Conflict of Interest

I am worried of it would constitute a "conflict of interest" since the client can easily contact my company directly and since I would be working on a freelance basis I would be forced to ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

As a lead giving negative feedback is part of your job. One way to make giving negative feedback easier would be to flag that it's on the way. E.g. "I have some feedback, it's critical, is now a ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

It's clear from your question that there is a problem, but it's not clear what that is. No matter what it is, however, my advice is: Be a professional. That means doing the right thing for your ...
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UK Visa Sponsorship not in written offer

Should I ask the recruiter to include the visa sponsorship in the written offer? Yes. Call them or write them ASAP. Anything officially included in a written offer is much better than if it shows up ...
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How to diplomatically tell coworker to back off?

So the freelancer has more experience in general, more experience in this particular kind of project, he knows everything, and he listens to everything? First thing, have you tried tapping him for ...
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Reminding someone of his salary when doing a bad job

What's the English term for when someone, your boss or your lead, reminds you that you are getting paid properly, so you must do a better job? "Direct feedback" or perhaps "a warning ...
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Should I contact the company directly if the recruitement agent is not contacting me? (UK)

Unfortunately it's very common that recruiters will simply "ghost" you when you don't get the job. In my personal opinion that's rude, inconsiderate and completely unnecessary but it happens ...
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Co-worker always asks me to do small things when they aren't my responsibility

Just respond with: It probably makes more sense for you to do that [yourself]. No explanation is necessary. It's a bit blunt, but not explicitly rude and gets the point across. If they ask why, you ...
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UK Visa Sponsorship not in written offer

Yes, ask them, but be sure to ask in writing. You want this stuff written down and you want their answer to be written down as well. This includes any offer of a relocation package or visa sponsorship....

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