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shall I mention to the prospective employee that she was actively fired, not simply "being redundant"? You shall mention and answer what they ask you, and in a way you feel comfortable. You say you are not sure on the reasons why she was let go, so you can't honestly answer such questions and would be better if you refrained from speculating on the reason ...


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First off, I would try to talk my friend out of it with things like They're looking specifically for someone with 10 years, and you've only got 5 They're really interested in someone who has a lot of experience working with clients, and I thought you didn't work with clients at all They are very focused on meeting tight deadlines, and you'd be held ...


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I have been in that situation, and not only once, it is definitely an ugly decision to make. I decided to be open with my friend, and tell him that I don't feel like recommending him as I would only recommend people that I consider to be above average, and sorry, he isn't in my eyes. It is not necessary to word it that he is generally not above average (even ...


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I don’t want to be responsible if he gets the job in my company and fails as my manager would probably blame me and would likely jeopardise my position here. If he gets the job, it won't be down to your recommendation. Recommended people still have to go through interviewing and tests etc.. If he makes it through all of these it is likely due to the hiring ...


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As you clarified in the comment, your company has a public portal for job applications. Mention to your friend: We have this job portal and we're encouraged to inform any potential employee to check for the openings and apply online. This way, the process is smoother and unbiased. I'll send you the link, please let me know if you need any help / ...


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Being new yourself is not at all a reason to not recommend your friends or former colleagues, especially if you know that they are good specialists with good behavior. Your manager might not trust your judgment as much as he would trust the judgment of other colleagues, but a good manager would not skip a good chance to hire a good specialist. You have to be ...


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Depending on how close you are to him, your possible responses run from "um, that doesn't sound like what they say in the job description, but if you want me to pass along your resume I can" (with possible discussion about why you think there's a mismatch) to "dude, did you read the job description?". This latter should be reserved for really close friends. ...


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Think about it: Are you sure that Bob told the company "ams agreed to write a letter of recommendation"? Didn't it occur to you that they might have asked Bob "Anybody who might write a letter of recommendation" and Bob said "ams might write one"? The request is written by the company where Bob applied, not by Bob. You could write, without obviously lying ...


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If the person who is requesting for recommendation has not collaborated with you , but still requesting for a recommendation. You could say that you do not know him/her well and would not be the best person to recommend him/her. On the other case, if the requester has worked with you and you feel that you cannot give him/her a positive recommendation, you ...


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You say you want to help her, so help her. Stress the positives, avoid the negatives, and hope that someone will be willing to do the same for you in your hour of need. If you don't feel comfortable saying nice things about her, you shouldn't have agreed to give her a reference. It may help to keep in mind, a glowing reference from you does not ...


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After reading the question it's not clear to me if the question is about a recomendation letter or a simple CV delivery. If the latter, that's not unusual and a hiring managers should be used to this. You could take the CV and say something like: Hi [hiring manager], here is a friend’s CV for [position]. Please don't take this as an endorsement, it's ...


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Recently she was fired (I don't know any details, but it was quite abrupt). shall I mention to the prospective employee that she was actively fired, not simply "being redundant"? No. You already stated you don't know any of the circumstances or details around the end of her employment. Since you do not know the circumstances, it would not be ...


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This answer is heavily influenced by the germany tag and German work laws. Its contents might sound nonsensical, or counterintuitive, to anyone living in a more sensible different country. Links in this answer lead to German-speaking websites. TL;DR: Ignore the request, or take it to HR, who will likely tell you to ignore it. In Germany, law requires that ...


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Should I still go ahead and recommend him within the company or just let him apply standardly? Yes, you should go ahead and recommend him. While you don't have any track history within the company, you did get hired. The company thought enough of you that they feel you fit the role you were hired to perform. That gives your opinion some weight, if not a lot....


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I believe that my boss did a borderline defamation and shown unethical behavior Unless you have very deep pockets and want to engage an attorney, this is a 'so what'. Moreover, I am not sure that I want to contact him again. So, don't contact him again. You now know exactly what your ex-manger thinks of you. Move on, and don't use him as a reference. When ...


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I fully agree with Chad: You could just ignore the request and not reply at all. That is probably the best option for bobs chances. You do not want to impair his chances. You also don't want to spend a large amount of time writing a letter. So don't. You have not promised anything. You could even state this entire affair is none of your concern. So don'...


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Whenever somone asks me about it, I just say: "Sorry, i never recommend anyone, It's not personal. I'm not in possition to judge and recommend anyone. Also, you never know what might happen and I dont want to to be held accountable. Thats the rule I follow and apply to everyone no matter who they are. brother, mother, friend, girlfriend etc.". It always ...


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She is asking you to tell others that you think she'd be a good hire. If you can't do that then you need to decline. Saying yes, then subtly sabotaging her prospects is about as back stabbing as you could possibly get and, imho, incredibly unethical. When declining to be a reference you have several options. You can be brutally honest or simply not state ...


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You're being exploited by this company. They didn't need or want an intern; they wanted another employee and figured they could save a few bucks by calling it an internship. This happens all the time, and there's really nothing for you to do but get out of there as quickly as possible (especially since there's no financial risk). If you're doing work you ...


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As you've pointed out in the comments of other answers, your company has a public portal for job applications but word-of-mouth and recommendations go a long ways in the application process. "Word of mouth is very strong, and you don't need to the tests." This complicates things, because a recommendation from you may very well lead to a hiring decision ...


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Is there a way for me to actually help/endorse him and to prevent any backfire in case it doesn't go well for him ? It depends what you mean by "backfire". If you honestly believe your friend would make a good employee at your company you should go ahead and heartily recommend him. A strong recommendation from a current employee (even a new employee) ...


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What exactly is a letter of recommendation? A letter endorsing you for the goal to which you are applying. Quite frequently this is for a job opportunity, but it can also be for visas, citizenship applications, appointments to exclusive organizations or controlling boards, or other exclusive opportunities. When asking for, or writing one, it's important ...


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They won't make a German AZ for me (even not on English), because it would highly contradict their company and country standards. That's pretty obvious I think. They would be unable to do so without hiring a lawyer with knowledge in German labour law and I personally think it would provide no use for you anyway. The German Arbeitszeugnis is - as you ...


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While historically you would give a recommendation at the end of a relationship, social media (in this case LinkedIn) has changed that. It used to be that the only time that anyone would be looking at recommendations is when you're looking for a job so it stands to reason that it's the only time you would give one. These days it doesn't really matter and it ...


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The purpose of the letter is for you to say "I know this student, I've seen her work, and I think she'd would be a great fit for this role." It's nothing more than a sanity check (especially for an internship job.) You really shouldn't need to take more than a page to say that sort of thing (probably not even that - just a couple of paragraphs would be fine....


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If you wrote a good recommendation for someone else, there is no reason not to display it on your profile. This will display to those viewing your profile that you have worked well in the past with others, that you are able to show appreciation and give positive feedback, and that you are able to write cogently and effectively. It would be nice if they ...


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You might have a conversation that starts with, "Can I be frank with you? I don't feel comfortable making a recommendation." And of course, this opens up to maybe hearing, "Why not?" Be fair and honest. If this is really your friend, he/she will listen objectively. If not, you're better off. ==edit== I wouldn't bother with telling the friend why he/...


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I think what you want to write is actually a Letter of Commendation. These are used to acknowledge performance beyond expectations. A Letter of Recommendation would be written if you were recommending the person for a position, or promotion. These are generally written with a specific position in mind. Either of these letters is typically written to the ...


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