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Dating a Former Employee

Go for it. She sacrificed her job for you. Marry her while you're at it so people can't talk smack behind your back anymore. Because at that point, attacking a colleague's spouse is an HR issue.
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Is it unprofessional to car share?

Your manager is a prat1. I can't put it any more simply than that (well, I could but it would involve unprofessional language...) You've made it very clear that you've done everything possible to ...
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My previous employer has asked me to fix a bug in code that I wrote for them

Fixing the bug is not your responsibility. should I provide the assistance for free since it is my morale responsibility No. It is not your moral or legal responsibility to provide free help. You ...
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A friend/coworker and his wife are employed at the same company. He found out she's cheating. What to do?

You must separate private and professional life, and so must Josh. BTW, not that I am defending Jessica, but in splits there may be unknown quantities, things that no-one but J & J know about. ...
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HR trying to sabotage my wife's work because we're married

Is there something we could do? Having your wife report to you directly and sit in the same office (regardless of the size) is highly irregular in my experience and, sadly for you, a legit spot for ...
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Is it inappropriate to invite all my coworkers except for one person to a private event?

Would it be inappropriate to purposely exclude this guy? It's your party. That means you get to invite whomever you like and exclude whomever you choose.
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Coworker screwed up side-job I hired him for

Take your car to a professional mechanic, don't mention it to your co-worker, and never hire a co-worker again. Eat the cost for a lesson you won't soon forget. It's not wise to do business with co-...
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High performing employee broke up with his girlfriend and it seems to be affecting his performance

Simple answer: You can't More complex answer: This is something your employee needs to work through like any other loss. You can give him an unofficial notice that it's affecting his work and ...
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Colleague commenting negatively on my look

At first she usually put it as a joke, but lately, she started openly insulting me in front of other colleagues with "just shave that, you look terribly" etc. Thats not okay. You need to push ...
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Is it unprofessional to car share?

No, it's not unprofessional. (and I echo Philip Kendalls' thoughts). Some organisations actively encourage car sharing - I used to work for a major clothing retailer in the UK and they offered a ...
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Coworker reviewing code too late in process

Unless Clint finds any major, “do not deploy”, bugs, I would simply thank him for his feedback and explain to him how you intend to address the points he raises (if valid) in future releases. If he ...
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HR trying to sabotage my wife's work because we're married

Lord forgive me, but I am actually on HR's side this time. Your arrangement is an HR office's worst nightmare.... Nepotism Fraternization Liability for lawsuits... Having a spouse be a direct ...
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High performing employee broke up with his girlfriend and it seems to be affecting his performance

I don't agree with the other answers here, and coming from someone who has been in a similar situation - I'll explain. Don't ignore the problem Other answers have mentioned to skirt around the topic. ...
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Is it inappropriate to invite all my coworkers except for one person to a private event?

If you are all peers, it is simply very, very rude. It sounds like you may not care about that, since the person who you want to exclude deserves to be excluded. If you are a manager, then it gets ...
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How to reclaim personal item I've lent to the office without burning bridges?

If it is your personal property then you have every right to ask him to return it. Ask now to give him time to sort his own replacement or you might consider selling it to him.
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Dealing with attraction to my boss

You may not be able to control your feelings, but you can control your actions. So the first thing, staring at your boss ( or any other employee ) is simply creepy and in some locations can be ...
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A coworker is asking me to stop sharing links from Bloomberg because he thinks it risks our business. Is he right?

If this person is not your boss or a decision maker in the organization I would ignore him. If he is your superior however, do what he says even if it does not make any sense. You might want to ...
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Senior colleague feels threatened by me, an intern

It's obvious your co-workers know your capabilities whether you "allow" your supervisor to shine or not. Just keep doing your work as impressively as you have been and treat your supervisor how you ...
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Co-worker knows a small fact about me and blowing it out of proportion

If he keeps behaving this way, you will have to confront him. Here's something you can try: "It's time for you to drop this. I know it's terribly amusing for you but I consider flirting with co-...
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Dating a Former Employee

I dated someone from work at a similar size company who was senior to me (although I was not a direct report and she was the level below C-level). When we made our relationship public (shortly before ...
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Should money be paid as a motivation to testers and developers for detecting and producing bugs?

It seems like a dreadful idea. Here's a few things that will happen, in addition to your developers and testers starting to hate each other and yourself for introducing this: Everyone will focus on ...
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How can I help my direct report to understand he is not being micromanaged?

No, there isn't. Brent is convinced he's being persecuted and actual reality will not sway him from that conviction. Let him go; he's on the edge. His next manager will also be a micromanager, and ...
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Found a co-worker on a dating website. How do I approach them?

Found a co-worker on a dating website. How do I approach them? You approach them through the dating site. On the dating site she is presumably open to being approached by other people, at work that ...
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How do I evaluate a manager I have a negative opinion of?

Given the situation and the (likely) motivation behind the Director asking each of your team, I think I'd advise the following: Be factual, truthful, and CAREFUL. Consideration #1: You are all being ...
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How to convince new employee to stop trying to change our office culture on profanity

This is not about profanity at all. It's about understanding (or accepting) that different people (and groups) have different rules. a new employee keeps saying "no profanity at work place" What ...
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Should money be paid as a motivation to testers and developers for detecting and producing bugs?

I read an idea for increasing productivity in a company. It went like this: Have a certain fund, that will be a bonus. Say $100,000. For each tangible bug found, the testers get paid $5 - $15. ...
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How do I handle a potential work/personal life conflict as the manager of one of my friends professionally?

TL;DR - There is nothing, absolutely nothing you need / should do to react in a professional capacity. Just carry on, business as usual. I also act normal since I don’t merge my professional and ...
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Colleague I "hired" watching football - am I responsible?

Is it even the problem? I frequently watch nature documentaries while working. Yes, I miss most of it, but while my code is building I can learn something about dolphins. I suppose it depends on the ...
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Co-worker knows a small fact about me and blowing it out of proportion

This kind of person thrives on the idea that you are uncomfortable with his behaviour, and confronting him simply confirms to him that he is getting a response. Simply ignore it - if in the middle of ...
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