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Tl’dr: I am a European who has worked for half of my adult life in Asia – in Hong Kong, mainland China, Japan and just short of ten years in Singapore – plus a few years for Asian companies in Europe. Of course, when working in Asia, I also visited other Asian countries often for tourism, as my purchasing power was high. And I envy you !! Go! Go now, and ...


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I understand your trouble, from what I've read, the work culture may vary a lot on where you're working. If my sources are correct, the population is mostly of Chinese origin, so you should check how they behave at work. I've found out they are quite rigid, have a strong hierarchical culture and some delicate behavioural aspects, like being extra careful ...


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Do I need to do or say anything to B now, after learning that he is leaving when I never extensively interacted with him, except those instances I described, and occasional work projects? You could write him an email saying that you enjoyed working with him, and wishing him well in his future career. You weren't close and don't have to pretend to be, but ...


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from your post, emphasis mine: do I need to do anything at this time, like come and praise B for his work and contribution to the company, and his background, or express any other communication, while he is still employed at the company? I feel like I had to do something before which I never did, and hence wanted to do a last ditch effort while he is ...


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No answers provided a clear and complete approach, so here is what you should do in my opinion. You have to: Collect all evidence of the blackmail Report to the police as soon as possible (assuming blackmail/harassment is an offense in your country). Do not wait, you should do that today. The main issue I see in your case is that you entered in the game ...


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In case you are in Germany, you may ask a lawyer to draft an "Strafbewehrte Unterlassungserklärung" which you send to your former girlfriend to sign (she would have to pay if she does, if not you would have to pay and can sue her). She attempts something which could be considered "Sexuelle Noetigung", which could bring her a few months in jail.


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You should save all the evidence and turn it over to the police. May have to pretend to meet her demands while the police investigates.


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Let's be reasonable, bowing before the CEO and waiting for him to eat are customs or rituals. Work places in every country and industry have their own customs, rituals, and formalities, and it also varies heavily from company to company. Fulfilling various customs, rituals, or formalities is definitely not the same as sacrificing your life for these ...


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The issue is not getting your work life/interpersonal relationships at work ruined by someone blackmailing you. Say to your colleagues/boss that your ex is blackmailing you based on the intimate relationship you had with her in the past. Say clearly that she is trying to force you into a relationship you do not want anymore. You do not need to mention any ...


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As long as you have no function in this legal battle it's probably ok to keep it secret. Don't actively try to obtain and pass on information from what you see in the company to your girlfriend, and try to stay away from the whole thing. Staying away also means that you for some time refrain from all things which could contribute to a bad reputation of your ...


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Describe her or show a photo to the doorman and security detail at your employer's premises and instruct them to deny her access to the building. Say that she's stalking you and will cause a disturbance. If possible, let your supervisor or boss know that you've done this. You might want to tell HR also. The point is not to keep her away but to establish ...


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(depends on location) Blackmail is a criminal offence, so go to the police. Also I doubt your employer would give her the time of day. No employer will be interested in hearing this. If she tells your colleague, then just say she's a crazy stalker you've been trying to get rid of.


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