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Looking for a new job because of relocation - is it okay to tell the real reason?

Tell them that you are relocating, there is no shame in this. No reasonable employer will form a negative opinion of you due to the fact that you are relocating to be with your husband. Any employer ...
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Spouse is leaving the company we both work for. I will follow but much later. How to handle questions?

If your primary goal here is to avoid burning bridges, then I think this is one of the rare situations where you should probably admit you're planning to leave. Yes, you might get burned for it (ie: ...
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Company paying for expensive flights - is there any precedent for re-allocating that money?

There's no harm in asking, but you probably shouldn't be expecting them to allow you to take a cash alternative. The chances are that they're paying for business class flights because they want you ...
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Company did not petition for visa in a timely manner. Is asking me to work from overseas, but wants me to take a paycut

Is it wrong to expect that they continue my current pay scale if they want me to continue to work for them from a different location due to an administrative mistake ? Nope, and you should tell ...
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How strictly should I take "Candidates must be local"?

The general rule I follow for applying for jobs is that if I want it, I apply without worrying about minor things that might not work out. I would recommend you follow that here as well. ...
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How to politely tell recruiters you're only interested in jobs in a specific location?

I have a friend who is a successful telesales manager and he told me he likes clear yes and clear no because clear answers don't waste anybody's time. For that reason I suggest you tell him in the ...
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Company paying for expensive flights - is there any precedent for re-allocating that money?

I am pretty sure that those 4 round trip flights would be considered a business expense. However, if your company paid off your student loans this would not be considered a business expense. There ...
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Company did not petition for visa in a timely manner. Is asking me to work from overseas, but wants me to take a paycut

Talk to your manager, not HR. I've seen this happen before, including with an employee I managed. Not everyone wins the H1-B lottery and the best the company can do is to have you work remote in ...
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I want to ask company flying me out for office tour if I can bring my fiance, entirely at my own expense

Your specific question was, My question is whether this is an appropriate thing to ask of my prospective employer in the first place, and if so, how I would go about phrasing this question. Given ...
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Should I tell potential employers I'm job searching because I'm engaged?

I would simply tell them that I have decided to move to their city. Whether it is to be with a fiance, to care for an aging parent, or simply because you prefer the weather, scenery, and nightlife is ...
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Should I decline this job offer that requires relocating to an area with high cost of living?

You need to remember that recruiters get paid a high percentage of their wages through commission. The recruiters job is to get you from just a CV, to interviewing and hopefully joining a company. ...
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HR Uninterested in Substituting Cash for Relocation Despite Lower Cost

Combination of the fact that they do not pay the same as if you opened a phone book (read: web browser) and picked a moving company to call, and the fact that they sort of count on some people ...
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Spouse is leaving the company we both work for. I will follow but much later. How to handle questions?

Be upfront about it. Offering a slightly different angle: I wouldn't worry about getting fired early if you are are upfront about it. I hear this argument a lot, but personally I haven't seen a ...
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Should I decline this job offer that requires relocating to an area with high cost of living?

My question is, what is the next step in this negotiation or is this where I decline the offer and walk away? If you are firm on what you require, and you believe they are firm on what they ...
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Looking for a new job because of relocation - is it okay to tell the real reason?

My husband recently got a new job that he really wanted, but the office is in a different city Nothing wrong in supporting a spouse/partner in a great opportunity. some of them said that potential ...
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Company paying for expensive flights - is there any precedent for re-allocating that money?

There are reasons why your company might want their employees to fly business class instead economy class: They see a business value in ensuring that their employees are relaxed when they arrive at ...
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How strictly should I take "Candidates must be local"?

It means no visa sponsorship and no relocation fees. If you're willing to relocate on your own dime, they don't have a problem with it. You can even mention to them that you'd be willing to have ...
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How to politely tell recruiters you're only interested in jobs in a specific location?

Literally, just ask them. This is not rocket science. Them: Hi Cameron! Do you have a few minutes to talk about a potential opportunity? You: Sure, why not. Just to check, though, is it ...
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Looking for a new job because of relocation - is it okay to tell the real reason?

Would it be okay to just honestly answer that I like my job, but I have to relocate because of my husband's new job? Answering honestly is virtually always the correct course of action. Even more ...
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Just got hired but have to move all of a sudden

Be honest with them. Explain your situation. Make sure you tell them that you are sorry and that this was an unexpected move. Maybe they'll let you work for a few weeks, maybe not. Either way, you'...
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Company did not petition for visa in a timely manner. Is asking me to work from overseas, but wants me to take a paycut

Unfortunately, HR did not file paperwork on time, and my visa will expire in a month. Lesson learned here: NEVER let HR handle an immigration issue for you. I've seen departments even in otherwise ...
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How to approach an unresponsive potential employer after signing a contract and waiting for my Visa

The other part is that I'm still working full time, and I don't know if I should quit yet You don't have a new job yet, so do not resign. You don't need to ask your new manager if you should quit. ...
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HR Uninterested in Substituting Cash for Relocation Despite Lower Cost

Am I just a bad negotiator, or is this corporate America and I need to get used to it? Would it be too persistent to call my rep again to discuss? Your new company likely already has an agreement in ...
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Company paying for expensive flights - is there any precedent for re-allocating that money?

precedent for asking that money to be reallocated YES. I have heard of at least two companies that offer Business Class as an entitlement on long haul flight but will give the traveler a fixed amount ...
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Repayment of relocation expenses

If it's not in the contract, it's not in the contract. An "offer letter", as has been stated elsewhere on this site, is not a contract and does not form part of one (in the UK at least; check your ...
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Should I tell potential employers I'm job searching because I'm engaged?

Definitely not. Most employers associate "recently engaged" -> "wants a family" -> "will soon become pregnant" -> "will soon go on maternity leave". There is a reason why many countries do not allow ...
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Looking for a new job because of relocation - is it okay to tell the real reason?

Just another thought: do you absolutely have to find a new job? I used to work for a software company. One guy had to move to a different country for exactly the same reason as yours. And the company ...
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After applying to a job in another city, why would an HR person ask me if my move is dependent on a job offer?

A recruiter may have several reasons. To see if you'd require relocation assistance To keep you in mind for other opportunities in that same city To gauge your interest in the job The employer may ...
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How to deal with a misleading employer?

I used to teach job-hunting classes, so here's what we taught, I'll address the salary first: Who here wants a job paying $100,000? Raise your hands! After all the hands went up, we said: ...
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How to tell my boss i can't relocate anymore, after i accepted in the first place?

How to tell my boss i can't relocate anymore, after i accepted in the first place? You just tell him. Your boss may be sympathetic to your case and try to help you out. More likely, he will remind ...
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