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It seems to me that your boss believes the reasons you are leaving are entirely about you: your loss, your grief, your health. Your boss hopes that in a few months, these reasons will change leaving you back where you were before the loss: liking your job and happy to do it. If you have information that your boss doesn't (actually I was getting pretty fed ...


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Did she basically tell me to look for another company? If this is your main and only question, I will just answer that instead of telling you what you should do. It is impossible to tell with complete confidence what she meant when she told you what she told you. However, I would interpret more as: "Stop complaining, focus on your work by looking at ...


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If it is your personal property then you have every right to ask him to return it. Ask now to give him time to sort his own replacement or you might consider selling it to him.


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One of the things that happens during the notice period is that the company claims all its property back, and the employee claims all their property back. Many companies even have a formal process for getting the departing employee to turn over the laptop, phone, key, and credit card... Now it is possible that it hasn't occurred to your local manager that ...


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Depending on your location, the probation period may work both ways, in which case it would be well within your rights to make use of it and leave your current employment for greener pastures (and twice the salary is indeed greener). You'll always have the option to resign according to the terms of your contract or local laws. Employers often like to use ...


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Am I subtly told to resign? In this case: Why / what does it matter? Always remember: HR is not our friend, they will always try to protect the company's interest. In this case, HR sees (or, you are portrayed as) you as someone who is complaining, and given that you started the process "anonymously" and got exposed later - somehow depicts either of two: ...


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All great answers above. In short yes, you are told to deal with it or resign I'm a senior developer now (10+ years) but I've been through this stage of struggle in personal development. If you've had regular formal reviews, it is a common practice to belittle your achievements and exaggerate your failures, which usually means another yellow/red flag to ...


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Be grateful for the opportunity. It seems your boss is really valuing your work. Do not dismiss this opportunity right now. Wait the three months and see where you are then. You can always decide after three months to not return. I'm worried there will be something weird in the contract? If the wording of the contract is unclear, or if you are afraid it ...


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For reasons, you can say something like Pursuing other career prospects outside of the company which is closer to my needs. You should not have to explain anything more. Would it be considered unethical? The fact that you are leaving during probation or you are quitting to go to a competitor may not be considered as unethical. However, you using ...


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I believe that the message was more like, "We aren't going to be able to restructure every aspect of your work experience to your satisfaction, so if you're serious about these complaints, you should just move on." So it may be a gentle attempt to get to commit to dealing with the reality of things staying as they are or commit to leaving, but I wouldn't ...


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That's terrible and I'm very sorry. Please do seek out professional help. You are absolutely NOT doomed to resign. You can get help from your doctors, your insurances and also from your employer and their HR department. Your job and you way you go about it will probably change in some non-trivial way but there are plenty of support systems that can help ...


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I know a guy who is quadriplegic and has two degrees and a phd. He only has one functioning hand and is bedridden. Software development is about your intellect not your typing speed. Any half decent boss will make accommodations to keep your intellect and your experience.


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One possible reason for the formal contract could be that your boss is not sure if he is going to be in the company in three months. If he i still there when you return, he could just give you a new contract but if he leaves, his promise will just be forgotten and he cannot help you anymore. By giving you a contract, he makes the promise official and binds ...


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Do you work with your girlfriend in the same job or at the same company. If not, don’t get involved. Your job is to listen, let her vent and make her feel better. You should not be pressuring her to act or do things she might not want to do. You are creating more stress. Buy some wine. Clean the bathroom. Make a nice meal. Give her a massage


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You did a co-worker a personal favor - ask for the phone back the same way you would if you had lent it to an acquaintance outside of work. If your colleague wants to hold on to the phone a bit longer, or seems frustrated that you want it back, it's up to you whether you insist on the phone's return or let him/her continue to use it. Focus on leaving on ...


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Any ideas how should I handle this? Unless she has some sort of legal claim, essentially a contract that grants her XXXXXX, you should completely ignore this. Do not respond to her further. If she goes through the expense of obtaining legal council, then and only then, engage a lawyer on your behalf. Also, paying her when you don't have to might make ...


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This answer is written keeping your current context in mind and my experience working in India. What I want to know is if I abscond this organisation, would they be able to take any serious actions? I am assuming you have already completed the paperwork and signed the offer letter and any other papers. So, absconding is never a good idea. It could be ...


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I quit a job of 5 years and moved out of state. My company had never hired a person working out of state to work remote because it is a state funded agency and that's frowned upon. Five weeks later my former boss and I had a meeting and he outlined a proposal he would make to the powers that be... seven weeks later mountains had moved and I had my laptop ...


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Yes, they would have to pay you in almost all developed countries in the world. You've essentially left (very early) during your probationary period, so the company would have to pay you in full for all the days you have worked thus far, and then terminate your employment contract.


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Going to throw in another interpretation: There are issues in the company. There are reasons for those issues, as we have previously discussed. We can't magically make them go away, so either be part of the solution, adapt, be silent (not specifically mentioned as an option), or go away. Complainers accomplish little. It sounds like you've already spoken ...


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Go see a lawyer. It sounds like the company is trying pin something on you and the most effective defense is a registered letter by a lawyer and that a) clearly states that you have followed all processes and procedures, b) and that they should cease and desist in making false accusations or you will take formal legal action. I many cases a formal letter ...


10

You have two main concerns, it seems: Not burning any bridges. Not violating any ethical constraints. So here ya go: First off, don't violate any legal or contractual obligations. You didn't give a location, so we can't say if those exist for you. If you're in the United States and didn't sign a contract guaranteeing you'd work for X weeks, then you're ...


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They are promising orally that offer letter would be sent in a month I can promise you over the phone that you will get rich, famous and own your own set of Yachts. (And there are business models build on doing just that for money). But should you believe that and resign because of that? Probably not. I'm sure they only accept written statements (or would ...


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I do software engineering and I know someone that lost their dominant hand in an accident and now uses their non-dominant hand to code. You wouldn't notice anything was amiss based on their work Unless you're writing documentation, does it honestly matter how fast you can type? In my experience, the quality of code is not set by how fast you can type it, ...


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Any suggestions for how to handle this? Just resign from the company and don't sign any contract. Since you do not plan on returning to the company there is no need to give your boss the impression that you will return. Your statements below indicate that you are not going to return: I think he doesn't want me to quit or thinks that I will change my ...


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HR are not stupid enough to directly pressure you to leave. That may be illegal in your country anyway. But I would translate the coded message as "The company is not going to change any time soon. That piece of information may be useful to you when making your own decision about your future career plans." Informally, you have already been marked down as ...


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Since this is Indian context, you should read your joining letter very carefully from the MNC you have already joined - it will contain clauses as to what you can and can not do with respect to prematurely ending your employment. Many companies keep a seven day notice period during the first three months (of probation) - if you have that, use it to tell ...


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This seems a straight forward case to form some sort of local worker representation inside the institution, or join a regional or national union and put pressure on management. Such misuse seems pretty common in the health care sector. Since there was already a chance for higher management to properly clean up their institution it seems it is one of the ...


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It is no surprise at all that getting a replacement phone "never happened". Once your phone was available, there was no longer a problem, so there was no priority for doing anything else. If you are leaving in two weeks, you certainly need to remind your manager about this - by now, it's quite likely he has completely forgotten where the current working ...


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Losing the ability to type is not the end. You can use voice recognition to program. The video I'm linking below is one I've watched before and know is a good example of the general principles even if it may not be your current stack. It's Bash/Emacs and Python. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SkdfdXWYaI I have seen enough other demos linked over the ...


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