It seems to me that your boss believes the reasons you are leaving are entirely about you: your loss, your grief, your health. Your boss hopes that in a few months, these reasons will change leaving you back where you were before the loss: liking your job and happy to do it.
If you have information that your boss doesn't (actually I was getting pretty fed ...
It's only been 2 weeks...
I'd argue that you don't have to mention this job at all. When asked why you're job searching you can explain why you left your previous position.
If for any reason you can't omit a job from your work history no matter how short (locale, the type of job you're applying for, etc.), you can be honest without going into details:
Create the documentation you would otherwise make for this sysadmin and leave it at that. If this coworker is deliberately sabotaging the knowledge transfer then let him (and the company who employed him in a senior position) pay the price. It isn't your problem anymore. Do what you agreed to do and prepare the KT docs. Don't do any more than what you are ...
Your employment is not dependent on others' employment (or resignation). Period.
If you chose to leave, you are free to, provided you fulfill the requirements as mentioned in the contract regarding the exit process.
If the organization has a backup plan, they will work according to that. If they don't have one: not your problem.
If they feel they cannot ...
Did she basically tell me to look for another company?
If this is your main and only question, I will just answer that instead of telling you what you should do.
It is impossible to tell with complete confidence what she meant when she told you what she told you. However, I would interpret more as:
"Stop complaining, focus on your work by looking at ...
A business would not hesitate to terminate you if it was important for the business success. You should not hesitate to terminate the business if it's important for your success.
The company is not family.
You actually ARE in a position to change this. You lead by example.
You can start using version control locally for your changes. You can simply 'commit' everyone else change at the same time. You will always be able to recover previous versions and compare things to prior versions.
You can also offer to do this for the company. Setting up version ...
Go online and change all the passwords now for your personal accounts.
Obviously the OP no longer has access to the work machine, so this means either using a machine at home or even going to an internet cafe or equivalent to log in to all accounts as necessary and change passwords.
Work associated accounts like work email they will be able to, and have ...
It's hard to deal with constant manipulation. Two weeks of this nonsense will surely be a challenge. It may be tempting to sabotage, lash out, not show up for work, or otherwise try to avoid the problem or strike back. But do your best to be the professional one in this scenario, and keep the following guidelines in mind:
Disengage and de-escalate. Do your ...
Yes, you have been wronged. You can quantify exactly how much you were wronged (in the short run): three days' lost wages.
Politely ask for back pay and whatever documentation is necessary to show any future inquiry that you were not at fault. If you really have a normal, professional relationship with this director, then you will get back pay, and an ...
Is that too much to ask?
Not at all, rather they should be providing you with the written offer, before you ask.
DO NOT, I repeat, do not resign until you have a signed and sealed contract / offer in your hands.
There can be many reasons why your former boss cannot show you the contract before you resign - and none of the reasons are reasonable. This is ...
Indeed this is a big red flag. By requiring you to join them and quit your current job first, your position to negotiate any terms in that offer letter is significantly compromised.
I would recommend refusing to join them before having a signed contract in hand.
I had someone recommend that I completely leave this job off resume
and simply tell potential recruiters/interviewers that I took some
time off to travel and whatnot. I think that might look better than
trying to explain why i left a big insurance company after 5 months.
That someone gave you bad advice. You would be better off not lying. Imagine a ...
Any offer can be revoked at any time.
Your plans might have changed. Your new employer might want to send you on weekend training. You might just not feel like it.
Even if you signed a contract to do that job, you can resign from it, just like you resigned from your current job.
If it was a verbal offer, it goes where all of upper-management's verbal ...
Would you want a co-worker to alert management if they suspected you were leaving?
The problem here is that you could really damage someone's career by precipitating his termination before he finds another job. Sadly, the job market is extremely harsh and "red-flags" any candidate who happens to be unemployed.
It's just work, let it go, what's the worst ...
How to gracefully leave a company you helped start?
Speak with the other partners in an open and honest manner. Explain as you have here, and provide a reasonable notice -- say 30 days in this case before departing. This is plenty of time to hire up, knowledge transfer, etc.
Also, if you desire, offer up a per hour consultant role, where you could be ...
So my question is : can my resignation be considered as abusive?
Slavery time is over, and if a company does not want to lose you, they are free to rectify whatever bothers you to convince you to stay. But you certainly are free to resign from a job whenever you please, and given the 3 months notice period, there is no way for it to constitute an "...
The appropriate thing to do here is to ask to be paid. They're not training you in web development (or the fashion industry), they're just using you for free labour. Look up contract web developer rates and start from there.
I see comments about how you could cripple the company - use this to your advantage to get a fair deal. At this stage they have ...
my manager was made to undergo anger management training
I don't know about your situation, but Alcoholics Anonymous have Step 8 & 9 in their program:
Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure ...
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It's perfectly reasonable to say to someone "Sorry to hear you're leaving. What's next for you?" in an appropriate environment, like a private personal conversation. "What's next?", or "where's next?" are generally easier topics than "why" (as noted by Frank Hopkins in comments), but might serve as a segue to "why?"
Still, they might not want to answer, ...
You do not get offered health insurance, you are no longer getting your full 40hr per week as promised when you first started, and you have yet to get one raise in 4 years.
No need to feel guilty.
And as DarkCygnus (and everyone else) will tell you, sign a new contract before you give notice.
They keep insisting that I give them my joining date with them.
The way I see it from your statement: They are not asking you explicitly to resign from your current organization, they are asking you to provide them with a tentative date of joining them, that they can use in the offer letter. It's not very uncommon thing.
Tell them you joining date will be (...
Never accept a counter offer.
Your company paid you less than what they think you are worth for quite a while, so you should hold that against them. If you get a raise, you know that will be your last raise ever. And they know now you might leave, so you are a marked man or woman and they will get rid of you as soon as they can.
Some people make promises ...
My question is how I can convey that I'll be actively pursuing external opportunities if I don't get this promotion without it sounding like a threat.
You can't, because it is a threat. In reality, you gain nothing by announcing that you will be actively pursuing external opportunities. In fact, you are more likely to hurt yourself by doing so.
If you ...
Should I let management know that I consider leaving the company due to these practices?
Never say directly that you are thinking of leaving - as soon as management know that you're not committed to the company, that always puts you at risk of being out of a job without a new one to go to.
Or at least let them know that I am growing quite frustrated?