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Yes you are missing something: HR IS NOT YOUR FRIEND Every last meeting like this, they are building a file on you. The proof of this is the tone of the last meeting demonstrated. The next step is likely to start requiring doctor's notes. The fact that they suggested you might be attending sporting events indicates that they are VERY suspicious of you ...


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I feel really bad for him and want to approach him to offer condolences. However, I wasn't supposed to know in the first place, and don't want him to feel uncomfortable. If this coworker had wanted you to know, he would have told you. Thus, you must hold your comments to yourself until such time as he chooses to make things public (if he does at all). ...


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I had a single parent friend who nearly lost her job due to taking too many sick days for her and her daughter. When she mentioned to my wife and a mutual friend that she was on her last warning they both stepped in and started taking her baby when she couldn't go to daycare. Be open with this guy that a problem exists, that too many sick days are hurting ...


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My question is, is this an appropriate way to express my concern and apologize if I accidentally spread my illness to him? I think you may be worrying about this a bit too much, and if you provide inaccurate information you could cause more harm than good. Unless you are 100% certain you caused this persons illness, there really isn't much to say and an ...


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Usually for me, the following simple phrase suffices: I wasn't feeling too great yesterday, but am feeling a bit better today. Thank you for asking As your coworkers are supportive, the odds are they want to know that you're OK - you don't need to disclose any more than that to them. If you show gratitude for their concern and indicate that you're ...


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He follows all the company policies for sick days, so from the HR perspective there is no problem. Then there's no problem that needs resolving. Should I approach his sick days in the feedback meeting? No. If the employee is complying with the company sick leave policy then there isn't anything you need or should do. While I understand that you may ...


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Just because you were on leave, doesn't mean you stopped working for the company. It's still N years. If you really must mention it "I worked for company X and did great job, in spite of overcoming a serious illness", then do so, but you'll make the interviewer really uncomfortable. I think you're worrying over an inconsequential and missing the big ...


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Please take care of your health and well being. Talk to your boss at the earliest. Your mental well-being has a much higher priority than work which is a never-ending process. Having an understanding boss makes things really easier as you have one less thing to worry about. It would be good for both you and the company that you communicate your concern at ...


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Question: am I supposed to reply to urgent work emails even if I am not fit for work? No. You decided you weren't fit enough mentally to be working, and your doctor and HR agreed to put you on leave so that you could not work, and so that you could spend your time recovering. So stop working and recover. Stop checking emails. Doing anything else risks ...


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As a person with "hidden" disabilities myself, I would appreciate if, instead of telling her (you would probably unintentionally communicate a botched version of my disability and how it affects me at work), you let me know (in private) that "When I used to work here I overheard you and manager discussing your problems with X, I have now heard that some ...


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It must first be addressed that under UK law, you can "self certify" for up to 7 days. This means you call in sick and you diagnose yourself. Anything above that requires a doctors note. It also means that, in reality, unless you're under a review specifically about your attendance, they're not supposed to accuse you of being anything other than ill. The ...


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It is always important to avoid the appearance of impropriety. While there is nothing wrong with working on your project per se, an employer might take a very dim view if they note any time stamps showing you were doing work during your sick time. I know I'd raise an eyebrow at that. While realistically, the risk to your career is minimal, it may still ...


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Well, you seem physically incapable of performing your duties at the moment. That's the bottom line, really. Your health should be your primary concern. Unfortunately, your health is not your manager's primary concern. His is getting the work done. If I were you, I would make a few things clear to your manager: You are not ready to come back to work, and ...


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I suggest you offer your employee reduced hours - say 32 a week. Then you pay him only for that, and you plan around that. Your plan might be that he doesn't work Fridays. Your arrangement would then be that if someone gets ill during the week, he takes that day off and works Friday. You can plan the schedules and other people's work around getting 32 hours ...


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This is an absolute no-go. See page 129 of the Equality Act 2010 Code of Practice: https://www.equalityhumanrights.com/sites/default/files/employercode.pdf Pre-employment enquiries about disability and health 10.25 Except in the specific circumstances set out below, it is unlawful for an employer to ask any job applicant about their disability or ...


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My wife has a mass in her lung. It's likely cancer. First of all, I'm sorry about your mom. You're going to continue to be a mess. You need to tell your boss. It's not a matter of whether it's professional or not. You've got a serious personal issue that you have to deal with and whether it directly impacts your boss or not, it does so indirectly. I ...


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It isn't entirely clear from your post whether you're dealing with negative comments or if you're just trying to proactively tell the group about your health. Dealing with negativity I'm also on 80% work and, while some colleagues know the reasons for it, others have made a few snarky comments about how I'm never around. I try to ignore most of the ...


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To a great degree you are at home sick because the company doesn’t want you to come in and infect everyone, and that is actually the biggest reason. The other reason is that with some illnesses you will be unable to focus and think straight, and achieve little or actually cause more harm than good. You seem to be effectively spending time to learn, which ...


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am I supposed to reply to urgent work emails even if I am not fit for work? If you are on sick leave, you are not supposed to check emails. You are on sick leave, not on standby. As you are not checking emails, you cannot reply, no matter how "urgent" it may be.


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I am assuming you are in a country where being sick is a protected status and you cannot be fired for it. If this is not the case, you need to fight for better labor laws and until then find a better manager. The first mistake you made was asking. You don't ask people, when you don't want them to pick the answer that suits them. Asking is creating the ...


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Do I inform HR now Yes. At this point since HR is involved, be open and honest and tell them everything related to the incident. If you're going to the doctor due to what happened, then yes you need to tell them. I am not a fan of getting HR involved in anything unless you have to, but when you do, be completely transparent as it relates to the incident ...


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The question is far from stupid, and a lot of people take it for granted as well. I would call in, and ask, but if your symptoms are not 100% gone, I would probably stay out till they are pretty much gone. Your employer, if a good one will probably tell you to stay out till you are healthy to come back in, perhaps with a doctor’s note, but not always. ...


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You are jumbling up at least 3 categories of problems: those you can help with, those that you should advocate for someone to do better at, and those you need to just accept and stop worrying about, because it's making you sick. Exactly which is which depends on your company, but I can take a stab at some of them. My suggestion to you is that next time you ...


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You don't need to feel uncomfortable about stating that you worked there N years. Your sick leave happened within your employment. If you had taken annual leave, maternity leave, caregivers leave, whatever leave, it doesn't change when you started employment and when you ended employment with that company. Nobody is expecting you to deduct leave. It is ...


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So Carl and Mike have to assume that he'll not attend and thus have a conference ticket to spare. Don't assume, ask. Eric already called in sick, so try contacting him by that same mean. Consider giving him a call in case there is a chance he won't see his email. Now, being written or spoken, try something in the lines of: Hello Eric. Sorry to hear you ...


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Here's my guidelines: Contagious? Prime on the list is not infecting others. Coughing, runny nose, vomiting, problems on the ahem other end - not only is it potentially infectious, but it's not usually something that your coworkers want to experience with you. Unless you have a situation where the world will literally fall apart when you are gone, go ...


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How bad does this look to your new employer? I don't really think this is a big deal at all. Tell the truth, back up your sick claim with a doctor's note if possible and carry on. Make sure you actually talk to your manager ( as I am sure you sound sick ) as well as send an email. If the employer doesn't respect your courtesy and common sense in ...


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