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Do I have to attend a work Christmas party?

Unless you actually have a medical condition (e.g. anxiety) which would mean that going to the event is going to be a serious problem for you, just go. If the company chooses to pay you to go to an ...
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Do I have to attend a work Christmas party?

Yes they are. You are to report to work as normal. If your work today consists of a Christmas party than so be it. The reason you need to take holiday time is because This is a team building ...
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How to stop co-workers from teasing me because I know Russian?

How can an introverted non confrontational individual make this stop? It will stop when you stop reacting to their teasing. Never let jealous, ignorant coworkers (or anyone else) bother you when ...
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Ramifications of not inviting a teammate I don't like to my personal function

Should I invite a teammate I don't like to my personal function? No, do not invite the creepy dude to ruin your baby shower, it's a personal function. The last thing you need is your partner or one ...
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Can my UK company order me to join a social event?

I said no because I prefer to work. Your difficulty here is that "work" is what the company defines it to be, not what you define it to be. For this day, they have defined your first ...
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Is it reasonable for me to complain about an objectionable newspaper being ordered for the office?

To me, there are two reasons to object to a publication being in the office. One is that I might feel upset or disgusted if I catch sight of a headline. Since newspapers are often displayed outside in ...
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How to stop co-workers from teasing me because I know Russian?

It doesn't need to be accusatory or confrontational. If your co-workers are not truly over-grown teenagers, you might try something like this: Hi folks, I know that everyone is just kidding around ...
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Informal Chat in Concluding an Interview; is it appropriate to ask about a hobby/interest?

"Jim" was probably very nervous about the interview, and prepared answers for all the usual questions. It looks like you really got him off guard. If he's on a par with the other interviewees, I'd ...
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How do I explain that I am in the office to work, not to have fun?

You can just tell your coworkers what you said here. Of course, most people don't like feeling like as people they don't matter, so there's significant risk associated with this that cannot really be ...
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Will declining my company's many social events negatively influence my career?

When they said they valued get-togethers and game nights I expected the occasional friday afternoon gathering or a game night every now and then. Did you actually tell them this? If you decline, ...
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Responding to social invitations with autism

Friendly neighborhood autist here, so I know how nightmarish "We just go with the flow" can sound. First change your approach slightly. Where are we going? change that to: "Do they have a venue ...
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Is it appropriate to speak up for a team member who can't drink due to addiction recovery when a company event is being planned?

I am the team lead of a team of ten. One of my team members in the past has undergone counseling due to alcohol abuse / excessive drinking. Let's reframe this a little: you have at least one team ...
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How can I get my co-workers to have conversations with me in their native language instead of English?

This reminds me of a time I was in France the morning after a company work's do and watched two of my colleagues converse in their own native language to each other as they were too hungover to speak ...
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Is it reasonable for me to complain about an objectionable newspaper being ordered for the office?

The employer gets to choose the facilities to provide at the workplace, subject to legal/statutory requirements. They don't need employees' permission to decide things like: Whether to provide ...
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Arranging drinks with laid off coworkers in close-knit team

The company has no business being interested in what you do in your spare time. As long as you keep this outside of work hours, there isn't really much they can do to stop you. However in the ...
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Do I have to attend a work Christmas party?

I'm going to be answering this from a different angle. A lot of times when these types of events happen during the workday they are coupled with some talks given by the higher-ups. They might be ...
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Can my UK company order me to join a social event?

I said no because I prefer to work. Yikes, that is some serious career-limiting-move energy. As an associate director I would expect you to be more politically cognizant and realize that you're no ...
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Is opting out of "fun" office charity activites socially and professionally acceptable in a small company?

It's called "Mandatory Fun" for a reason. Now, while the severity of the transgression for avoiding mandatory fun varies from company to company, it is noticed at every organization that has ...
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Boss Cheating at Fantasy Football

HR wouldn't be inappropriate to go to, but it wouldn't be advisable on a personal level. This is your dream job. Don't rock the boat. On principle, I think you should just go to the boss and ask for ...
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Is it reasonable for me to complain about an objectionable newspaper being ordered for the office?

I bet this Newspaper is there, because someone wanted it there. That may be request from employees, a manager or someone from the committee themselves. Whoever it is, you are going to piss him off, if ...
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Is opting out of "fun" office charity activites socially and professionally acceptable in a small company?

Unfortunately, this is all going to come down to Corporate Culture It could easily be that your company looks at it as, "Eh, Kuba isn't big on the charity drives. Not a big deal - it's not like ...
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How to handle awkward conversation with co-worker in gym changing room who is naked

Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking. I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male ...
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Is it okay to turn down an invitation to my own retirement party?

First, you are allowed to decide if you attend a party or not. If you don't want to you don't have to. We understand your feeling you don't want to celebrate a sad event. Since you are the reason for ...
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Is it appropriate to speak up for a team member who can't drink due to addiction recovery when a company event is being planned?

I used to be on a team where one of the team members had a certain medical condition. One or two people knew about it but as a general rule, they made a point to keep it completely confidential. ...
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Do I have to attend a work Christmas party?

I've been in this situation, and if I had to attend I'd just find some quiet side/corner to eat, read, then see if I could head out early. Free food is always handy anyway. But there is always ...
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I don't want to pay for a work social event, how should I respond if asked why I declined?

Any activity that you have to pay for, or takes place outside of normal work hours is by definition optional. When it falls into both categories, the organizers should realize the many will decide not ...
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Will declining my company's many social events negatively influence my career?

This is just my humble opinion about this, but if canceling these kind of events is going to have a negative influence on your career, I'd consider to search for a new company to work for. Being "...
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tell direct report to come to social event

Is it okay to tell him in private that he needs to start either socializing more or join us in lunches or out of office events? No. Absolutely not. You don't tell your subordinates to join you in non-...
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