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Is there something we could do? Having your wife report to you directly and sit in the same office (regardless of the size) is highly irregular in my experience and, sadly for you, a legit spot for HR to be concerned. I have worked with my wife in the past, but she was in a separate department and had a separate reporting structure. Also, my current boss'...


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Lord forgive me, but I am actually on HR's side this time. Your arrangement is an HR office's worst nightmare.... Nepotism Fraternization Liability for lawsuits... Having a spouse be a direct report to her manager.... They are not engaging in sabotage, they are engaging in self-preservation. The myriad of lawsuits to which this makes the company ...


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It feels unethical and even immoral In Germany, it's illegal. As in against the law. The relevant sections are "Arbeitszeitgesetz (ArbZG)" §3: Die werktägliche Arbeitszeit der Arbeitnehmer darf acht Stunden nicht überschreiten. Sie kann auf bis zu zehn Stunden nur verlängert werden, wenn innerhalb von sechs Kalendermonaten oder innerhalb von 24 Wochen im ...


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You don't know how your opinion will be portrayed. So, you are right so far, do not pass a direct judgement/opinion. Instead, stick to the facts. Instead of talking about someone in particular (finger-pointing), talk about problems and possible ways of improvement. If you're asked whether you want her to be replaced, you can take the following approach to ...


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It sounds like you already used your position to give someone you're married to a position at the company she may not have gotten otherwise, and now HR wants to make sure you two are physically separated to ensure she's working properly by herself. HR is protecting the company's interests. It is very nepotistic to have a husband convince a manager to hire ...


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You mentioned that she performs well in sales and as the face of the company. At the same time she is not the right person (anymore!) for development. So the company has a high profile employee that currently has the wrong task for historical reasons but has important qualifications in another area. If she started to develop the product, I guess she is ...


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It has already been pointed out twice in the comments, but not yet included in any answer: German offices jobs typically have an amount of hours you are expected to work each day (typically somewhere between seven and eight hours per day, or 35 to 40 hours per week) and a time frame during which you are expected to spend these eight hours (6 a.m. to 8 p.m. ...


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Working hours 8am to 7pm does not mean you work from 08:00 to 19:00. It means you are only allowed to work in this time frame. See also: Business hours "8-20" at a car dealer does not mean you have to buy cars for 12 hours, it means you can buy cars in this time frame.


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The question isn’t what the company should do, but what you should reply to a major investor. Not the same thing. So take my reply as “what you should say” not “what the company should do”. Of course she shouldn’t be fired. She is doing an excellent job in sales. But you don’t think she is quite the right person for her current position. She is not a very ...


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You made a tactical decision to accept some technical debt in order to deliver a finished product which was functional. You worked from a blank sheet of paper, and made something which is good enough that clients and investors want to use it. Take pride in that - it should be one of the first lines on your resume. Now the system is growing in maturity. You ...


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I don't know if HR is sabotaging your wife's chances at getting the permanent position or not, I do know this whole situation should have never seen the light of day, to begin with! You got your wife the position, not in an "I'll pass your CV around and hope something sticks", but literally, got her the position. And on a new product, none the less, which ...


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I don't think I can even file for unemployment or can I? You cannot file for or collect unemployment while you are employed. And in general, you cannot collect unemployment benefits if you quit. But check with your state's unemployment office to see if you can collect unemployment benefits if you quit in your specific circumstances. Do this before you ...


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I'm going to take a slightly different tack than the other answers here, but arrive at a similar conclusion. First of all, getting a job for your friend or relative is not "highly irregular" especially if your company isn't one of those with really formal and strict rules and regulations. Often jobs are obtained because the boss is looking for someone with ...


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I'd just go to your boss (the COO) and tell him your concern. Do realize however that this is a highly unusual arrangement: it's usually considered extremely inappropriate and grounds for immediate termination if a manager is in a romantic relationship with a subordinate. And while it isn't impermissible fraternization as you were married prior to her ...


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How much notice is appropriate given the above 3 conditions? Give the notice that is either legally required or is the norm for your locale. Where I live that would be 2 weeks. Remember that this "crunch time" project has already been continually postponed throughout the last 6 months. If necessary, it will get postponed again. Is there any way that ...


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A general rule to work by at this level is 'Pass information up, pass decisions down'. Give the investor your fair opinion of the CTO. Don't lead them into any decision you might want, or let them lead you into agreeing with their decision. Pass your information up, and let them pass a decision down - it's rarely correct to pass a decision up the ...


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My recent employer gave us a course to clarify German laws "for a given reason" and I will try to pass them on, as I've seen in some comments the same things that came up there. Let's begin with some kind of translation, which really isn't that easy. Werktag means a day that is usually worked on, seen for all the professions that exist. As Sunday is the ...


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My employer is postponing my FIRST paycheck due to a funding shortfall; what can I do? Postpone any work for this company until they have paid you for your work and have been reimbursed for your business travel. If you have not been paid within a week, report them to your state's Attorney General. Finally, start looking for a new company to work for. If ...


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The employer is also in breach of the European (EU) Working Time Directive, which limits you to 48hrs/week. Directives, unlike Regulations, must be signed into law by the member-state (Regulations are automatically binding).


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In theory, your wife is competing with other employees for this job. This is very detrimental to our productivity. Imagine if you had a different product manager working on the same project, let's call that person Julie or Bret. Would you have Julie or Bret sit in your office all the time? If that is indeed the case, my apologies, but let me ask you a ...


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There's people, and then there's politicians. There's no difference between them, other than that politicians talk about policies. But anyone can talk about policies, hence the saying that everyone's an expert in football and politics. Up until now, you've been a regular folk, but the moment you answer anything to that investor, you're a politician. Just ...


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Should I take this as a sign I am capable of working at that level? Should I keep looking for similar jobs and apply to those? Or should I consider it a lucky fluke? A single phone call doesn't prove you are capable of working at that level. That's particularly true since the phone call didn't actually result in an offer. The only thing that would prove ...


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is it normal to be asked to work 11 hours/ day? No, not formally Any advice/thoughts other than run for the hills? No


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First of all, you should confirm that you are actually supposed to work from 07:00 to 20:00. It is quite possible that these are merely business hours, but you are only expected to work 8-9 hours within these 11 hours. It is quite possible that teams even have overlapping shifts to cover the whole range, or that you have a certain "liberty" of starting ...


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HI :)I can give a little insight in comparison to US startup culture. I think you are getting a pretty bad deal here. It isn't unusual to work many hours in a startup, but the there are supposed to be more potential benefits in the long run. LONGER DAYS: If you are a founder, or being paid a lot of equity, it is expected and necessary to work longer days. ...


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I've seen similar equity related questions a few times and often counsel people not to get too enthusiastic with the demands (eg > 10%). Having said that - 0.1% is absurdly low. I couldn't give you a specific number of course, but I think it should be quite a bit more. You need to factor in incentives for future employees and subsequent rounds of investors. ...


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While I understand your ethical concerns, it is the management's job to build an organization that can survive an employee quitting. How much notice is appropriate given the above 3 conditions? Whatever is mandated by your employment contract, which is literally what your employer defined as appropriate. Of course you may decide to give a longer notice, ...


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It is illegal in both Germany and EU to work 11 hrs per day, and the company must know that already, I dont think they are dumb that much to tell you something like that because you can report the company. IMHO, the working hours are supposed to be 8 am till 7 pm it means the working hours that you are allowed to work within, you can work your 8 hrs ...


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No, the accepted answer is not really correct. It's not the State Attorney General. It will be quicker if you file directly with the Labor Commissioner's Office of California. File a claim for unpaid wages with the Labor Commissioner’s Office. https://www.dir.ca.gov/dlse/HowToFileWageClaim.htm The advice to stop work is good also. Also, if they're ...


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I doubt the climate would improve if you told you take these criticism personally and you would like them to stop, nor if you did escalate the matter. You could gain that they stop criticizing openly, but that will not change what they may think and will be detrimental to your relationship as colleagues. Criticizing the other developer's work is being ...


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