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Is there something we could do? Having your wife report to you directly and sit in the same office (regardless of the size) is highly irregular in my experience and, sadly for you, a legit spot for HR to be concerned. I have worked with my wife in the past, but she was in a separate department and had a separate reporting structure. Also, my current boss'...


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I've explained the concept of "bus factor" to my manager (who is the CTO of the company; there is nobody above his head to go to) and to other senior people in the company, and their answer is "we need this done fast, you know how to do it, just do it and don't waste your time or company time teaching or coaching others". Does anyone have any ...


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Any offer can be revoked at any time. Your plans might have changed. Your new employer might want to send you on weekend training. You might just not feel like it. Even if you signed a contract to do that job, you can resign from it, just like you resigned from your current job. If it was a verbal offer, it goes where all of upper-management's verbal ...


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It's somebody else's problem. It is very considerate of you that you do not want to be the single point of failure for your whole organization. More people should be that thoughtful of their colleagues and that loyal to their company. But if your warnings fall on deaf ears, then you did what you could. So instead of wasting any more time and energy on ...


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It feels unethical and even immoral In Germany, it's illegal. As in against the law. The relevant sections are "Arbeitszeitgesetz (ArbZG)" §3: Die werktägliche Arbeitszeit der Arbeitnehmer darf acht Stunden nicht überschreiten. Sie kann auf bis zu zehn Stunden nur verlängert werden, wenn innerhalb von sechs Kalendermonaten oder innerhalb von 24 Wochen im ...


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You don't know how your opinion will be portrayed. So, you are right so far, do not pass a direct judgement/opinion. Instead, stick to the facts. Instead of talking about someone in particular (finger-pointing), talk about problems and possible ways of improvement. If you're asked whether you want her to be replaced, you can take the following approach to ...


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You have done the number one thing that you can do to help the company: call it to their attention and give them the chance to get in front of this. They have decided not to take any action, with the statement "don't waste your time" they're trying to forcefully end the discussion. You are basically left with some things that you can do to help the company ...


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You can't retract work done while being employed at X. Your pitched ideas, I assume under your current laws, are part of this work. That being said, talk to a lawyer. If the law says you own 100% of your invention, you can approach your boss notifying them about that. And get ready to lose your job. If the law says your employer have special rights (e.g. ...


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You are not the owner. You get paid a salary, and you work for that salary. If the owner wants you to work more, he needs to pay overtime. You can tell him that it will take longer. Then you come to work and work 40 hours a week, not more. 40 hours is most healthy for you, and it is most effective. You don’t do more useful work in more hours, you just get ...


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It sounds like you already used your position to give someone you're married to a position at the company she may not have gotten otherwise, and now HR wants to make sure you two are physically separated to ensure she's working properly by herself. HR is protecting the company's interests. It is very nepotistic to have a husband convince a manager to hire ...


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I lack the appropriate skills? or Is it a lack of guidance on the part of the company? Both. You lack the required skills for the assignment (not your fault, but it's true). You cannot certainly gain the knowledge overnight. You need to understand the scope and ask for required training to update yourself about the domain and technology. ...


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You mentioned that she performs well in sales and as the face of the company. At the same time she is not the right person (anymore!) for development. So the company has a high profile employee that currently has the wrong task for historical reasons but has important qualifications in another area. If she started to develop the product, I guess she is ...


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While probably not what you want to hear, when one has a unique aversive objection to something that is a widespread social norm within an industry and cannot realistically be argued to be harmful, the best solution may be trying to mitigate the sensitivity, rather than to change other's behavior. Of course what is considered a norm and what is offensive is ...


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It has already been pointed out twice in the comments, but not yet included in any answer: German offices jobs typically have an amount of hours you are expected to work each day (typically somewhere between seven and eight hours per day, or 35 to 40 hours per week) and a time frame during which you are expected to spend these eight hours (6 a.m. to 8 p.m. ...


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Just say: I know what I said. I just changed my mind. My heart is just not in it anymore. I'm not going to work on weekends. The new developers will have to figure things out without me. Say this. Do not email it, unless your original offer was in writing. Just curious, why not email it? So far there hasn't been any official writing regarding this ...


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I think you're approaching this the wrong way. The expert developers who come for meeting but when they find this is a new company and there is no other member teams, they give up and leave, and the main thing they say is "we prefer to work for a famous company with big teams" ... why would they? You're asking them to not work at a stable company, ...


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Startups offer equity because they acknowledge the risk to the employees of the company failing, so they present an 'upside' - if the company does well, everyone benefits. It takes a certain type of person to be attracted by that offer. Other people, like yourself, do the math; the company is unlikely to be that unicorn. What do you do? You reject their ...


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Working hours 8am to 7pm does not mean you work from 08:00 to 19:00. It means you are only allowed to work in this time frame. See also: Business hours "8-20" at a car dealer does not mean you have to buy cars for 12 hours, it means you can buy cars in this time frame.


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I'm going to echo a few things others have said with a different emphasis: Having a low bus factor is good for you. Having a low bus factor is bad for the company. You are taking too much responsibility for the company. You have brought the issue up to your superiors, and that is good and honorable and you've tried to make the company more robust. If ...


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Trashing a product in front of others sends a message of disrespect to the creators of said product. This may not be the intended message, but it is one of the ones being communicated. As with any creative endeavor the product represents the time, effort, and expertise that was put into it. Ripping a carefully crafted painting to bits and calling it "trash" ...


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From some of your comments, your boss has legitimate business concerns about having a product which can generate revenue. Your analysis of work necessary has established that the work wouldn't be done for six months, that's a long time to go without revenue. You need to find a solution somewhere in the middle that is an acceptable compromise for both sides....


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I see a number of red flags here. First of all, you're a recent graduate, which means, without much experience in software development. Second, you graduated in mechanical engineering, not software. And they give you as your first task, to recognize objects in a video stream? Seriously? That's like asking someone who went through a 6-month training in ...


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Be realistic about what you think you are capable of doing. Do not ever promise or agree to something that you don't believe that you can do. Do not overwork yourself and sacrifice your family and sanity to try to do something that you don't believe is possible. If your boss thinks that the work you're doing is much easier than it actually is, there is ...


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The question isn’t what the company should do, but what you should reply to a major investor. Not the same thing. So take my reply as “what you should say” not “what the company should do”. Of course she shouldn’t be fired. She is doing an excellent job in sales. But you don’t think she is quite the right person for her current position. She is not a very ...


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You made the offer, so its your word that's at risk. ・Do cancellations happen? Yes ・Could something come up? Yes ・Are you legally obligated? Probably not, especially because it was verbal (And the question I think you're asking) ・Will this hurt your reputation with the company you're leaving? Probably If the company canceled your extension, they probably ...


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You made a tactical decision to accept some technical debt in order to deliver a finished product which was functional. You worked from a blank sheet of paper, and made something which is good enough that clients and investors want to use it. Take pride in that - it should be one of the first lines on your resume. Now the system is growing in maturity. You ...


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So, your employer: Has only 1 person (you) on an important project That one and only person is someone who's fresh out of university. This shows that either the project is not as important to him as he says it is, or that he's completely irrational. If the project was really that important, he would hire someone with a serious experience to lead it... ...


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My question - Should I expect the management to be completely honest about the burn rate and runway length? You should expect management to be exactly the same way they have been so far. If they have been completely honest and open about the burn rate so far, if they were completely honest and open about the upcoming redundancies, then you should expect ...


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I don't know if HR is sabotaging your wife's chances at getting the permanent position or not, I do know this whole situation should have never seen the light of day, to begin with! You got your wife the position, not in an "I'll pass your CV around and hope something sticks", but literally, got her the position. And on a new product, none the less, which ...


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