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Who should pay for team building events?

management says employees should pay for such events Sadly your management is clueless. They are the ones who desire increasing engagement of employees. They are the ones who will have something to ...
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Should I join an office cleaning event for free?

Go. Or rather: Go if everyone else is going. Do the cleaning. Be part of the team. Have a say in whether things that are yours get thrown out or kept. Have a say on what gets added to the office. Be ...
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How to make a diabetic coworker feel included when I bring in cake for coworkers?

The first thing you should do is ask your friend if he or she wants an alternative. I am diabetic, and I either pass, or have a VERY SMALL slice of cake. If I know this is going to happen, I adjust ...
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How to get employees to report to me as opposed to their previous boss?

If John wants you to succeed, ask John to reply to every report you should get but he gets instead: Sorry guys, I am not responsible for this anymore, please run this by Menny. If John does this ...
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Who should pay for team building events?

Professional team-building is more than a few co-workers having a good time together. It is designed with specific goals in mind. The event might encourage people from different departments to mingle ...
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How to cut team building from retrospective meetings?

Both insisting on having retrospectives and running retrospectives introducing some creativity in the process is literally the Scrum Masters job. Unlike Daily Scrums, which are following a pattern and ...
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Employee is self-centered and affects the team negatively

Something I want to make clear first: dealing with coworkers, attitude during meetings, respecting someone senior... These are all things that fall under an employee's performance. It's not just the ...
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How can an employee kindly decline to participate in an office potluck?

This is a very good question, I opt out of the secret Santa every year at my office which is run in a similar manner. The truth of the matter is that personally I don't want to get involved and I don'...
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Employee is self-centered and affects the team negatively

I am really not sure what I must do. Since you are their manager, you must manage the team. That means managing the existing team and the new hires both. It appears that you haven't gotten to the ...
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I just started my first real job, and have been asked to organize the office party. How do I handle this?

What are some things I should keep in my mind so I can pull this off smoothly without any incident? Talk with the person who arranged last year's party and (as @ErnestFriedman-Hill points out) ...
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Team lunch - I have food preferences the venue can't accommodate

To take it one step further, don't just check the menu: call the restaurant and tell them what party you will be coming with (company lunch from X Inc and the date) and ask if they have or can make ...
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How can I get a socially awkward team, which lacks good interpersonal skills, communicating more effectively?

I have several observations about your situation, which I shall comment on in turn in the hopes that at least some of the below will be helpful. I know people on my team lack good interpersonal ...
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I just started my first real job, and have been asked to organize the office party. How do I handle this?

When in doubt, ask (for help) Nobody expects a college graduate to single-handedly do an office party. For that matter, even experienced people generally cannot organize something like that alone. ...
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How to hire great people for a new startup company?

I think you're approaching this the wrong way. The expert developers who come for meeting but when they find this is a new company and there is no other member teams, they give up and leave, ...
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How to make a diabetic coworker feel included when I bring in cake for coworkers?

Ask the diabetic for any suitable alternatives they can eat. I'm not sure what other legitimate advice there is to possibly give. Medical advice isn't suitable here, we don't know what kind of cakes ...
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Who should pay for team building events?

You will not raise employee morale by requiring them to attend team building events that they themselves have to pay for. You will, at least, improve team cohesion - they will all come together to ...
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How to get employees to report to me as opposed to their previous boss?

I think you need to rethink your outlook and consider how you want to lead your department and how it functions. You mentioned in comments that John is the lead programmer, and you are Head of IT Dept....
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How to cut team building from retrospective meetings?

Without wanting to be too harsh, the reason you think this makes you sound like an asocial jerk is because it is the action of an asocial jerk. People aren't machines, and we do actually care if ...
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Should I join an office cleaning event for free?

TL;DR Go Long version At my company (~25 people, located in Germany), we're doing this once a year. It usually takes place on a Friday after lunch (during office hours, approximately ~2 hours). It'...
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I just started my first real job, and have been asked to organize the office party. How do I handle this?

So you are on your first job. You are a programmer. And you have been asked to organize a party for 35/40 people. I hope it's a joke on part of your new colleagues. If it's serious, then something is ...
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How to make a diabetic coworker feel included when I bring in cake for coworkers?

Don't single out the diabetic. Many (if not most) diabetics can have cake, many just don't want cake. And there are plenty of folks who might have dietary restrictions or desires that you're ...
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How to get employees to report to me as opposed to their previous boss?

Sounds like you're in an amazing position. You've got a competent team with a team leader that the team respects and is a highly competent manager. So... what's the problem? You're in charge of ...
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what to do when you don't want to go to a dinner meeting with your boss and coworkers?

Go to the dinner Be pleasant, listen carefully and attentively to the stories people tell. Tell a story or two of your own, but only if you want to. If someone tells a joke, smile. If it's funny, ...
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Team lunch - I have food preferences the venue can't accommodate

Don't ask to change the venue directly. Presumably this lunch is on the company's dime, it might look ungrateful. You can subtly/indirectly seek a change of venue if you politely decline and ...
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How can I deal with a team member who I personally cannot stand

What I'm expected to do? Talking with him about this is rude and unprofessional as it is a personal issue. But not doing anything make's the team socially uncomfortable. If you are just a project ...
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Colleague is starting to become awkward to work with

My boss yesterday told me that he may need to start having words with the developer, letting him know that there is a limit to what we can give him. Should I let my boss handle it, or should I ...
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How to get employees to report to me as opposed to their previous boss?

From one of your comments: John doesn't necessarily undercut me, but advises them what to in a situation and they are now unavailable for tasks I need to assign them If John is assigning them tasks ...
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Who should pay for team building events?

Assuming the team event is optional: In a great company, official "team building events" aren't necessary, as people will organize and pay such events for themselves because they are already friends ...
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how to handle rant team member and avoid "You don't know team management"

To me, there are a number of red flags here: You come across as thinking you know better than this staff member and aren't willing to discuss things: "that I knows the best", "he has to follow me". ...
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