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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

When you need assistance from other people it works best is to ask the other person to schedule a quick meeting when they have time. In order to save their time you can accumulate multiple questions. ...
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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

"Sorry I made you wait" means "I have been very busy, with duties that are as urgent as yours or more, and I'm sorry that you had to wait a whole day to get a response, but I'm doing my ...
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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

If you're seeking help from someone on the team who isn't being helpful, in whatever manner they're not being helpful (ignoring messages or anything else), you are in the unique position of being able ...
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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

It seems that you take "instant" in "instant messaging" too literally. Senior team members have their own priorities and your questions, apparently, are not at the top of their ...
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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

Teams work differently in different places, in the team I manage I would expect developers to attempt to find solutions on their own but to reach out for help if they are stuck for more than an hour, ...
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How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages?

How to deal with team members who are slow to respond to my messages? If you have a truly urgent question, that not having the answer is blocking you from doing your work, you ask the person who ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

What he said was impolite. You don't need to be polite, or rather, you can be polite, but you don't need to be gentle or care how that person will feel. You don't say where in the world you are, but ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

As others have implied, leaning into the joke can help diffuse tension and settle peoples opinions. If it were me, I'd have done something like slurp the drink obnoxiously loudly. If the person ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

Since people around were constantly making fun of me, I thought it is okay to have once Your colleagues are bullies "I hate to say this. But don't be a pu##y. Stop being a pu##y". This ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

If you believe that drinking habits are a reason for calling someone a pussy, then your "life" has been so peaceful and protected from real life situations that you have no idea what it ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

What was said to you was not appropriate and unprofessional. Unfortunatelly in life we are going to share spaces with people like that. This is exact that caricature ignorant guy that thinks he is ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

The appropriate response starts with F and ends in Off. That would very probably have diffused the entire topic. Any response approaching 'please don't treat me like this' would have failed to ...
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How can I integrate to a new workplace?

Two things stand out: How does company culture seem different from what you knew before? Do you and your co-workers have other common languages but English? Since your use of English is not nearly ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

In short, your collegue actually tells you: do it the way I want you to (in your case as regards drinking). This is sort of encroaching, and people use to do that often. That´s a great pity and just ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

Much of humor can be seen as a form of countersignaling. The message of kidding around with someone is “I'm so secure in our relationship that I feel comfortable engaging in humorous mocking”. In this ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

How and what I drink in my free time is my business. It may not be very polite but it gets the message across. If the person continued insulting, I would then ask–in a voice loud enough to be heard ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

This colleague was totally unprofessional and in the wrong - this isn't really disputable. So, my question is what do you want to have happen? Do you want to reinforce professional boundaries with ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

I rarely drink and avoid these situations by just leaving early. I don't enjoy being around drunk people when I'm sober so why stay? So while I'll go to social events, I'm rarely around after the food ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

Firstly, consider that your coworker may have been drunk at the time he said this. Going after someone for things they said or did while drunk isn't often the most productive of strategies, because ...
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How to politely stop a colleague's rude remarks about the way I sip alcohol?

What was said to you was completely inappropriate and unprofessional. It doesn't matter if it was "for fun" or not, it shouldn't have been said. In my opinion, you would have been well ...
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How can I integrate to a new workplace?

Huge number of Indians in Singapore when I was there. Almost 10% of the population. You're best bet is to become friendly with some and learn from them. The majority population is Chinese and they're ...
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How can I integrate to a new workplace?

There are a few things you can try: Ask your manager for tips on how to make friends with local Singaporean coworkers whose native language is different from yours. The manager can give you some tips ...
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coworkers unwilling to do code reviews

As far as your junior developers are concerned, they should be doing these code reviews. They won’t be as effective as you would wish, but they will start learning the language you are using, and the ...
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