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I was in a similar position once (except in this case the coworker who was supposed to cover me was in an accident a week before my vacation was supposed to start). My boss asked me if I could postpone the trip. Like you, I had non-refundable tickets and some pre-paid non-refundable hotel reservations. So I said I'd postpone if they'd cover my out of pocket ...


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The negative view is that they want you to be so addicted to creating things, that you work 80 hours a week for them without regard to your health and well-being. A positive view is that they want to see code samples and don’t know how to just ask for some Employers want to see passion and drive. Some companies call those things leadership qualities. ...


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Usually for me, the following simple phrase suffices: I wasn't feeling too great yesterday, but am feeling a bit better today. Thank you for asking As your coworkers are supportive, the odds are they want to know that you're OK - you don't need to disclose any more than that to them. If you show gratitude for their concern and indicate that you're ...


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No this is not common. Your manager is trying to take advantage of you. If the class is work related then it doesn't matter that you are not at work, it needs to be treated as a work day. You need to ask your manager to remove the day off as you will be attending a work related class. If he refuses, then inform him that you will not be attending a class ...


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If you have to go, then notify him and go. Explain that it is urgent, and is dangerous to your health if you do not go. If possible, give him enough notice so there is coverage for your job (if your job requires it). Make sure you have some sort of documentation that you have done this. If you don't notify him, you can probably be fired for that. (Leaving ...


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Why guess? Send her an email or an IM asking her to clarify whether you’re needed.


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You are entitled to take your holidays, so the issue is with coming to an acceptable timeframe for your holidays. If the manager will not give you time off, try asking him to provide you with dates where he will approve days off. If this doesn't lead to an acceptable answer, try asking for money in lieu of leave. Odds are that this won't be accepted, but ...


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You're not ethically obligated, especially since your boss didn't tell you to go in (extemporaneous remarks about her availability don't count). That said, it could be a wise move in terms of your future at the company. As you progress in your career, you probably won't always have someone telling you explicitly when to work and when not to work but you ...


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As other answers have already touched upon this is a route towards being able to provide code samples that a free of any restrictions upon the candidate (no NDAs or anything to worry about). By far the larger factor however is that companies expect it simply because it's very often the case. Those who go on to become professional software developers often ...


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I'd like to know if I'm doing something clearly wrong Don't worry about it, it's out of your control. Go and make your peace. If it takes longer than you had thought it would, either say your goodbyes or contact work for a leave extension. I went to Australia for my mother when she went into a coma and only had a couple of days. It turned out she came out ...


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Speaking as a R&D SW engineer who also does SW recruiting and interviewing (and who asks exactly that question)... SW often involves absurd levels of complexity and training. I want to hire someone who is going to be productive for years or decades. If SW is just a stepping stone to get inside the company and then leave for sales (a RL example) then ...


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So in a situation like this, is it better to enforce company policy to be compliant? Or should I just quietly ignore this and pretend like I don't notice him coming in late? Neither :-). You should certainly not blindly enforce a company rule if you think it is not good. But you should also almost certainly not go behind your superior's back by quietly ...


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Is it too much to ask for leaves for my own wedding?! Well, you can ask. You did. You were allowed to take the leave that is in your contract and you were denied leave that is not in your contract. You have no right to unpaid leave, the same way your employer has no right to tell you "I don't need you, I won't pay you for ten days, but you don't need to ...


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You mention you're working in Belgium, and you mention those are "education" time-off. Being a fellow Belgian, this leads me to think that you're speaking about "Congé-éducation payé" / "Betaald educatief verlof". This time-off is indeed managed by the regional governments (Flanders, Wallonia, or Brussels), but the terms are agreed upon by all those ...


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You should talk with your boss again. Mention that the policy you were given, hopefully in writing, but sounds like not, was first come first serve. You have already bought airline tickets and you will NOT be at work those days. Walmart is notoriously process driven, I would expect they have written policies regarding this. It sounds like you hold the ...


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The question is far from stupid, and a lot of people take it for granted as well. I would call in, and ask, but if your symptoms are not 100% gone, I would probably stay out till they are pretty much gone. Your employer, if a good one will probably tell you to stay out till you are healthy to come back in, perhaps with a doctor’s note, but not always. ...


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Somebody has got to say this: Don't. It is not part of Indian culture for every girl to have a royal wedding. Honeymoons aren't a part of Indian culture at all. I'd strongly suggest going to the finance forum and asking them how an expensive wedding will effect your life. I married an Indian girl a few years ago and there were 1,250 people at my wedding. ...


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Basic explanation is expected : Flu, food poisoning, migraine, whatever. It's also polite to offer an expectation of how long you'll remain out of action. There's no hard and fast rules here.


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So Carl and Mike have to assume that he'll not attend and thus have a conference ticket to spare. Don't assume, ask. Eric already called in sick, so try contacting him by that same mean. Consider giving him a call in case there is a chance he won't see his email. Now, being written or spoken, try something in the lines of: Hello Eric. Sorry to hear you ...


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Inform all your subordinates of a new rule, to make sure their requests do not get forgotten: Only requests by e-mail count. You can explain that you seem to have sometimes forgotten a request that was made verbally when you were concentrating on something else. If someone asks you verbally, remind them that they must send you an e-mail.


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Call him and ask him, first of all, if you can possibly cut your vacation. If he asks why, "personal reasons" should probably be enough. You do not need to provide him with the exact reason - especially since his answer could be "You had a hard time, please take some time to fix yourself". Unless you have a very open work relationship, he should not really ...


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I don't know what your medical condition is - nor do I want to know. Submit the request in writing. Use email. Get the response in writing/email. Document. Document. Document. Most employers give PTO (paid time off). You don't have to tell them why you're taking a day or half-day. It is none of their business. If this applies to you I would ...


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I usually leave them alone with their grief. The first time they come back from taking time off, the first thing I say is "I am sorry for your loss. If there is anything I or anyone of us can do to make things easier for you, let me know" Then it's back to the work both for them and for me - the idea is to give them some kind of healing through the routine ...


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Any boss should understand that things come up. The one week notice request doesn't appear to be written in stone. Just say you have a personal matter to attend to and request the time off you feel you need. Depending on your relationship with your boss, mentioning the break up isn't going to be a bad thing, but likely not needed.


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In the US, companies are under no federal1 obligation to provide any sort of paid vacation time. The concept of an employer paying you for time you're not actually working has many names and variations but these days people often use the umbrella term of "paid time-off" or PTO. The reason is that PTO often replaced the classic system of sick days and ...


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You are conflating two things here and not seeing a slightly bigger picture. The first is that you have important, urgent work to do and have taken some personal time out of the office to go to the doctor recently. From my point of view that is a good reason to go into work on a day off or work late on a few days to make sure everything is completed and ...


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Specifically in German legislation: how would they have to phrase the question so that they don't get in conflict with the law? There is no problem with the law no matter how you phrase it. Even a direct "I don't believe you are sick, please bring your doctor's note on Tuesday" would not break any law (assuming the employee has a contract that requires him ...


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Short answer: The less the better. Longer answer: It depends on a number of things. How often are you calling out? What is your relationship with your manager? What is (if there is) any company policy for less than a week? How personal is the issue? If you are out with some frequency, it would be a good idea to have something of substance to tell your ...


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In hindsight, you should have negotiated the effect this had on your holiday days before accepting the course. Sure, if you cancel that day's holiday, I'll attend. Since (I assume) the course is related to your work, you should now head to HR and tell them what happened and ask for them to strike off that day's holiday time so that you can use it for ...


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Simple answer for him and HR. Quote the law to them. I don't myself live in somewhere with these laws, so I read up a little. On Wikipedia I found At will employment with these details: Other reasons an employer may not use to fire an at-will employee are: ... family or medical leave – federal law permits most employees to take a leave of absence for ...


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