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Criticized for doing my job too well

You did exactly what was instructed, and took scores from "barely passing" to mastery. Emphasize that. If your boss won't bend, offer to take the game down. Meanwhile, you may want to update your ...
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Trainee keeps missing deadlines for independent learning

You're approaching this with a waterfall mindset: First she learns everything she needs to know, and then applies it to your in-house stuff. The thing is waterfall doesn't work. You don't know what ...
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Criticized for doing my job too well

While it's not immediately your fault that people are spending too much time on the game, as the developer, you could help the situation. Turn off the scoreboard server/disable the game entirely for ...
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Criticized for doing my job too well

I don't think you've correctly identified the problem. You weren't "too good" at your job, you simply performed a task without specific requirements. There were no guard rails. I don't think this is ...
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How can I train a replacement without letting my bosses and the replacement know?

How can I give my coworker the training in the time I have left? You don't, this is your boss's job to assign not yours. When you resign from the company, your boss will decide who ( if anyone ) ...
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Trainee keeps missing deadlines for independent learning

I'll address the elephant in the room here: You have a trainee. And you refuse to train her. Instead you sent her to please train herself and come back when done. That's not going to work. If that ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers

I'm kinda surprised that you're surprised by this. Gust has personal working relationships with people that maintain that open-source software. You don't think Gust has vented about your company's ...
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Insubordinate chief engineer training colleagues to be "too mobile" out of spite

I think you need to readjust your view point on the matter. These employees aren't leaving because they were trained, they're leaving because they aren't being targeted for retention. To solve this, ...
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Company has been highly invested in my training. Is it okay to leave?

Firstly, check your contract. It is possible that it covers what happens with training. For me, my contract says that if I leave within a year of getting training, I have to pay back 1/12th of the ...
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How to politely refuse in-office gym instructor for steroids and protein

Why would you stay polite to a guy who pressures you into doing steroids? Those things have very little effect for the average casual gym-goer and lead to a host of issues in multiple organs at worst. ...
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Company has been highly invested in my training. Is it okay to leave?

While it is okay to leave (barring any clauses in your contract) I would urge caution in this. Your company just invested a small fortune on you. Companies don't throw money at things, they make ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers

If you need features, you need to fund them If you need to get particular features into "these projects", then you'll need to develop them yourself or hire someone external to do that. ...
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Insubordinate chief engineer training colleagues to be "too mobile" out of spite

Sometimes an image says more than a 1000 words
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How to ask my employer if a training course I took a while back has a clause attached to it ("stay at x employer for n months")?

Frame-challenge: Unless the thought of having to pay back for that course makes you seriously reconsider accepting the new job offer - don't ask at all. Asking makes it possible that someone will ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers

You have a number of problems: You've screwed Gust. He is rightfully pissed at you. It is irrelevant to him how severely the manager who underleveled him was or was not "disciplined", and ...
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How can I train a replacement without letting my bosses and the replacement know?

Present the training activity to both the trainee and your managers as improving the bus factor. It is prudent to have at least two people capable of doing any job. Talk to your manager first, so ...
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Criticized for doing my job too well

The way to patch things up is to offer solutions for the problems that upper management, your boss, and yourself have identified with the new training. If people are spending too much time, restrict ...
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Insubordinate chief engineer training colleagues to be "too mobile" out of spite

You are certain that your problem is employee retention, you think that the cause is the manager. Here are the facts: He delivers results He is well liked in the office He trains his staff You are ...
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Onboarding HQ requires 1 week to stay in an expensive city

My expectation would be that such a trip would be covered under the company's standard travel policy. You would be wise to ask about it and follow their guidelines. In some cases it involves booking ...
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Professionally Opting out of Inclusion Diversity and Unconscious Bias "training"

I suggest that you don't opt out. There are a lot of assumptions you have made about what the training will be about and the reason for it. It sounds like you don't have any problem with the concepts ...
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How can I learn to effectively train underskilled staff?

There are plenty of courses on how to train people, some online, some are from real-world learning institutions. I don't think you have time for this. So, let's get started with a 10 minute crash ...
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Asked to repay costs of training if I leave within 12 months

So, am I being unreasonable? Needlessly antagonistic? No. You've been offered a deal and you're performing "due consideration". As any deal offer requires. I've been told this is a 'standard' ...
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Departing senior engineer refuses to introduce replacement to open source community/peers

How do we best engage with these open source teams and "pass the torch" from Gust to our intermediate engineers, so we can continue to get features we need into these projects? We've ...
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Is it wise to opt out of training I'm not obliged to take?

No, it is not wise to opt out of this training. There are several reasons for this: First and foremost, even if the training is stupid and useless, your manager has chosen it, and chosen to offer it ...
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Train very young colleague on professional skills

If you are the manager or at least tasked to onboard that colleague, schedule short daily stand-up meetings. They don't need to be long, and if the colleague improves in self-management, you can ...
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Criticized for doing my job too well

First off, people skimming through training modules is...(shhh, don't say anything)...very common. That was never your problem. As for the behavior of Boss, that's may not be entirely your problem. ...
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How to politely refuse in-office gym instructor for steroids and protein

He probably just wants to sell you the products, so the same way you would say no to a waiter offering you a dish you don't want, a polite but firm "No, thanks" should work. Showing doubts or evasive ...
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How can I learn to effectively train underskilled staff?

As a data specialist, I would be extremely annoyed if someone wanted to try to make me into an application dev for the bus factor. That is just shortsighted on the part of your management. It is like ...
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How can I convince my (public) company to provide me a second monitor (as an apprentice)?

I had a similar issue when I worked in a contact center for a large software company in the UK. When I started only management had two monitors. I mentioned the benefits to the internal IT support ...
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Asked to repay costs of training if I leave within 12 months

To pick the only point that is actually answerable in our current format: I've been told this is a 'standard' requirement 'these days', is that true? Yes, that is pretty standard. Many companies ...
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