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There are a few things involved here. First, if your work culture involves wearing a uniform, your boss can enforce it on you. Having said that, no one, I mean, NO ONE can make you wear dress belonging to the opposite gender. You can always ask your employer to provide a version of the uniform which is of your gender. My suggestion is as follows: Talk to ...


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You can tell management that you're uncomfortable wearing used clothing. Don't expect them to work with you on this; no offense but most places in my experience which come with a required uniform do so because they can't be certain that a transient workforce will come in with work-appropriate wear and as such will very likely simply let you go and talk to ...


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It sounds like the manager wants a uniformed look for the front desk staff but can't be bothered to specify a proper man's uniform, other than to substitute trousers for a skirt. I would try to negotiate, saying "I understand you're trying to create a uniform look, but I think the top is too feminine in appearance. I'm really just not comfortable wearing ...


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There are indeed women who have a sexual attraction to forcing men into feminized positions. I strongly suspect you've run into one. Searching for 'forced feminization' will give you a long list of sites, mostly catering to men who are the willing 'force-ee', but also to women who are the willing 'forcer'. I'm a transsexual woman who'se been out for ...


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Firstly, yes, they supply the uniform and it can be second hand. As long as the uniform isn't dirty or broken, you have no option but to wear it. That said, depending on your contract, you may be able to wash it yourself if you are particularly worried that it isn't clean enough for your personal preferences. The next issue is one of size. You should ...


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Many jobs have a uniform requirement, but I do not think that you should be made to wear the uniform of the opposite sex. What troubles me is that the owner's justification is that you are, in her opinion, small and androgynous. Others may not agree with me, but that sounds perverted. Are there no other male staff? Never-the-less, the job is very important ...


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Generally speaking (because we don't give legal advice and you did not mention your jurisdiction) yes, your company can make your wear their dress. I know countries where that means they have to pay for your dress, but I don't know any country where you would get away with not wearing the dress your company wants you to wear. If it's very hot and the ...


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So I will miss out on overtime work as I don't want to wear a skirt Yes, unless your boss has a change of heart. It's company uniform, if you want to work there you really need to wear the uniform. You have asked and been denied, it's now up to you. Unless there is something in your contract stating a set amount of overtime you don't really have any ...


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The first step in challenging a policy is to understand it. Start by asking why there is a different policy for women than for men. There may be good reasons (different job requirements, availability of suitable uniforms, relative cost, industry expectations, holdovers from prior management, or preference expressed by employees in each group). It is ...


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First of all, thats unfortunate. Can your store really not afford another vest? You can try (and should try first) to solve this non confrontationally. You can make the case that its hurting producitivity (shared vest means infections spread faster -> more people take more sick days) and that vests aren't very expensive. I know it might hurt, but if all ...


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I can't even see why this would be an issue. Consider another case where you routinely put used but washed cloth against your skin: Sheets and towels in a hotel room. The towels at least will likely touch far more intimate areas than your uniform ever will.


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In big organizations- this wont matter. Its your personal choice, as long as you are within dress code or decent in absence of dress code, no one cares. Your boss may mention it to you casually, but thats about it. Since you have mentioned formal's, there is no way someone is firing you for that. In start up's, rules may not be that simple. It depends on ...


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Yes they can, as long as they also force male employees to wear a similar suitable dress for the work (E.g. Smart trousers). In the UK, there has been several cases and one such example can be found here. The key part from that article is: provided that the employer applies a comparable or equivalent standard of smartness and conventionality across the ...


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As far as I understand, the hotel manager is too lazy to get you a new uniform and thinks the uniform looks OK enough on you as it is. This is a very weird situation to be in, since you do not think it looks OK and she does not take this into account at all. It is a toxic environment and I would see it as a red flag to get out of there. It is not OK when an ...


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This sounds like either she's being very insensitive, or it's some kind of harassment. If it is harassment, it could, as some have suggested, be sexual harassment, although it doesn't sound like that to me; more like her enjoying making someone feel uncomfortable. But another form of harassment, that it sounds most like to me, is that she either doesn't ...


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Can they force me to wear it? Yes. Is there some law or regulation that says that uniform given to a staff member must be new? I highly doubt it. I'd bet decent money. Most importantly, how can I address this with my management if I'm uncomfortable wearing used clothing? When you leave for a better job, tell them you were really grossed out by ...


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Try to understand what your boss wants. They probably want to project a professional image. She probably also doesn't want to spend her time with thinking about a different uniform for yourself. Do they want an employee that looks discomfortable in the uniform he's wearing? Probably not. The boss has an interest that you project a good image. This means ...


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