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It's perfectly fine for you to prefer to keep work and family separated. I think it's also fine for your employer to ask you if you were willing to have your family and friends test the service (but not to force you). You've politely declined, so I don't think there's much more you have to tell them. This, in theory, shouldn't hold you back. What if your ...


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Although I congratulate you on your achievement, IMO it's not appropriate. The same would apply to winning the lottery, receiving an inheritance, hitting a jackpot in the casino, getting a big chunk of tax-returns or buying a house on the Cayman Islands. Financials should be kept private and shouldn't be rubbed under the noses of coworkers. The reasons for ...


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First, seek treatment for your phobia. There are specialists in the field and treatment is extremely effective. Second, the likelihood of legal action against someone with a disability is low, though it may damage your reputation in the industry. Third, and most important, Always do your research, and be aware of your limitations I have sensory issues, ...


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I'm going to offer an alternative way of framing your negative It's unlikely it'd bring any value to their lives This statement tells me that your family might not be the target market for the service. I don't have the full context of your service and your family to make it into a nicer, more concrete example, but when asked again, I'd list a few ...


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I've only experienced this once in a workplace, and it was from someone of a more typical age to pay off a mortgage (about 55 as I recall), but it struck all of us as somewhat unusual. [Edited to add: our culture was also that there are "cakes in the usual place" for birthdays etc. I have been in the workplace (various companies) about 20 years.] In your ...


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A common choice in this situation is "Founder". It conveys that you're working for your own startup, without giving an impression about the size of your company (you could be the sole employee, or you could be Mark Zuckerburg, or anywhere in between). If you have a specific focus in your career then "Founder and CEO", "Founder and CFO", "Founder and CTO" ...


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The unfortunate fact is behavioral issues are best dealt with by the people in the room at the time. That means being assertive and making comments like the following in the moment: "Let's please avoid negative comments." "There's no need for passive aggressiveness. It was a reasonable question." "We have a good plan here and I think everyone knows their ...


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Yes, it's unreasonable, and there's no way I'd ever sign something like that. If you decide to quit for any reason, or they boot you out for any reason, you then have a 5 year period where you can't work for any company, anywhere in the world, doing any "similar activities" (for fear of legal ramifications.) Assuming this "activity" (coaching) is what you ...


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Whilst it isn't ideal that you've taken on a role, and are now asking for adjustments, it shouldn't something that you avoid. If somebody is perfectly fine, and becomes disabled whilst employed are they not allowed to ask for adjustments? As you've tagged that you're in the UK there are specific things that will apply to your employment. Whether your ...


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It is unlikely to hold you back (in western countries). Companies commonly trial new services or products with so called "friendly users" - quite often employees or families of employees. People who, if something is wrong (which is likely during early trials) won't immediately complain on social media or the press, but talk to - in this case - you about it ...


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The situation in the UK with regard to deductions for mistakes is somewhat complicated. Here is a page that discusses the legalities of it and another page by ACAS. What is certain is three things: They cannot reduce your wages below minimum wages for any reason They cannot deduct more than 10% of your wages for mistakes (though they can deduct 10% ...


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The most important thing: you should check this with a professional. Mental health is important and conditions can be treated. My answer below will focus on your approach at work, since I'm not a mental health professional. Based on the details you provided in your question, there are two fundamental problems here: 1) It seems it's not just you, and the ...


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Just be honest with yourself and company and this shall come to good. In fact, you shall discuss with your company the reasons behind your decision to move to another city and they would try some middle way if possible. After taking training or buyout of the contract, it will be a difficult situation for both parties to break up.


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I've used "Principal" in a similar situation ... clients and potential clients responded well. Founder is certainly an option, but if you're a solo it just seems pretentious. My $0.02 ...


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I haven’t signed agreement yet Less relevant than you might think - you've already entered into a contract of employment with them. If I leave this workplace, will they give me P45? Yep. You've been employed there, even if only for a few days plus whatever notice period they make you serve (if any) and they have to pay you for that. Paying you means all ...


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That your company keeps asking this despite you saying no repeatedly suggests that they are desperately looking for beta users for the product. I'd suggest saying no again, and explaining why on that basis. Look, the truth is my family members would have no value, maybe negative value, as beta users. They're not our customers - Even if I get them to sign ...


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No, they are not allowed to by law as stated in the official gov-docs since they are an UK-based company and the recruitment is done from there (as you stated in your question), so local laws do apply, regardless of the nationality of the applicant/candidate: Discrimination during recruitment/Discrimination in job adverts You must not state or imply ...


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I think the main question is, Do you think you have a better chance of getting a job if the person meets you? In a normal circumstance, I'd say just go for it, interview practice is a great help anyway as I assume you're a recent graduate, but you've mentioned it's costly to get there so it's probably not the best place to practice! In general, the ...


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Tax Declaration You're making things more complicated than they actually are. If you have Lohnsteuerklasse 1, which is the default for singles, then the Lohnsteuererklärung is optional. You are likely to get money back, but there is no obligation to file it. You can do everything online via the Elster application. To avoid that you have to send a physical ...


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I believe the point of the scheme is that people with a disability are often more compelling potential employees in person than they appear on paper. The scheme isn't perfect but it can mitigate some of the disadvantages that confront people with a disability during the job hunting process. "going to the interview will be expensive and time-consuming. I ...


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To avoid conflict, you can tell your family said no. This does not even need to be a white lie, you can ask your family (and explain the advantages and disadvantages and tell them that they should not say yes to do you a favour) and probably will get a no.


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No means no. If they asked you once to involve your family in their company, that was pushing a boundary pretty hard. If they repeatedly won't take "no" for an answer to an unreasonable request, that's preposterous. These people are unprofessional weirdos. If they're this desperate to find anybody to try their service, they're almost certainly doomed in ...


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I know a few people who are owner-operators of consultancy businesses who give themselves a job title that describes their day-to-day job. Two on my network are 'Senior Project Manager' and 'Human Resources Consultant"


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Is this likely to hold me back? We don't know your company culture or your senior members, so it's pretty hard for us to say if it's likely to hold you back. We don't even know what your product is. It is likely that they cannot legally do anything. It is also possible that this may affect how invested you appear to be in the company. This can have various ...


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This answer is assuming you will definitely be moving to City 2 regardless of what happens with your employer, the client, etc. If it would be a practical and appropriate option for you to work for the client at their 'City 2' location (e.g. their office in City 2 would be a suitable place to carry out whatever your job function is)... Given the ...


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First, important question: Is your phobia diagnosed to be severe enough to be a disability? Not all phobias are and not all psychologists 'believe' that one can be a disability. Because if it is then you should be fine, any repercussions are illegal unless the disability severely impacts your work. To illustrate the level of "severely" I am talking about ...


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You have presented your situation in a somewhat contradictory way. You say you want to change jobs/countries but you also say that in the evenings you have no time/focus to reply to follow up emails about potential jobs. If a company has gone as far as contacting you back on an application you should at least respond to them in a timely manner. Who is ...


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It sounds like a member of your department has been commenting negatively on emails sent, making passive aggressive responses to reasonable questions, and trying to micromanage the team. These are behavioural issues, and are just the kind of thing a manager would want - and would be able - to address. What might have confused the issue here, based on the ...


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When I started my one-man consultancy, I used Managing Director (the accurate legal title in the country in question) when doing business as myself. However, when acting as a hired gun for my previous employer and dealing with their clients, I continued to use the same title I used to have when employed there. The fun thing with small companies, though, is ...


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Use Google Voice (it's free and now available in the UK). a) It's easier to forward calls on a schedule that way. b) They transcribe all the calls in real time and send them to your email. c) Google Voice also makes it easier to work with an assistant. Use a separate gmail address as well. I suppose you could hire an intern to be your assistant. Do ...


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