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Today, I got feedback from one developer and their reaction was one of discomfort , rather than appreciation as I would have expected. The person felt I was a little overboard with my recognition and how they felt it was only helping out a colleague.
Did I commit a faux paus here?
You may have, but you really didn't do anything wrong.
People have different ...
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Update: Based on all the feedback I've been getting, I've toned down my original answer. See my addendum near the bottom.
This is what I would say (of course, please use your own words):
I'm sorry. If I was unemployed, I would definitely wait for my first
day to sign this contract.
However, since I'm currently gainfully employed and since I am
required to ...
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I have several diagnosed "conditions", including impostor syndrome. And I can tell you that I really hate being given recognition, because I think that I don't deserve it. I don't give my efforts that much value, and I seriously think I can do way better but I don't. Still, I get compliments for what I think is a mediocre work.
I'm telling you this ...
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I don’t think this is a big deal.
If you are a permanent full time employee in the US, in my experience it’s pretty usual to get a written job offer, accept it in email, but not actually sign anything until you get a W-9 on day 1. There is basically no legal difference between a signature and the clearly extended and accepted offer you have performed in ...
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Employees pay something called "union dues" in the United States
Unions are not free to run. They hire benefit administrators. They sometimes manage pensions. They definitely need to hire negotiators. They pay for this by charging their members a fee.
are all employees of a company automatically paying for a union once there is one in the company?
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I don't think you committed a faux pas, the peer recognition is an established means of recognition in the company and you used it for that.
As the others have mentioned different people have different preferences of being recognized.
If you want to avoid making people feel uncomfortable the easiest way is to ask them how they would like to be recognized, ...
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Being pushed a little outside of our comfort zone in a positive way is not necessarily a bad thing. You used a corporate program to sincerely recognize your peers in an appropriate manner that supports the sort of company culture your management is trying to build. That’s not a faux pas.
I’m not comfortable accepting recognition for things I think are just ...
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Short answer: YES you should be worried and try to secure the contract ASP.
Long answer: It is gonna be fine most likely. Most likely there won't be any issue. Just sign on the first day.
Not likely but has happened many times too: The company eventually decides not to hire you, even if verbally agreed. Not often but I know some real cases this happened.
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To add to the excellent answer by Stephan Branczyk, if you know your intent was sincere, there is nothing to feel guilty about as long as you followed the established/documented norms in publishing such recognition.
Yes, people are different and they feel different about a particular situation. That's what makes teams and even this world such a "diverse&...
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The flyer seems to suggest however that once a union is formed, everyone must pay for it. Is that correct?
Yes. They're called union dues. Quoting wikipedia (emphasis mine):
Union dues are a regular payment of money made by members of unions. Dues are the cost of membership; they are used to fund the various activities which the union engages in. Nearly ...
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To give some perspective from the other side. I don't have any mental illness diagnosis, but I do hate such recognition programs. I don't like being singled out publicly and in particular not by such a recognition program, because that creates incentive to just push someone on the podest from time to time. So aside from getting unwanted public praise, I don'...
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Sorry, but unless the offer letter is signed then you do not have secured employment, period.
You are right to be worried because neither company has your best interest in mind.
If company B rescinded after you put in a two-week notice then do you personally have enough capital to sue them for damages which arose from an unsigned offer letter?
From https://...
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I'm not so satisfied with where I currently work. I'm a software engineer from country A, and I'm currently working abroad for a company in country B. This company, which has some really nice people working at it, is really really old in terms of the technology stack. No git, no unit tests, no Jenkins, no CI/CD. The most cutting edge technology they have is ...
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Devil's Advocate-
If you were being nice sincerely then the person receiving the compliment is taking it far too personal. But, if you rubbed this person wrong -for whatever reason- then he might not feel appreciated by his privacy being compromised to that degree.
But you then get offended to the point that you go around and bring him or her up in this ...
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I don't see a problem here.
It could be as simple as they want to see you actually put your wet signature on the paper. This is why presidents sometimes sign documents in signing ceremonies, and not in the garage of their vacation home. It gives the process an air of gravitas.
I personally like the process they've established. They sent you the contract ...
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(Update Below: Start Date is everything, do you have one yet? I'd worry more about that than a contract)
To my knowledge, a contract is binding even without a signature if no other contract was offered afterwards, neither party objected, and both parties moved forward as though the contract had been agreed to.
If you have (or they have) recording of the ...
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I think WORK CULTURE actually plays an important role here, and it probably needs to be called out a bit more than some of the answers here have touched on.
A typical work environment has some degree of diversity and mixture of personality types and therefore a sound/robust policy is always to try and be inclusive without accidentally excluding people.
When ...
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After reading the answers already I'm not sure there's a complete picture here.
First, an offer letter is legally binding. If they give you an offer letter and do not present you with a contract to sign or otherwise do not hire you, then you would easily win a claim against them for damages. And if they're a big company, they know this and would not do this, ...
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It's hard to answer for sure without knowing the industry, as customary practice varies significantly by industry in the U.S., especially if you would be part of a unionized workforce.
However, on average, U.S. employment situations don't have a signed employment contract at all, either before or after beginning work. There is frequently some kind of ...
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