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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

How do let her know that being more proactive / assertive is expected of her? You tell her. I'm not meaning to be glib. The first step in a situation like this is often to reassure a team member ...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

I'll make it very simple: If you have a communication address (email), you can send a note thanking them for the opportunity and mentioning that you're looking forward to hear from them. In your case,...
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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

First, you need to understand that some people are really shy and really try to be polite and find it hard acting otherwise. You can't change that by just telling them "be a different person"...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

I agreed with the Philip Kendall’s answer. I am in the US, and have worked for many software companies. I have never sent a thank-you note after the interviews either. It is not necessary to do so if ...
21 votes

Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

It is my understanding that it is always proper etiquette to send thank you notes to one's interviewers after an interview. This is certainly not a universal truth; I have done many interviews in the ...
21 votes

How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

This might be a cultural difference. In the book The Culture Map, Erin Meyer explains how in some Asian cultures communicating through team leaders waiting for senior members to ask for feedback in ...
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Is a paid non-compete from a non-competitor a reasonable reason to delay start date?

but in general, is a paid non-compete from a non-competitor a reasonable reason to delay my start date? No. This is a fairly unusual situation. It also doesn't matter much WHY you want a later start ...
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How is part time defined in the United States?

According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics, working part-time is defined as working between 1 and 34 hours per week. (Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Part-time_job#:~:text=part%2Dtime%20jobs....
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Is a paid non-compete from a non-competitor a reasonable reason to delay start date?

This is likely to be an instant "no" from most employers. And because of that, they're going to be very annoyed if you waste their time going all the way through a series of interviews and ...
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Is a paid non-compete from a non-competitor a reasonable reason to delay start date?

I'm currently not planning to bring up the non-compete until I've completed my interviews and am negotiating an offer. This makes sense to me because I won't know how much I'm willing to budge on my ...
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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

Is it proper to ask her past experience or cultural habits (she is from different culture than me) to see the reasoning for her behavior? I wouldn't. It's better to just start with trying to get the ...
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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

All the points you have mentioned are indicating some kind of fear factor at her end. Any direct confrontation or questions would only end up increasing that. It may be a bit of slow process but ...
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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

There might be a gender issue (or past or more industry-wide gender issues) at play here. You are using the pronoun "she" to refer to this person, which leads me to assume she is a woman (...
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How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

I have experience in hiring over 100 people from 20 countries. Here's what I think. She has a lack of confidence. Thus, she's trying to avoid being wrong and prefers to sit on the fence (from her ...
2 votes

How to address team member who excessively defers to me and is unwilling to give clear feedback

Blueriver already wrote an extremely thoughtful response that I second (I cannot vote though since I'm a rookie). I wanted to share this link under his response as a comment, but the system is not ...
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Not Provided with Contact Info - Should I send a Thank You Note?

Would it be perceived as poor etiquette if I looked up their email addresses to send thank you notes, when this information was not provided to me in the first place? It would be perfectly fine to do ...

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