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How to push back against request to use personal laptop at conference due to risk of machine compromise

I would refuse. Point blank. The conversation should go something like this: Me: Why don't you want to use a company laptop for this? Manager: Because we don't want company laptops deliberately ...
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Brought on to failing project and might lose job

I get this all the time, my career is built on solving problems after everyone else has failed and deadlines are looming. There is only one solution. Get the authority and backing from the CEO to ...
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Should I send an email to African American colleagues given a recent nearby targeted crime?

I would personally find this off-putting, intrusive, presumptuous, potentially inappropriate, and even condescending. If a message of support needs to be conveyed to staff it should come from the ...
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How can a cybersecurity team mitigate internal customer complaints that real time user training is too intrusive?

If folks have a better idea for a way to give employees the necessary training and help them catch the occasional mistake, that would be great. But all that has really changed is that they are being ...
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Team member working from home is distracted with kids while on video calls - should I say anything as her manager?

My 2¢: No, you should not. Now, let me explain – I know the scenario well – it is currently the school holidays, holiday programs are $$$, and I have kids of my own. I have had to put myself on mute, ...
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How to handle boss' team invitation to go to a bar, when my coworker is an alcoholic in recovery?

Is there a way I can skip answering this uncomfortable question until a more opportune time? I don't think it's necessary to do that - supporting your team member doesn't mean you need to infantilize ...
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Is working with potentially sharp objects under high time pressure considered safe?

Whether it's ethical is subjective, and I would say "no". The important part of your question is about the safety: obviously it's not safe. Do your workplace safety regulations cover this? ...
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Is it ethical to apply directly for a job after a recruiter declines to submit you for the role?

Why wouldn't it be ethical? You have no legally or morally binding agreement or contract with the recruiting company or the client company. If you want to reach out to the client company directly then ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

To be fair, as a junior coworker, I would have thought that your job is to do whatever you are asked to do, as long as it in the field you were hired for. So, to me, it looks like you need to do it. ...
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Client is ending the contract with my company, gave me an unusual offer to work for them directly

Given my company doesn't mind dual employment and if I do decide to take it up, would it still be legal for an H1B to work in this arrangement? Most likely this is illegal unless the client does the ...
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How can a cybersecurity team mitigate internal customer complaints that real time user training is too intrusive?

I'd be looking at the systemic reasons why your developers are having to use P2P sites or disreputable code libraries! The problem with this kind of pestering is that people eventually tune out, if ...
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Received a job offer, but recruiter is behaving unprofessionally

Reach out to the hiring manager directly. The recruiters are just a means to an end: they are working on behalf of the hiring manager. Corporate recruiters have only a limited stake/interest in you ...
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How to avoid conflict of interest when dating another employee in a matrix management company?

As required by your company policy, make sure to disclose your dating relationship with your colleague to HR. This is the first step in ensuring transparency and addressing any potential conflicts ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You should not refuse to review the work of a colleague based on your role, paygrade, or place in the organizational hierarchy. On the Software Engineering Stack Exchange, I've written about reasons ...
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How to push back against request to use personal laptop at conference due to risk of machine compromise

The answer is dependent on what the primary reason you are attending the Conference for is Let me explain: Scenario 1: You are primarily attending as a representative of your company and in a very ...
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Team member working from home is distracted with kids while on video calls - should I say anything as her manager?

Ongoing issues should be acknowledged straight on. Letting the employee know that the children are an ongoing distraction is fair to everyone involved. That includes the employee. Having a dialog ...
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Manager asked for home address without giving a reason. Should I have provided it?

I'd be worried. It's not clear if they have a legitimate business need for this information or, once provided if it would be stored and protected appropriately. In my experience, contact information ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You already have reviewed it: thousands of lines of code, written without unit tests, and scrolling through functions 2,800+ lines long That seems like valid feedback you should give to your ...
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Can my employer change my 1099 contracted pay rate without my acceptance or a new contract?

OK. So there are a couple of issues here. It's good that there was a written agreement, and I hope you have a copy. If you are being paid as a 1099, on its face you don't have an EMPLOYER. You have ...
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Is working with potentially sharp objects under high time pressure considered safe?

I suggest she uses one glove. That's all you need for these sorts of jobs. One bare hand gives you the tactile abilities you need. The gloved hand gives you the initial protection until you know if ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

I worked at a company where this precise set of circumstances occurred involving a married couple. The relationship was fine when she was a manager and he reported to a different manager. He was then ...
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How to handle staff member with excessive time off

We are trying to come up with a solution other than letting her go. I would call her an “adequate” employee, not stellar, doesn’t go above and beyond and pretty much just does the minimum she is asked ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Should I directly refuse to analyse and review the twin project of the tech lead? Directly refusing an assignment typically has significant consequences anywhere from a stern talking to to dismissal. ...
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Should I send an email to African American colleagues given a recent nearby targeted crime?

I find these sorts of emails incredibly demeaning and patronizing. if you are absolutely compelled to say something - I would go with something like the following: Talk about how your thoughts are ...
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How can I save a dating relationship when I am promoted and she will be in my vertical reporting chain?

Option 5: Talk to management, have them assign you to parts of the business where there is no conflict of interest or power dynamic between the two positions. In a larger company there may be multiple ...
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How to Help Employee Who Is Struggling

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink I read and re-read what you've written, I can't fault what you are doing in terms of Management. You could try asking them if the personal ...
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Instantly regretting transferring to new team

After a couple weeks into my job another manager unexpectedly reached out and asked if I wanted to transfer ... a few days into the new team ... Couple of weeks into a job are barely enough to ...
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Received a job offer, but recruiter is behaving unprofessionally

I have been in the situation where the recruiter wasn't clear about the details, so I asked them to send me the contract. The contract should contain everything you need to know in terms of ...
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How can a cybersecurity team mitigate internal customer complaints that real time user training is too intrusive?

I think a lot of the issues people have with systems like this is that the focus is completely backwards. Most people see IT departments as focused on identifying and protecting against external ...
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Is it ethical to apply directly for a job after a recruiter declines to submit you for the role?

TL;DR: Ethics don't come in to it. You have no contract or agreement with the recruiter, and nothing to lose by making a direct application. They made their choice when they passed on you. As an ...
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