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Brought on to failing project and might lose job

I get this all the time, my career is built on solving problems after everyone else has failed and deadlines are looming. There is only one solution. Get the authority and backing from the CEO to ...
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Should I send an email to African American colleagues given a recent nearby targeted crime?

I would personally find this off-putting, intrusive, presumptuous, potentially inappropriate, and even condescending. If a message of support needs to be conveyed to staff it should come from the ...
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How do I let my manager know that I am overwhelmed since a co-worker has been out due to family emergency?

Someone is on leave with a Medical Emergency. The heavens may be falling, the world could be ending and I would still not say anything other than 'Hope your family gets well soon'. In that sense, your ...
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Do I have the right to limit a background check?

Perhaps unfortunately, there is no law that forbids making this particular request, or using your response as a datum in their decision. You have the right to deny them that info. They have the right ...
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How can a cybersecurity team mitigate internal customer complaints that real time user training is too intrusive?

If folks have a better idea for a way to give employees the necessary training and help them catch the occasional mistake, that would be great. But all that has really changed is that they are being ...
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How to handle boss' team invitation to go to a bar, when my coworker is an alcoholic in recovery?

Is there a way I can skip answering this uncomfortable question until a more opportune time? I don't think it's necessary to do that - supporting your team member doesn't mean you need to infantilize ...
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Is working with potentially sharp objects under high time pressure considered safe?

Whether it's ethical is subjective, and I would say "no". The important part of your question is about the safety: obviously it's not safe. Do your workplace safety regulations cover this? ...
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Can the word "girl" be derogatory when used to address a well known colleague?

Is the word girl in above context rude and unprofessional? Just to be safe, whenever you are not sure or have to ask, please do not use the word "Girl" or "Boy" at work at all. In ...
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Is it ethical to apply directly for a job after a recruiter declines to submit you for the role?

Why wouldn't it be ethical? You have no legally or morally binding agreement or contract with the recruiting company or the client company. If you want to reach out to the client company directly then ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

To be fair, as a junior coworker, I would have thought that your job is to do whatever you are asked to do, as long as it in the field you were hired for. So, to me, it looks like you need to do it. ...
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How can a cybersecurity team mitigate internal customer complaints that real time user training is too intrusive?

I'd be looking at the systemic reasons why your developers are having to use P2P sites or disreputable code libraries! The problem with this kind of pestering is that people eventually tune out, if ...
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Received a job offer, but recruiter is behaving unprofessionally

Reach out to the hiring manager directly. The recruiters are just a means to an end: they are working on behalf of the hiring manager. Corporate recruiters have only a limited stake/interest in you ...
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Uncomfortable in one-on-one meetings. Do I let my manager know this?

When the meeting starts, she always asks what do I want to talk about. You can tell her a few things to keep the meeting short and simple: All the projects are going very well. You are very happy ...
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How to avoid conflict of interest when dating another employee in a matrix management company?

As required by your company policy, make sure to disclose your dating relationship with your colleague to HR. This is the first step in ensuring transparency and addressing any potential conflicts ...
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Is hugging and handshakes between colleagues in Japan as a form of greeting a faux pas?

As visitors not very familiar with local business norms in Japan, did our side commit a faux pas? Very likely yes, you did with the hugging, it would feel awkward even in Western Europe where I work. ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You should not refuse to review the work of a colleague based on your role, paygrade, or place in the organizational hierarchy. On the Software Engineering Stack Exchange, I've written about reasons ...
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Manager asked for home address without giving a reason. Should I have provided it?

I'd be worried. It's not clear if they have a legitimate business need for this information or, once provided if it would be stored and protected appropriately. In my experience, contact information ...
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Can the word "girl" be derogatory when used to address a well known colleague?

Is the word girl in above context rude and unprofessional? "Derogatory" is in the eye of the beholder, and often, context is most important. I would never use the diminutive term "girl&...
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Do I have the right to limit a background check?

I was not receiving unemployment and frankly it is not their business how I survived Your're right. It's none of my business, and I don't really care what you did three years ago. Still, I (usually) ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

You already have reviewed it: thousands of lines of code, written without unit tests, and scrolling through functions 2,800+ lines long That seems like valid feedback you should give to your ...
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How do I tell coworkers about my pronouns?

I don't like using they/them because it often feels impersonal: they're just using it as the default; it feels like people don’t actually know my pronouns. It's important to note here that a ...
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Can my employer change my 1099 contracted pay rate without my acceptance or a new contract?

OK. So there are a couple of issues here. It's good that there was a written agreement, and I hope you have a copy. If you are being paid as a 1099, on its face you don't have an EMPLOYER. You have ...
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Is working with potentially sharp objects under high time pressure considered safe?

I suggest she uses one glove. That's all you need for these sorts of jobs. One bare hand gives you the tactile abilities you need. The gloved hand gives you the initial protection until you know if ...
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How to handle staff member with excessive time off

We are trying to come up with a solution other than letting her go. I would call her an “adequate” employee, not stellar, doesn’t go above and beyond and pretty much just does the minimum she is asked ...
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Can I refuse to review the work of the team tech lead if I have a lower grade than they?

Should I directly refuse to analyse and review the twin project of the tech lead? Directly refusing an assignment typically has significant consequences anywhere from a stern talking to to dismissal. ...
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Can I use my degree GPA on my resume?

Resist the temptation to over-share. In my experience CVs or resumes are for the most part a piece of meaningless red tape that job seekers are forced to do. So many times I have been asked my ...
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Should I send an email to African American colleagues given a recent nearby targeted crime?

I find these sorts of emails incredibly demeaning and patronizing. if you are absolutely compelled to say something - I would go with something like the following: Talk about how your thoughts are ...
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Sabbath Exemption on Saturdays

The first order of business for you is to put everything in writing. An email to your Manager outlining your issue with working on Saturday. Reference that you made it clear prior to accepting the ...
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How do I let my manager know that I am overwhelmed since a co-worker has been out due to family emergency?

how do I let my manager know that I cannot keep up with my shared duties as well as my own duties Call your manager so you are sure you are talking one-to-one. Something like "I cannot keep up ...
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How to Help Employee Who Is Struggling

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink I read and re-read what you've written, I can't fault what you are doing in terms of Management. You could try asking them if the personal ...
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