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Are they insinuating that you will bring in your weapons and do a shooting? The negative ones that are slandering your character must be reported to HR immediately. This is a very serious rumor that they're spreading that will severely impact your career and life. You have to nip this behavior in the buds before it sprouts and gets out of control. If you ...


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When such a discussion starts, try something like: I am not that type of guy; please stay in limits.


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Talk to them like an adult If someone says something to you that you feel is rude or demeaning, you tell them you feel attacked or demeaned by the statement. Frankly, this is no different than if they told you your hair style was ugly. When it gets to politics, you don't have to engage at all, and I would recommend that you don't. You don't have to respond ...


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How can I tactfully tell my colleagues outside my team but in our department, that politics is something I don't want to talk about at work? When such a discussion starts, try something like: "Sorry, I don't want to discuss politics at work."


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How can I tactfully tell my colleagues outside my team but in our department, that politics is something I don't want to talk about at work? Eventually, this whole hobby situation will subside. Right now you are still on the "fallout" and subsequent talk that came after that disclosure. This means that soon any reasonable coworker or colleague ...


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"Pay my outstanding bill, then we can talk." Be a broken record. https://www.amazon.com/When-Say-No-Feel-Guilty/dp/0553263900 If in the US, get a free Google Voice number, give all your friends the new number, then turn off the ringer on your phone if the call is not coming from Google Voice. Keep in mind that their reaction is completely outside ...


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Speculative application by mail after not receiving answers by e‑mail… Is it still relevant for small companies? No. Unsolicited physical applications is just as effective as unsolicited email applications. Which is not effective at all. You seem to be targeting small businesses. You're absolutely way better off targeting MNCs that have a presence in your ...


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What is it that I can do to end this relationship as quickly as possible? Your contract should have details on how to end the relationship. Follow that closely. It may require a notice period or not. And it may indicate ways to shorten the notice period. Unless your contract requires you to answer follow-up questions after the contract has ended, then don't....


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You do not owe them anything. You are not obliged to continue to support the project once your contact is up (assuming your serving notice). You are not obliged to reply to their emails, phone calls, texts or anything else and I suggest you block them on everything. If the amount outstanding is worth the effort, I would hire a lawyer to recoup the amount and ...


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"What is it that I can do to end this relationship as quickly as possible?" TL-DR: Just. end. it. Please. You can end this relationship right now by stopping to engage in communications that cost you your health and wellbeing. I know it seems differently but it really isn't. Looking more closely to this situation, the only people who are ...


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What is it that I can do to end this relationship as quickly as possible? It depends on how much money is outstanding and how badly you need the payment. If it is not significant, just ignore any communications that they send and move on. If it is significant and you have fulfilled all of your contractual obligations, the only communication that you should ...


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The answers thus far are needlessly harsh. Of course, it would have been better to just state that employer-B didn't work out. It happens sometimes. You want to leave your current job and then jump to a new employer and the job isn't what you expected or it's a bad fit for you. Most people can understand and sympathize with such an experience as long as it ...


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The BEST case scenario is that it would come out in a background check, and not after 5 years of employment with the company, when you will be quickly terminated for fraud. Come clean IMMEDIATELY, you don't want to get hired and have this hanging over your head, and never do it again


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You have a BIG problem. Background checks typically verify employment dates and job titles. So it's likely that your little ruse will blow up in your face. Best you can do at this point is to come clean to your new employer, apologize profusely and assure them that it will never happen again. Then hope for the best. Sorry, but if it were me, I'd immediately ...


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I am concern about background check. Shall I provide info about my new employer company B in background check since I never revealed about it during interview. You should have mentioned that before in the process, or during interviews. This is something that will surely come up in a BG check. Yes, you should provide them with this information ASAP if you ...


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This company has a dumb approach. I'm going to guess that you're probably working remotely and they're trying to prevent you from double-dipping. There's really no way for employer A to prove that you're no longer working for employer B without A (or a designee) directly contacting B. However, doing so may cause you undue stress in your ongoing situation ...


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You are doing this correctly. Don't quit your current job until you have a signed and counter-signed offer letter from the new company in hand. You also don't want your current employer to get wind that you're looking for a new job until you hand in your resignation. Say to the new employer that you are currently employed, but you will be quitting your ...


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"New employer want to verify that i am not working for any other employer." This is an unreasonable thing for them to want, as you obviously are currently working for another employer. Just tell your new employer that you don't want them talking to your old employer until after you have given notice. And remind them that you plan to give notice ...


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I don't think you made a mistake here. It's my personal opinion that if a workplace will systematically hold something against you, and that thing is important to you, then that workplace is not a good fit for you and you're better off not working there. Specifically in this case, if recreational shooting is a hobby of yours, and if the company doesn't ...


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That can backfire spectacularly. I remember the time my new boss was asked to introduce himself to the leadership team and, fortunately for him, briefly showed me his slides for that talk, where he had included range shooting as his new hobby. What he didn't know is that, a few years before he joined, there had been a shooting at the office, where an ...


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Did I make a mistake in telling team about sensitive / controversial hobby Perhaps, but probably not. There is no way of telling if the individuals concerned actually think it controversial. But, a general rule of thumb I follow is not to give anything but the most general personal information to people I do not know well at work unless I see some benefit ...


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The existing answers are mostly correct, but I wanted to provide some additional information confirming this. tl;dr: They are correct that the relevant federal labor laws don't apply to them due to the size of their business, but what they did would be permissible even if they did. The primary applicable law in the U.S. is the Americans with Disabilities Act ...


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This position is physically demanding That is a key point. If you have a shipping company and they ask this of everyone, including office staff, that could be a problem. In theory, asking such a question for positions that do not have physically demanding activity could be construed as discrimination against women (who, on average, are not as strong) or ...


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Is this an allowable question? Yes, this is allowed. (And the question would be allowed no matter how many employees worked at the company.) They don't want to know your specific medical conditions. They only want to know if you have any conditions that would prevent you from being physically capable of doing the job. Many job applications have similar ...


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An employer can ask about conditions that prevent the execution of the job's duties. While you think the employer asked about your medical issues, they didn't. They asked if you had medical issues that prevented you from performing the job. You could answer "yes" or "no" and still keep the medical issues private. Employers are allowed ...


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So many Red Flags - prepare your plan B. Despite record profits we got no Christmas bonus or CoLA (despite record inflation in my area), let alone legitimate raises. A huge red flag that your company is greedy beyond any sanity. In my experience this is most likely to happen when a take-over is being sought by management (i.e. someone else take's over the ...


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There are places in the world and businesses based on family ties where this MAY be relevant. These are outside of US for sure. Not only your boss is fundamentally wrong to mix your and your wife's employment matters, but it can also be understood as a hint that you are more vulnerable because the company may fire BOTH you and your wife at once. In some ...


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Your boss's statement seems stupid and irrelevant to me. Unless he knows what her salary was before she was hired by your company, how can he know what your "household" was making previously? And if there were such a thing as a company paying "household salary", you would be getting a combined check. I've never heard of such a thing, and ...


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It's difficult to be a perfect Christian, I try to improve already 50 years, but am not perfect myself. Here my ideas about this, since I see this also happening in Holland: A good Christian is somebody who loves God, loves Jesus and loves people. Jesus made no difference between prostitutes, tax-collectors and Pharisees. Although Jesus is usually painted as ...


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I like nvoigt's answer, and your boss certainly threw the most irrelevant points, but there is an argument that neither of you were quite right. No raise in relation to the cost of living means that your employer will be at a disadvantage compared to the market rate. Whether it allows you to maintain your quality of life is something you'll want to consider, ...


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Your wife's salary should never be point of discussion in your own salary negotiation. For good or bad. It's about you, your part in the success of the company and your compensation for this. Bringing up your wife's salary is also fishy since you mentioned your wife is working in a different department. Your boss should not even know what your wife makes or ...


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