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What should I do? You should maybe take an hour or so to get your version of events clear in your head so you know exactly what happened, then go straight to the police and file a report, clearly stating the facts, and leaving emotion out of it. You should file the same version of events with HR, advise that you have filed a police report, and state that ...


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Wow. The senior dev sounds like a complete creep. Are her weirded-out, uncomfortable feelings justified? Yes, I think you'd struggle to find anyone who would consider this as reasonable or normal behaviour. It's not standard practice in the industry - far from it. If (as a senior dev), I want to review work, I sit with the intern and we go through ...


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How to reprimand? Formally. At this point, based on your description, she's willing to do whatever she can do to abuse the rules and slide by, and utterly unwilling to actually produce. Fine. Don't try to fix her. Try to fire her. Figure out what is required, both in law and in company regulations, to get rid of her permanently, and walk that path. Do ...


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The company surely wouldn't share your resignation letter with the remaining employees. Writing an open letter to the remaining employees is a sure fire way to burn bridges, create animosity, and potentially damage whatever relationships you have left at this company. It seems to me that your real motivation is to exact some kind of "karmic" revenge on the ...


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I fully agree with the answer of @AdzzzUK. I am a team lead (male, senior), and his behavior is unimaginably nonprofessional. If so, what advice can I give her for the situation? Read the IT/security guidelines of the company. If these forbid such kinds of behavior, then report it to the IT/security. If I would be IT and I would learn that people ...


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Though I would like to avoid him in any which way, should I report this behavior to my bosses in company A or at the client directly? This situation definitely needs to be worked through your direct manager. You don't want to take the chance of damaging the relationship with the client -- that could potentially get you fired. At any rate you did your ...


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You need to seek legal advice, and to document everything you can remember immediately.


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What should I do? Go to the police. You were physically assaulted and suffered permanent damage. This is not something to be taken lightly and is on a completely different level than a few bruises from a friendly fight. a) you were attacked against your will. This makes it legally an assault or a comparable crime. You didn't add a country tag, but in many ...


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In some workplaces, practical jokes are part of the office culture (this doesn't necessarily mean a healthy part of office culture). In others, they're likely to get people disciplined or even fired. Not everybody has the same background or the same sense of humour. Even if the "joke" was meant purely in fun, it may not be taken that way by the target of ...


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Your employer owns your work email account, you are merely allowed to use to it. If there are personal emails contained there, you should delete them. However, based on your company's backup policies that doesn't mean that they are actual no longer there.


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As mentioned in the comments already, one option is to drive yourself separately, with the simple truthful explanation that you prefer to travel separately. You may possibly have to do so at your own expense. Another option is to bring a third party along so it’s not just you who has to bear the brunt of her behavior. An extra witness might be helpful if ...


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You mentioned in a comment that your primary goal was: To work harmoniously but not being treated like this. I think at this point the best approach is to wait and see what happens. Yes the internal employee was out of line but everybody does some crazy rubbish every now and again. He's apologized to you for that so I think at this point you just see how ...


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From your question Obviously, she needs to be reprimanded … but how do I get around the anticipated response of "I didn't know" or "I wasn't trained"? But then from your comment I'd been instructed by my supervisor and HR to document everything and retrain like a new employee due to the "I didn't know" comments during her written reprimand (for ...


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I want the job but I am beyond frustrated. If I would take the job I also would be working together with this hiring manager and if they were my supervisor I don't know how I would deal with this on a regular basis. How would you react to this behavior? What would you do? I'm sorry you experienced this; surely it can be frustrating. I must say that I ...


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now within 6 months I have the better offer the HR Director said I would never get. Does the new offer aligns with your future career goals and is a professional progression for you? If yes, sure go ahead and take it. You don't need to explicitly state it to the HR director. Or should I just leave without bringing it up. Exactly do this. Considering ...


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If that is how they treat interviewees, then how they treat their staff must be fantastic (not)... This is a red flag to find something else... unless they impress you with their explanation at the eventual interview, if of course, it ever happens... So, if you work in teams on shifts and there are shift changes - how will you get notification of changes? ...


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Are these actions common in workplaces, Not in any of the workplaces I have worked for in several eastern and western countries. are they acceptable? They should not be because like you mentioned it eats into the time of employees (for both the perpetrator of the prank and its victim). This should be seen as a direct loss of company's assets unless ...


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Are her feelings justified? Sure. If so, what advice can I give her for the situation? If not, what is something she can do to perhaps just avoid this situation all together? Send him an email from a company account that says, "You're making me uncomfortable. Please stop spying on my machine and sending personal messages." And don't ask him any questions ...


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I can't speak to the screen mirroring - as a senior dev, it may be part of his position to mentor interns and either direct over the shoulder monitoring or similar screen monitoring could be acceptable to me IF it was understood to be part of internship requirements or process and was being applied somewhat equally across the intern "pool". Heck, I do the ...


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How would you react to this behavior? What would you do? Should I call them out? They don't value your time. The last time a hiring manager did that to me, they missed 3 interview time slots. Apologized each time. Finally when I did a ~30 minute interview and was told that a former co-worker of mine who works at the same company had given me a great ...


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Goldfinger's Rule: "Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action." (according to Ian Fleming) Either the hiring manager is deliberately ignoring you, or he is INCREDIBLY disorganized. In either case, you don't want to work for him. Move on.


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One of the biggest assets in the workplace, perhaps in many other facets of life as well, is to train yourself if not to get on with diverse people, at least not to let them bother you in terms of your own mental state. I have worked with extremely toxic people, it's just a matter of changing your perspective. If you value your job then make a mental shift....


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The jokes you mentioned cross the line from "little practical joke" to "the person has nothing to do but annoy his co-workers". Someone left a cup of water precariously balanced on the woman's bathroom door, and you can imagine what happened later. No, i can't, since i don't know if any of the woman carried a company laptop when entering the room. A ...


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Mirroring a co-workers' screen without at least informing her is very strange practice. It's possible the company has a policy of doing this. But it's unlikely. Each behavior in the question by itself is slightly off. Taken together, they definitely cross the line into sexual harassment. This is especially true considering the power imbalance between your ...


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"I didn't know" simply doesn't cut it as an excuse for poor behaviour. That is not a legal (or even moral) defense. What is the defense is if it is reasonable for someone to know something. "I wasn't trained" is a very worrying excuse for someone that exhibits poor food safety. Depending on your jurisdiction, they should have documentation that shows they ...


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Where I worked so far people were allowed to install their private messenger app on the work computer, so they don't have to type on their small phone screens. Also browsing private stuff was always allowed. So someone remoting into this computer would be an inaccaptable breach of privacy and would get the person fired immediately. The fact that he can ...


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I was in the same situation, but I was the one giving the odor. My Co-worker (who sit's next to me) on a smoke break, told me I was giving off a bit of a smell ( which I personally didn't realise, only after he said it), as of then I'm starting to take showers early morning and late night to combat my problem. - Long story short, say to your co-worker, ...


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If you have a good relationship with your boss/manager (from your company) and you trust them, I would talk to them about this. Make it clear that it's not a complaint, but a request for advice. Presumably, your boss has been dealing with outsourcing longer than you have, probably with this same company, and he might know about this employee in particular, ...


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It sounds exactly that the employee was covering himself in front of his colleagues - you talked about the bug between yourselves and he was reasonable. then you talked about the bug in front of his colleagues and he was not - in particular he was passing the blame for it to you. So what this suggests to me is that internal politics is affecting his way of ...


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I think the main issue for any individual in this situation is about one’s own self -esteem. If one has an adequate level of self-esteem these sort of situations will not be troubling and let alone an issue. Yes, bullying and degrading comments are wrong but it’s the reality out there. And one will face such again and again. Answer lies with our own self -...


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