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I feel very bad that I'm not getting the same opportunity
You are being given the same opportunities, it's just that you are choosing to prioritize other, "boring", work. At the end of the day your manager doesn't care who does the tasks, only that they get done and done well. If you want to do some of the tasks instead of your colleague, you need to go and ...
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Should the person be blocked?
If she wants to stop their behavior on social media then yes the person should be blocked.
If the person speaks to her about it at work, she needs to respond with something like:
I am not going to discuss non work related matters with you, please do not speak to me about this again.
If the person persists, she should ...
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Your workplace is disorganized
It sounds like your workplace is disorganized. If your co-worker can jump on items saying "I've already done that" then you probably don't have an issue tracking system in place.
Also, the idea behind DevOps is that developers and operations are not separate roles. Your colleague is separating the roles. This is not DevOps.
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Fundamentally, you are being taken advantage of. Your coworker has no interest in playing fair with you. He wants to do all of the fun/interesting jobs. Your manager has no interest in changing the status quo. Right now, he has two DevOps people who are specializing in ways that he personally finds quite useful. Your coworker is getting better at the ...
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This may be a violation of the Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA)'s Restrooms and Sanitation Requirements:
Employers must:
Allow workers to leave their work locations to use a restroom when needed.
Provide an adequate number of restrooms for the size of the workforce to prevent long lines.
Avoid imposing unreasonable ...
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Have any of you been in a similar situation? Essentially what they want to do is go behind my ExBoss's back...not that I care about that, but what I don't want is for this to potentially backfire.
As this person is not your boss or manager anymore, you should not do what they say, and instead carry on the tasks assigned by your current manager.
There is no ...
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Should the person be blocked?
Yes. Her social media should also be set to private so that only her name and profile picture can be seen by outsiders. Personal information should be set to private or friends only such as her age, location, etc.
Should I talk to him?
No.
Should she talk to him?
No.
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Split your morning meeting into two sessions. Rotate the team members in each session until you figure out who's farting.
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[Bob] told me that my manager doesn't like me very much, but he beat around the bush when I asked why and said I shouldn't be knowing that.
I know he's your friend, but Bob (that's what I'll call this "other higher up") is being a bit of an arse.
In all seriousness, this is a really crappy situation to put you in. If he wasn't comfortable telling you ...
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Yes, she should block him, but she should also email him using work email saying:
Hey Bob,
Just to be clear, I'm not interested in you, nor am I interested in being friends with you. If you try to contact me one more time outside of work, I will report you to HR for harassment. Do you understand?
It's important to do this in writing, this way she ...
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People forget stuff and things are abandoned
My benefit plan login took extra time as the enrolment forms got lost by the insurance company.
I got an offer letter in my email with no other context elevating me to permanent employee.
A friend of mine worked at a company where they hired a job 4 times because they kept on forgetting that a candidate had ...
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8:30 to 5:30 company and expressed how the boss and the sales manager come into work at 6:30 every day. The boss told them to come in at 6:30 am
The manager then went on to say it wouldn't be fair to others who start work at 7:30
worse than the traditional hours of the jobs having large base pay, which they turned down because of early hours and ...
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Just summarising from comments to a delete answer:
This is all about you being in a football team and your branch manager apparently hating football and making your life hard because of it.
However, the football team is the creation of the company CEO. So the company CEO wants the team to succeed.
Your branch manager tries hard to make you fail both in ...
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Whenever there is a nice/important task, he does it without consulting the team if there is another one who would like to work on it.
Frankly, this is just a poor team work culture. Someone could argue that you could rush to grab the cool tasks for yourself too, but why prolong that culture? The team should really have a way to prioritize and assign tickets ...
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You said everyone had to leave the room once because of this. So it looks like everyone is aware of this issue and not too ashamed to admit that it exists.
When something like that happens again (e.g. everyone leaves the room or someone mentions bad smell) you could say something to all your colleagues, like: "I know it's an awkward thing to talk about, but ...
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First and foremost your friend should check the contract. If there is anything concerning the hours, they can explain that they are only obeying the contract. Otherwise, I only see two options:
If the employer is really as nice as they say, they should check with him if those early morning hours are only temporary. If so make it clear, that flexibility is ...
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In Agile, there are referred to as “team working agreements.” They mix culture, operating standards, technical norms... Here is an article with an example. You can find many more by using “agile team working agreement” as search keywords. The team works together to create it, and then hold each other to it both as you work and in retrospectives. It ...
answered Jan 28 at 2:01
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Also, I don't want to be rude, and yawning is a body function after all. How do I approach this issue?
I suggest you approach this person, in private, and politely ask them to cover their mouth when yawning.
Asking someone not to yawn is unrealistic. Covering your mouth when you do is ok to ask. Just, try not to break your head with details like this, and ...
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I just think it's such a shame that this is happening and something can't be done.
Yes, it is a shame. The shame is even bigger, considering that the same happens in so many companies all over the world.
It's really stressful and embarrassing, seeing him treat people in this way.
Yes, it is. Been there, done that.
I can't imagine what sort of chaos ...
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Before you do anything else.
Read The Partnership Charter: How To Start Out Right With Your New Business Partnership (or Fix The One You're In)
It was written by a mediator who does arbitration after business partnerships have failed. So after having seen so many failed partnerships, he decided to write a book about preventing problems in the first place.
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They might just not like you personally, but be perfectly capable - aside from appearing cold - to not let that influence their professional evaluation. I don't particularly like a few colleagues personally either, but absolutely respect their professional competency and work well with them together. I'd just not invite them to a tea party. And that's ...
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You described your concerns as,
But this exactly my concern is, if I have negative perceptions about them, they might be thinking the same way about me. Would this affect my reputation in organisation? Would my manager be affected by this? with whom I have an excellent professional relationship.
Any time you have concerns based on assumptions or indirect ...
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I like to know senior/junior web developers how long work in a company in average?
There is no ultimate answer to this question. They can be with a company for a time ranging from a few weeks to a life-time.
Usually, people stay with a company at least a few years before moving, as a rule of thumb.
There is even a trend claiming that jobs have to be ...
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Unless he's directly causing or threatening harm to you or anyone else, mind your own business or take it up directly with him. Not his employer.
And if he is posing an obvious physical threat to you or anyone, then take it to the police. Not his employer.
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There's a risk of being too prescriptive when you're trying to describe behaviors you want people to exhibit. And, if your culture is toxic already, giving a toxic culture a big long written list of behaviors you want is likely going to just give them one other thing to argue over: hey, idiot, you're not supposed to play blame ping pong!
Perhaps this is ...
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There's several sides to this issues that I've seen and even have done myself. I'll talk about a few of them, but there's more than I can cover as well as variations and combination of things that are far too many for even think about.
Insecurity
The other dev could be insecure about their abilities, so they take the easiest things to work on, knowing it's ...
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What I'm gleaning from your question is that a difference of opinions about a technical matter has not resolved for a few months and this is putting the project behind. The answer to whether this is an "HR issue" is a simple no. HR doesn't resolve management issues relating to the work (with the possible exception if there is a law or regulation being ...
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What you do, is you mind your own business.
People are not robots. They're going to yawn, cough, sneeze, fart, drink liquids, et cetera at their desks. And that's fine. Say "gesundheit" as required or nod at an "excuse me!" and that's the extent of interaction with their bodily functions you need to ever consider having.
You admit yourself this isn't ...
answered Jan 27 at 19:50
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Should the person be blocked?
Yes she should do this if she doesn't want any more insinuations from this colleague.
If this starts to cross the thin line of harassment, she could also consider reporting the user.
Additionally, it is usually recommended to keep separate profiles for your personal and professional network users, so incidents like these don'...
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This is highly regional
I'm in Calgary. My entire network is constantly changing jobs as there is a high demand for tech people and companies are fairly willing to hire and lay off. I worked an internship at a bank two summers ago and a fair number of people from that job are on their second position change (either internally or externally). It isn't a wear ...
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