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Should I come out as a neurodivergent?

Here is my 2c. Who Cares. Now, this is not as unfeeling as you think it might be. Firstly - let's look at your line of work: Highly technical. Those closest around you have probably already twigged ...
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How might I explain to my HR that, despite being physically able/fit to work, that I can't return to work due to my surgery and job demands?

This question dances the line between what we can answer and what we can't. There are two components to the question: 1: Medical Exemption. The short answer here is if the Doctor says you are okay to ...
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Is pair programming a team lead or a tech lead decision?

Both. Neither. The tech lead and the team lead must work together to get the best outcome for the team. Trying to divide up responsibilities into "tech lead decision" and "team lead ...
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A colleague is answering question my colleagues are asking me

In many teams, team leads are tasked with making decisions for the team. They can also be repositories of simple facts. Your reactions to what your team member does depend on which of these cases is ...
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Is it worth it to report hostile work environment to the HR or it would be futile exercise and can backfire?

People not liking how you work isn't a "hostile work environment." There is no harassment, nothing that you should have learned about in those training sessions. What would you have HR do? ...
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Should I come out as a neurodivergent?

A huge number of people in the sciences and engineering fields exhibit some symptoms of various "neurodivergencies" from autism to ADHD to manic/depressive. The best use for a formal ...
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Is pair programming a team lead or a tech lead decision?

Under whose domain falls pair programming? In companies I have worked for, it is the individual developers on a case-by-case basis. They might be encouraged to use pair programming as a tool, and ...
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Should I come out as a neurodivergent?

1.) Random people, like me, on the internet can only give opinions. Do not accept as guidance or legal advice. Speaking from experience, you have been at your current company for a long time. Your co-...
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How do you manage to keep sanity when having high equity

There is a misconception that rich people sit on their luxury yachts and sip Champagne all day. You are discovering this is not the case. Assets must be managed and most "passive" income ...
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How might I explain to my HR that, despite being physically able/fit to work, that I can't return to work due to my surgery and job demands?

Assuming a US based healthcare system Married to a doctor, not a doctor myself, not giving medical advice, follow at your own risk. Be honest with your doctor and trust their decision with regards to ...
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Is it worth it to report hostile work environment to the HR or it would be futile exercise and can backfire?

It is a red flag that: Since I work for two companies (parent and client), I could care less about the client company; my parent company is the one that pays me. Working remotely misses out on ...
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A colleague is answering question my colleagues are asking me

To follow up futher on Kate Gregory's answer. Consider taking this person aside right after the next time. Thank them for the help and their skillset. Remind them that office etiquette is part of ...
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