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I don't work in retail, but in my area of expertise there are a lot of headhunters. They might even call me on my work phone, while I'm at work to offer me an opportunity. Even though my boss is in the same office and can hear what I have to say over the phone. They don't care if anyone notices and frankly, what are you going to do? You can only tell them ...


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All the scout has to do is to come into the store as a "normal" customer, spend 5 minutes trying a coat or dress or whatever, and as part of the process they always talk... Do you like it here? How long have you been here? etc Then, at the end they say to your operative "thank you for helping me so well, if you want a different opportunity contact me and ...


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It is perfectly legal for a competitor to talk to your employees and offer them a job elsewehere. The "scout" wouldn't have to keep this secret at all. She doesn't need to worry that it gets noticed if the scout gives someone a business card, because it's perfectly fine. If someone notices, they are given a business card as well. If they talk to someone and ...


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Having lived in Germany for much of my adult life, and then in China, I find this question extremely interesting. One bit of scientific knowledge can be turned into an amazingly lucrative industry in the PRC. China has a family-oriented and strongly nationalistic society. Gaining technical know-how overseas can lead to incredible rewards at home. ...


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Are they allowed to treat me like this? There may not be a law against how they treat you (Especially If the 'bad treatment' is primarily on the lines of passing rude comments). However, there should be a company policy against it and you should check with your manager or HR if there is one and how to enforce it in your case. If you are getting this ...


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Childcare in Australia as you know is and has been in very high demand especially in the large cities. A lot of the centers are small with no real HR departments and pretty much at the mercy of the owner who is also often the person running the day to day business. This limits your options in terms of what action can be taken. In an ideal world you ...


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There are a lot good answers to your problem and but as a freelancer who has witnessed a LOT of very toxic workplaces this is what I think. Firstly, you are under no obligation to suck it up. That statement is utterly unhelpful, un-constructive nonsense. You came to this forum because you are quite rightly, not prepared to 'suck anything up' in the final ...


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The real question is: how will your girlfriend's life change after she completes her specialisation? That should be the starting point of any consideration on her circumstances. In any case: Italy has very strong unions. Other countries don't have this luck. Your friends should be talking to a union representative. And... 70 hours per week are uncommon. In ...


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Do you work with your girlfriend in the same job or at the same company. If not, don’t get involved. Your job is to listen, let her vent and make her feel better. You should not be pressuring her to act or do things she might not want to do. You are creating more stress. Buy some wine. Clean the bathroom. Make a nice meal. Give her a massage


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This seems a straight forward case to form some sort of local worker representation inside the institution, or join a regional or national union and put pressure on management. Such misuse seems pretty common in the health care sector. Since there was already a chance for higher management to properly clean up their institution it seems it is one of the ...


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Having been in a similar situation, I feel for your self-imposed ordeal. Letting go of an abusive company is like quitting an abusive girfriend(or boyfriend). First step is admitting you have a problem. You got emotionally involved with a company and now, when it's time for you to move on, she tries to suck you back in. To make it's problems your problems. ...


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Sadly, you have no other choice than to grit your teeth and continue to do your work. Follow any work related instructions, do your tasks and continue to be the same reliable and thorough employee that you have been before your resignation (but of course only up to a certain level of "caring about"; above that, see point 3) in the paragraph below). Also, if ...


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I'm assuming that your girlfriend otherwise loves her job and the people she's working with (and for) and wishes to remain working there if at all possible. Your girlfriend should reconnect with the same manager who dealt with the whistleblowing report and say that the desired outcome did not happen to satisfaction. Out of your new meeting, you need to ...


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Quietly look for another job and move amicably I am thinking about another anonymous whistleblow that could force the boss to change things. If the first one hasn't changed things, I doubt another one will change it either. Sadly, at times, the upper management doesn't care about the ground level issues, as long as the business is running. The best move ...


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Please don't overthink this. It's a difference in personal style. You can take a moment or two to explain your personal style: Have a private conversation with this person, where nobody else can overhear. Tell him you are a private person and you wish he would stop the unwanted behavior. "When you said yesterday, 'Why are you in a bad mood?' it felt ...


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It seems you clearly understand that your Project B uses fake scrum. It seems you competently resisted some fake-scrum nonsense (extra large velocity numbers) in your previous tenure on the project. That is excellent experience, even if it was unpleasant. You also noticed that you had responsibility (prepare code for test, for example) without authority (...


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Quite obviously he does not know a lot about you, or doesn’t care about your feelings one bit, or he would have known that his actions upset you and would have stopped. What he does is just a cheap parlour trick. The way to stop it is to demonstrate to everyone it doesn’t work. The next time he pretends to know something about you, you straight contradict ...


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It is nigh impossible to change someone else's behaviour, the only control you have is in how you react to their behaviour. Next time your colleague finishes your sentence or pre-emptively starts a task he knows you need done, speak to him: Tell him that you prefer a certain procedure in how things are done and that he needs to clarify with you before he ...


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It seems that you have the unexpected interpersonal / workplace problem: the one between your colleague and the other colleagues :) And you are uncomfortable, that they have no problem :) I wish he would either not socialize with coworkers Of course, the first thing that you MUST do is accept things: the social skills of other people are not your concern ...


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I was promised that every major issue in project organization was resolved, so now developers do not overwork, have direct communication to the clients. The only choice I have it either to try and confirm that Project B organization was really changed and I will like working on Project B or quit. From your statement, it appears that you have raised your ...


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This happens to me as well. I believe it is very common for many other people especially when meetings are bore and they make it is mandatory for you to attend one. In this case I generally take a break (everyone has right to take break for nature's call), go washroom, wash your face fully for two-three times, drink water and come back.


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So does my proposed response seem reasonable, or is there something that I am totally missing? Your response is not necessary. You were not discussing the project with the SME so Sam's claim is incorrect. Even if you were discussing the project with the SME, Sam's conclusion that not being copied would make him look bad is ridiculous. Furthermore, your ...


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I don't think Sam is overacting at all. I have worked on some projects where I would let a teammate know I'm going to chat to someone down the hall. This is because I knew not only that they'd be interested in the answers, but be able to ask probing and important questions. This has got nothing to do with reporting lines, but everything to do with having a ...


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Else, you are making me look bad! Sorry Peter, but I think Sam's right. He probably felt really stupid when the SME said something like "I told Peter all this stuff yesterday. Didn't he tell you?" Apologise - the last para from @Sander Skovgaard Hansen's answer is perfect (and I actually upvoted that for this reason) - and move on, either including Sam in ...


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I don't know enough about the inner workings of your projects to say if he is being unreasonable or not, but I do think there's something you're missing here. The thing is that water cooler conversations are called what they are, because they aren't initiated as much as just happen, to happen. While it is true that sometimes someone wants to initiate them, ...


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You may have ADD/ADHD. I used to yawn several times an hour after being awake for only two hours. Napping helped but too many hours needed. I was diagnosed with ADHD, got the right meds (it can take a few tries). I no longer yawn, far more present, and able to take on many more tasks.


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Short answer: you're asking the wrong people. Ask your boss - and be prepared for a hard answer. Ask them for what's the best way to hit the ground running in 3 months. Something you've got to understand: working in a small business means that each employee matters more. When you're gone unexpectedly, a whole 8% of their workforce disappears without ...


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I don't think there's anything to worry about here as long as your disease isn't contagious (in which case, your management has a valid argument against keeping you on work and you may want to explore their health insurance policy but I'm assuming this is not the case). Your management hasn't shown any sign of firing you because they can't legally fire you ...


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I did some research on this during my bachelor's. It's been a while (2012), so I'll see if I can source this, but no promises. Yawning correlates with the time of day, and how long you have been sedentary. Exercise situationally surpresses yawning. Yawning is contagious, and this effect correlates with group cohesion: You are more likely to yawn in a group ...


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I've found that clenching my jaw just enough to prevent the jaw from moving into a yawn works well. I've also found ways to prevent the rest of my face from showing strains of yawning. You can also put you hand on your face in a "thinking" posture to help hide your intentions. Make sure your mouth stays closed while doing this, and you'll muffle any sound ...


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It depends on the situation, but I would sometimes work on something else to keep from being bored. If you have a laptop that you can bring to the meeting, it is easy. No computer? Use a notebook, outline the solution to a problem, make a to-do list, etc. Just don't become so immersed in your work that you appear to be ignoring the meeting. Take time to ...


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If you're not strictly needed at these meetings, then don't go to the meetings anymore (get yourself taken off the invite list). If you are supposed to be in the meeting, then do your best to pay attention to what's being said. Being bored and yawning means that you're missing something that might well be important. Yawning in a meeting (or badly ...


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You can stop yawning through breathing in through your nose and out through the mouth. Breathing in through your nose cools blood vessels in your head that help stop you from yawning. Other advice would be to find techniques to feel more awake, such as getting out of bed without hitting snooze, drinking plenty water throughout the day, do exercise 3-4 ...


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Should we insist that our contributions are included? No, because they likely won't be. Should we participate and let them do what they want? Yes, that is what you boss told you to do. He said you had to participate... I take that to mean "you" singular and "you" plural (his team... you from his team). Doesn't sound like your boss thinks very much ...


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I can tell you how this works at my reasonably organised place. As a developer, I start with a set of tasks that should be achieved for the next release. My boss has decided when the release is, and when QA needs to start testing. I do the tasks in reasonable quality. Shortly before the date WA should start, if there are tasks not done my boss and I ...


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Best is to just ask a coworker what is appropriate. You say that people have brought in treats for other occasions in the past, so there is precedence. However, since you are new to the company and the country, you never know what little nuances there are to social etiquette, so it can't hurt to ask a coworker what would be appropriate. They may tell you ...


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This is a great place to apply the Golden Rule. Seriously, if you walked into the office, saw there was cupcakes because "Cheryl finally managed to get her MBA," would you honestly think anything other than: Ooh! Cupcakes! Congrats, Cheryl! Thanks, Cheryl! As for the fanciness, or elaborateness, or anything like that: Don't Overthink It. You're happy! ...


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The answer is: Whatever you feel comfortable with. You don't know about birthdays or child being born from people who don't want/like to share this info. If you like to tell your colleagues and give them something it's on you. Depending on part of Germany you might bring cake called Baumkuchen. In some parts you might bring parts of wedding cakes specially ...


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Yes I've seen coworkers bringing food for birthday or child birth This means that your coworker are used to celebration, there would be nothing strange for you to mimic them to celebrate your wedding. I'm the kind to bring stuff to share at work, but for this kind of reason it should be a little more fancy I guess. Try to adhere to what's usually ...


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When you raise the issue to your supervisor or other management, you can maximize your chances of having a productive discussion by being focused on potential solutions and avoiding blaming or complaining. Develop a specific solution proposal and bring it to your manager. Make it clear you believe the root cause of the issues being noticed by the client is ...


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You need to have it documented that your bugs were found, and ignored. Don't be afraid to speak up. If the boss doesn't accept it, you may need to go above his head. Or, I don't mean to blame you in any way, but you need to more assertively put it back on him that QA is worthless if bugs are ignored. If you got a warning letter, I'd refuse to sign ...


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Some of the existing answers take the approach of convincing the smoker to just wait until everyone who is sensitive to smoke has gone home. That's not enough -- even if the smoker only smokes when they are alone in the office, the smoke gets into everything and can cause problems for sensitive people the next day or in the longer term. (It can also cause ...


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Consider asking your boss for some back-up. He or she is invested both in your time being used efficiently and that you have a positive experience while at work. It sounds like your boss is already aware of your feelings about the situation. Have another conversation with you manager and make a specific request that he/she intervene. Some things that your ...


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This may be a case where you just need to adjust your outlook on the situation. It’s commendable that you take ownership of your contributions and want them to be valuable to the company. But it sounds as though you’ve attempted what you should. Unless there is some other route of authority to pursue, I’d suggest you do your due diligence of participating ...


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Ask HR. They make policy. Do not ask them about this particular incident, but as you are new ask them to clarify what the office policy is on talking, making noise, listening to music (I presume via headphones) and so on. You have not indicated a country so it's also hard to give advice that might not clash with a cultural norm. As a general rule it's a ...


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The fact you're new there is important - assuming you want to stay there, and this doesn't turn into a frequent occurrence, I'd simply shrug it off. If you start making a fuss, then rightly or wrongly, you'll be deemed as the one who's not a good team player (especially if the other guy has been there for years already.) If it keeps happening, then you can ...


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Offer your co-worker some feedback. The behavior you’re describing is an attempt at communication, but in an unacceptable way. In the moment, acknowledge the comment and let it be. Perhaps reply by saying: “Thank you for letting us know. We’ll do our best not to disturb you.” Later, discuss your colleague’s behavior in a point of feedback with them. ...


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We are new there and we didn't want to start from being rude. How to react? If this is the first time that has happened, the best that you could do is to stay quiet. Do not react impulsively and adhere to the slightly impolite request. There are a number of variables involved here. You are new and you haven't got the chance or time to know your coworker ...


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It's always possible you weren't left out due to malice. If your relationship with colleagues is important to you, then don't let scrum meetings sour that. Nurture your relationship with them by going to outings and engaging with them in conversations (again, if this aligns with your personal interests). If you still get the sense that they are ...


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Your actions and comments have probably signaled to the group that you are not interested, or invested in the job. They probably assume you are planning to leave, or find your to be a bad egg and are distancing themselves from you so as to not be considered hanging with the bad egg. You need to reengage with the work and team, stop coming in late, stop ...


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