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I tried ghosting them, told them I signed several contracts that forbid me from assisting any other business, but in vain. They are reluctantly sending me lists of tasks as if I'm still on their payroll. I'm avoiding them now. I don't want to do anything for them and have the stress again which I left them for, and also as I know them, they are not going to ...


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What you're defining as a "professional standard" is at best very outdated in the modern world. Sure, there are bounds to any professional relationship but that doesn't have to mean you have to completely exclude any form of social interaction with those people. If you would rather exclude any social interaction from your professional life, that's ...


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I feel that the conditions for me to develop are bad, I love programming but honestly, I'm getting yelled all the time, I didn't get no initial support and salary is way too low, so I don't really want to spend my after work hours studying it. Major RED FLAGS right there! This is a toxic environment and you need to get out ASAP. Get your resume/CV in ...


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I think your experience is fairly common - I'm sure I'm not alone in having searched for an issue and found my OWN answer to it on Stack Exchange. I've got nearly 20 years in the industry now and while I feel like I have a lot of memory of it, it's often not until coming across old work documents or speaking to somebody do they remind me of a project/...


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How do I get rid of these people without being super rude? I have a question for you. How do you get rid of pushy telemarketers and spammers without being super rude? You politely decline their request and you hang up the phone. Then you block their number. If they continue by email, you just mark their emails as spam (or you make a filter for their email ...


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This is a non-issue. Your current company hasn’t changed, only your position/role/title.


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It is quite simple really... you either carry on doing the job that they are asking you to do, or you find a new job that you want to do. Your contract is kind of irrelevant here. They can't give you C/C# work if there isn't any of that work to do. It is up to you to decide if you are willing to accept the type of work that they have available, or if you ...


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Since you have no experience besides help desk type roles, I suggest you take this as an opportunity to learn and get experience on your resume. After 2 years, look for a new job. It's very difficult for someone that only has help desk experience to land a junior developer position. Most people try to get their foot in the door with a helpdesk job and try ...


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If someone asks me to build an application using these from scratch, I'm likely to fail... If they asked you to do that during an interview, yes, you'd fail. But at work, if they gave you a full week or two to hook up a new application to a database, I'm pretty sure you'd muddle through. If you don't feel confident about that, maybe you should just prove it ...


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Sorry, I'm going to be a little rough at first. I was tricked to think that I'll get some documentation about the structure of the system Then you should really improve your interviewing skills. You can only be tricked if you let them. Learn how to ask the right questions. Who's right, me or the investor who hired me? Doesn't matter What's your point of ...


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This won't get you anywhere. The legal and administrative overheads of what you're suggesting would far outweigh any value you'd potentially bring to the company. Even though you're trying to minimize those costs, they're still very much non-zero, and you're not going to bring any value to the company.


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You have a couple of options, probably more than I'm going to list here Block or otherwise make it so you don't see calls or texts from them, continuing to ignore them. If you do have some spare time and are willing, give them a VERY HIGH price per hour for the work you will do for them. Make sure you have a written contract, and are paid quickly for any ...


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You need to understand the dynamic at small companies and decide if this is the road you want to go down. Don't think of it as "I'm taking on a developer role". You're not, at least not exactly. Small companies demand a far different scope from IT personnel. In a large company, you can be "The SQL Stored Proc" guru, where all you do is ...


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I just am wondering how potential employers are even going to view my time spent freelancing. Doing projects and freelancing isn't the same as working a regular job. But the specifics matter. It might be as good. It might be better. But it's clearly different. And that difference is something you will need to address with a hiring manager. It might show ...


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I tried ghosting them, told them I signed several contracts that forbid me from assisting any other business, but in vain. [...] How do I get rid of these people without being super rude? At the risk of stating the obvious: Tell them in unambiguous words that you are not interested in continuing to work for them (without giving a reason), that you are not ...


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I think being both a founder and sitting in the C-suite of a company gives you the right to give yourself a reference. It isn't fake, so stop using that word.


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They have more of a problem than you do. They need you, badly. But they are making it look like you need them more, to keep you docile. In reality, you have a huge disadvantage - you don't yet have experience and seasoned skill, in being direct, honest, assertive, and setting+holding boundaries. So they walk all over you, and then tell you its all your fault ...


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Often stuff such as 'free lunches' are perks to attract people to their company. They don't expect it to be a bonding experience or for you to use that perk. They still expect you to be professional in the workplace. I would go to the interview and ask what it is like to work in the company and decide based on that, you can get a better feel for what the ...


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Really, really weird This is going to come across really weird and completely out of touch with professional norms even for a university. No company is going to let you show up and hang out all day watching other people work. From the university's perspective it's a bunch of liabilities. What if you get hurt - you might sue for workers comp? Will you ...


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What is it that you would like to do? Clearly, this role does not allow you to grow as a developer. If you don't have side projects you may get rusty. That becomes a disadvantage when you're interviewing. If you would prefer a development-focused position, you might not want to stick around too long. On the other hand, the combination of experience with C ...


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This seems like an honest mistake - an omission on your part. Since you haven't lied about your position, but simply forgotten to update your CV, I would expect the worst outcome to be a question with regards to this. I can hardly imagine them retracting the job offer over this. If they do, you may want to approach them, but this may also be considered ...


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Not only does this seem sketchy It is sketchy. You're not ready for this role, they should know this or they're very out of touch with reality. There is a risk that they don't have the money to invest or they need a scapegoat for a failed project. Of course it could be above board as well, but in that case you should get a payrise and job title change. You ...


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Remember that acting professionally has different meanings and implications depending on the location, the industry, the job, and that it constantly evolves. If you want to know how to act professionally in a role you should look at the people practicing the profession in your region, see how they act, and act like them. If that involves having lunch with ...


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As one answer already said, keep brief notes. But I'd do it differently. You know that the past tends to blur, for you. So keep a kind of diary on your computer. Just bullets, rough format, nobody else is ever going to see it. When something happens good or bad, make a note with the date. That doesn't just help you with interviews. It also means if you ever ...


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Facet #1: Since this is a University, you may be able to get away with a modified version of what you're looking for. You're in an unusual situation. You're not looking for pay or for official work history - you're looking for knowledge/experience. Which means you don't need a formal job. ... but you can't exactly do that at an actual business, for a dozen ...


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Your job had to do with SQL etc. so you put that under experiences. It is rare to have a job where you design everything including the integration of all external systems from scratch. As long as you had to deal with a technology, it can go under experience with that technology. If you group the technology skills by experience level, you can address it there,...


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I see three very different points to Free Lunch, keeping in mind of course TANSTAAFL. Simple Benefit to Employees A free lunch saves each person a few dollars a day. How much depends on how elaborate the lunch is and how much each person would spend if they did not get a free lunch. Even if due to medical or religious reasons you can't take advantage of ...


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Send them an quotation, with a high hourly rate. Tell them you can help them, but as you are no longer on their pay roll and you dont want to work for free, you have to charge an hourly rate. A high hourly rate of (eg)150$, billing every started quarter, paid in advance, for all work relating to developing (eg designing, consulting, documenting, etc). Give ...


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As long as you make the separation about you and not about your previous (or current) employer, you'll be fine. As you're describing it, you're seeking more fulfillment in your work. You just need to be able to define what that fulfillment looks like for you. It shouldn't reference any part of why it's not fulfilling in your current or previous role. It ...


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It's a bit extreme, but you might talk to the police or your local political representative about what options are available to stop this "harassment".


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