Kate Gregory
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My manager told me I should feel comfortable about telling him if I want to leave the company. Should I tell him?
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First, there do in fact exist managers who will not fire you just because they think you might want to leave the company, and who will not withhold plum assignments or otherwise mistreat you either. I ...

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Should I charge my client the agreed amount for the difficult tasks that I have solved by accident within few minutes?
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You and your client agreed on a per-site rate. If it had turned out to be way harder, would you have been allowed to charge $1000? I expect not. I faced this in real life when my staff would insist if ...

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How do I deal with the "30 minutes remaining" problem?
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In addition to planning your day, tidying things up, and just plain leaving early (to make up for staying late other times), let me suggest something that probably seems very counter-intuitive: Try ...

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Should I reveal productivity tricks to peers, or keep them to myself in order to be more productive than the others?
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If you reveal it publicly (that is, everyone knows you have trained your peers) not only will you be more productive, but your whole team will be, and management will know why. By advancing the ...

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I quit, and boss offered me 3 month "grace period" where I could still come back
255 votes

It seems to me that your boss believes the reasons you are leaving are entirely about you: your loss, your grief, your health. Your boss hopes that in a few months, these reasons will change leaving ...

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Co-Worker quit today, boss is pretending it didn't happen. Is this weird?
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250 votes

There is a certain amount of "getting your ducks in a row" that may be necessary when someone leaves employment very quickly. They may have been fired (despite someone saying X texted Y "I quit", you ...

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How can I deal with managers that refuse to accept use of common software engineering design patterns?
248 votes

Has doing it your way ever helped? Was there even once a time when you used indirection and injection and extra interfaces, and there was a last-minute swerve, and it was all handled smoothly and ...

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Is it acceptable to do a security test on a company's open WiFi before an interview?
220 votes

Imagine I invited you to my house for a backyard bar be que and you arrived and, while we were in the kitchen, said I stopped by yesterday while you were at work. That fence doesn't keep anyone out....

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Senior architect lashing out when junior developer asks questions. What to do?
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You have several separate issues here: you can't get the information you need from documentation or any way other than talking to this abrasive person the person you have to ask objects to being ...

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Slow coworker receiving compliments while I receive complaints
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A lot of this depends on how you communicate when you fix a problem. Compare: Ok, that's good now. With That problem is solved: I ran a script I wrote last year when that sort of thing started ...

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What's the best time to arrive for an interview / meeting / appointment?
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The reason for planning to arrive 15 minutes early is so you can have 15 minutes of delay and still be on time. It's so you can take a quick detour into a coffee shop to use the bathroom if you're ...

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How soon do I need to tell my future employer that I won't be able to work for them?
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191 votes

I suggest that instead of telling them you can't take the job you tell them the problems you're facing. Ideally, you would have some proposed solutions as well. For example, are their people all ...

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How can I work in a chauvinistic male dominated environment where the women are no better?
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There are two reasons why a man at work would behave like this towards you: they genuinely desire you sexually and would have a relationship with you if you were willing they want to embarrass you, ...

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How to deal with colleague who uses unintelligible colloquial/slang terms?
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Since you know you might not understand this person correctly, I would avoid yes/no or other terse answers. Constantly checking to see what they mean before answering is exhausting. But Colleague: ...

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As a stutterer I have been asked to move into Management
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The people who want to promote you know that you stutter. You have discussed this with them and they, who have promoted many people to management in the past, feel it is not an issue. As you say, it ...

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Dealing with women (or opposite gender?) when they quote "Medical issues"
176 votes

Do not try to manage your peer. Your manager may even know the details and choose not to share them with you. I can't imagine how you know whether she's using vacation or leave time, or not - but it'...

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How do I tell my boss I've accidentally been working halftime on the wrong project for the past year?
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164 votes

While this is almost certainly a mistake, consider these two things: project A seems perfectly happy with your work project B seems perfectly happy with what you produce in only 20-25 hours/week ...

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How do I give feedback when I know more about the topic than the presenter?
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160 votes

As a speaker, I never want to be nitpicked or corrected. I can sometimes handle it when it's important and relevant for this audience. Usually, it isn't. Usually, I've decided to simplify things ...

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How to politely avoid eating with a colleague
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The next time he messages you, go a little meta. No thank you. I am not going to agree to go to lunch just you and me. I would like you to stop inviting me for that. No more. Don't say why. Don't ...

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Panic attack in interview: Just leave or explain?
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I recommend you write up a small card that very succintly explains what is happening. It might say: I am having a panic attack and may have to leave now. I may be able to calm myself in a few ...

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How to deal with a client who has little idea what his employees are doing?
144 votes

If John asks you to go and deal with something for Alice, when you succeed you don't just walk away and assume Alice will tell John, especially if you're going to be invoicing for that item separately....

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How to proceed when remote boss doesn't answer emails?
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When you are missing a response from your boss, the very worst thing you can do is exactly what you did last time. They say that insanity is repeating the same action and expecting different results. ...

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How do I conduct myself when dealing with a coworker who provided me with bad data and yet keeps pushing responsibility for bad results onto me?
143 votes

While it may be that you have to go to your boss and announce you're not getting anywhere, I wouldn't give up until I managed to try one more thing. About an hour spent together with this other person....

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Interns I'm training don't care and it affects my performance
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Clearly, you are not managing these interns the way they need to be managed. It may well be unfair that they need to be managed so differently from typical employees, who want to accomplish, but this ...

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Is it reasonable for me to complain about an objectionable newspaper being ordered for the office?
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To me, there are two reasons to object to a publication being in the office. One is that I might feel upset or disgusted if I catch sight of a headline. Since newspapers are often displayed outside in ...

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How should I leave my position after deciding I'm not the right fit for the new company direction?
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You've told them you might leave. They haven't reacted. Do not wait for them to start hiring your replacement before you look for your next job. Start looking for your next job now. You've decided. ...

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HR advised colleague not to notify department he is leaving
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131 votes

Have you considered that he is getting all these goodies as a way to try to convince him to stay? From people who know very well he intends to leave? Sharing information you were told in confidence is ...

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Is there any way to appear sociable at a work social event without drinking?
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I know this sounds strange, but ask for something that costs money. Perrier, sparkling water, club soda, whatever it's called where you live, with a lime wedge. Part of the reason people are offering ...

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More junior teammates don’t understand my work...and that’s my fault?
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I did a series of talks on what makes code simple and readable. There is no absolute answer. Much depends on the vocabulary the reader brings. Take for example: bool retval; if (x > 0) { retval =...

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How do I improve communication with a person whose grammar is so bad that I sometimes can't understand their emails?
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I have a client who sends me emails I often have trouble understanding. Although we're roughly the same age, we write very differently. Most of her questions don't have question marks and many of her ...

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