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How do I professionally let my manager know I'll quit over cigarette smoke in the office?
215 votes

Be careful of ultimatums You have every right to want a smoke-free work environment and are entitled to one by law. In your shoes, I would consider quitting myself. However, if you want to give them a ...

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Probably terminated or laid off soon; confront or not?
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205 votes

Don't confront them. Here's why: If they say they aren't going to lay you off, will you believe them? You shouldn't. So you are no closer to resolution or closure. If they say they are letting you go....

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Should I join an office cleaning event for free?
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179 votes

Go. Or rather: Go if everyone else is going. Do the cleaning. Be part of the team. Have a say in whether things that are yours get thrown out or kept. Have a say on what gets added to the office. Be ...

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How acceptable is it to openly compare team member performances
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147 votes

It's not. If I'm evaluating your performance then Bob and Alice have no bearing on the review. Now truthfully I'm human and I may think of comparisons to each other (and to other people I've worked ...

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Coworker uses her breast-pump everywhere in the office
106 votes

Your coworker has a biological need. You should respect that. She needs to pump regularly. It's part of the process and failure to do so can negatively effect her supply. Depending on locale this also ...

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Is it appropriate to give a culturally-traditional gift to a female coworker?
84 votes

It sounds to me that you wish to use this custom as an ice breaker. That, I would argue, is inappropriate. You do not know this person well enough to gauge her reaction. To do this with someone you ...

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Will listing my major GPA instead of my cumulative GPA on my resume cause problems?
79 votes

This is almost certainly a non-issue. If it comes up clarify it then. Do not quit on the very off chance of you getting fired. Do not bring it up. Just do your job and do it well and I assure you they ...

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How to deal with apathetic co-worker?
44 votes

I know that the work attitude of my co-workers is technically none of my business. . . Correct. You add in a "but", and explain why you want to change your coworker, but those are your issues, not ...

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Engineer refusing to file/disclose patents
41 votes

This is a negotiation. Your senior engineer was doing this work in his spare time in exchange for financial compensation. Your company suddenly changed the price they were willing to pay. Your senior ...

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Should I follow up with an employee I believe overreacted to a mistake I made?
26 votes

It isn't unreasonable. The problem is that you were disrespectful to an employee. They rightfully were upset by that. Even now you are continuing to disrespect them by stating that they are ...

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As a junior, is it inappropriate for my supervisor to expect me to study our stack in my own time?
20 votes

No, it is not okay to expect that of your employees. You say: Assume a non-toxic environment. A manager saying "You better study over the weekend or you're fired first thing on Monday" is, ...

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What to do about a colleague who asked me to help him start a business competing with our employer?
19 votes

You should forget that matter and never discuss it. You are not responsible for the decisions of your friend. It is not your solemn duty to report this to anyone. Just go about your day.

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I come off as an expert in writing, but In person, nobody takes me seriously, and it is affecting my career, how can I fix this?
17 votes

This has a couple layers to it. And some of this answer is making assumptions, so please comment if any of the assumptions are off and I will address them. First and foremost. Confidence: Look at how ...

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Staff medical form - disclosing methadone treatment
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14 votes

Many people, myself included, would applaud you for beating opiate addiction. Unfortunately, as you are aware, many people aren't understanding. They just see you as a time bomb waiting to turn into a ...

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Can I ask previous job interview: What was wrong?
14 votes

You were number 2 out of 170. You didn't do anything wrong. Your feeling that you had a good rapport with the interviewer was probably accurate. Don't go fishing for "What did I do wrong?" Instead ask,...

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What to do when the entire team turns against you?
14 votes

I'm going to sum this up in case I misunderstood: There is a guy near the top of your organization. He has the support of most, if not all, of the rest of the team. You don't like how he comes by/ ...

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Is it better to want or need a raise?
13 votes

It only matters to you Whether you just want it or absolutely need it might effect how you approach (or even if you do approach, depending on your personality) getting a raise. But it should not be a ...

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Team feels one employee is squashing disagreement even before speaking
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12 votes

Simply address the problem directly. If the communication of the entire team is being effected it needs to be dealt with. You say yourself that Bob can improve from constructive feedback. As you ...

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How to deal with a software developer who doesn't seem to understand that he's just a coder?
12 votes

Simple. Challenge him to finish the mundane tasks under deadline. Once he achieves that tell him he will have the bonus time to find "fun" stuff to work on like speeding up other parts of the codebase....

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How do I tell my boss I want to start applying to other places?
12 votes

Don't tell your boss anything. Look for a new job that will provide the income you need. When the time comes give your boss notice. If you still feel very strongly that you wish to stay there ...

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"What are you thinking about" from your boss
10 votes

Some people process information better through discussion. Some people process information by thinking about it internally first. Your boss appears to be the former and is trying to engage you in a ...

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How to say to my boss that our new sysadmin is a disaster at work?
10 votes

These are very visible failures. There is no way your managers are not seeing them. Let them assess the situation and make the decision. They are very unlikely to appreciate you explaining the obvious ...

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Recruiter I'm already working with invites me out to lunch. Why?
10 votes

Recruiters rely heavily on their connections. It might not make sense to lunch someone with no update in a straightforward pragmatic sense, but from a networking perspective it is important. They ...

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Is my Github username bad if I want to use it for professional use in the future?
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9 votes

If you can create a new account or change your name with a more professional sounding name that is far less likely to potentially give a bad impression to people considering hiring you where you can ...

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Our product is ruining users privacy, without telling them
8 votes

Get a lawyer. Yesterday. They can help you navigate local laws. They can tell you if anything you did was complicit or illegal. They can help you mitigate that if you are. And they can help you ...

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Workplace flexibility
7 votes

A generous interpretation of that is... Rearing children is a full-time responsibility. He was giving his wife as a real-life example. He intended no implication of gender dynamics. Just that someone ...

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How to delegate work and still keep relationships with colleagues
7 votes

Unfortunately, you don't have a relationship with the team. They argue with you consistently and say disparaging things behind your back (and to your face too?) This may be petty and unprofessional ...

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What kind of roles/line of work value ability to take criticism and maintain a level head with high cultural awareness?
7 votes

Those are all great characteristics that are beneficial in literally every single profession. Things like work ethic, integrity, and general life skills will benefit you everywhere. However, Plum.io ...

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How can I get written proof?
6 votes

This sounds like a casual and informal workplace. Don't take this as someone trying to rip you off (which will make your demeanor more difficult to work with.) Instead start it as if the manager ...

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Should I own up my own mistake in public?
5 votes

Taking responsibility for your mistakes shows a level of maturity that is good to have, both personally and professionally. It is definitely a characteristic that stands out more with consistent use, ...

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