A. I. Breveleri
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How to stop a coworker from constantly nagging about joining his "initiative"
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419 votes

Put a jar on your desk labeled "Nag Jar 25 cents" and insist that he drop in a quarter every time he mentions the swear jar.

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Manager wants to hire me; HR does not. How to proceed?
317 votes

Continue to work for this company as a consultant. Conspire with that friendly manager to enlarge your contribution until it is essentially full time or even more. Charge three times what you ...

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My management blocked my internal transfer, but now I have an outside offer. Should I tell them?
204 votes

When I joined I was told I can move around the company after 2 years...upper management blocked my transfer because "I've been doing a good job." Obviously they lied. Upper management is not ...

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Is the term "man hours" appropriate for the workplace, and if not, how do I get my coworkers to use a more neutral term?
191 votes

Don't chastise anyone for using "man-hours", it's an ingrained part of traditional English usage. Continue to use "person-hours" whenever possible. The laughing will eventually subside. Attitudes ...

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How do I deal with a team member who regularly makes breaking changes?
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145 votes

You must make an ironclad rule that if a person commits code that breaks the build, the commit is instantly reverted and that person's work is not completed. If you don't have the authority to make ...

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How to force disgruntled worker not to publicly disclose "GPL'ed code"
120 votes

I know you did not ask anything on behalf of yourself but humanitarian considerations compel me to strongly advise you to avoid hanging around anywhere near the ass end of your company because that is ...

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Fired for a policy I didn't know about, as well as another false reason
111 votes

Obviously, the result of one of the interviews was the engagement of your replacement, somebody cheaper perhaps. There's not much you can do. In the USA, either employer or employee can end an ...

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How to deal with the rumours of my boss stealing money?
68 votes

You should inform that staff member that since she has knowledge of criminal activity she is obligated to report it to the authorities or else she becomes an accessory herself. If the boss is ...

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Employer says they want Quality & Quantity, but only pays bonuses based on the latter
67 votes

"...in the meetings, my manager wants everyone to be 'me'..." This is a vital detail that should be the lede in your question and not buried in a comment to an answer. This is the one thing that ...

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Why would I sign a confidentiality agreement after reporting an issue to HR?
56 votes

"Why would I sign this?" You would not. No advantage accrues to you from agreeing to a gag order. "Should I tell them they can drop their investigation?" No. That's none of your business, really. ...

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Automating my jobs
46 votes

You are a good worker who has a more efficient way to complete his tasks -- but only if your employer reaps the benefits of your efficiency. Probably the best way to make that happen is for you to ...

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Approving claims although subordinate didn't drive
38 votes

You kicked a decision up the chain of command and got a ruling. Abide by it. You don't work for HR. HR is outside your chain of command. Your manager has already told you how to deal with any ...

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Prospective employer "begging" me for a second chance
34 votes

Let me make sure I understand you: Your online research led you to believe that the CEO is an intimidating bully. A friend who worked there confirmed that the CEO is an intimidating bully. The ...

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Should I complain to HR about being mocked for request I made
29 votes

I seriously doubt that AR is going to mock you for asking about better toilet paper. What he will mock you for is acting as if a juvenile joke about toilet paper is a personal attack against you. If ...

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Constantly pulled onto different tasks/projects, becoming exhausted
25 votes

On reading your question I see that one word stands out above all. In your third paragraph you say "Every Monday is dedicated to them, and ideally the rest of the week towards the development project."...

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Dealing with someone who sits opposite me who is a domestic violence perpetrator
24 votes

It is far too late to do anything about feeling uncomfortable in the workplace. You have encouraged your friend the social worker to gossip about her client, and you have also used your partner to pry ...

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How to respond to unprofessional email
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20 votes

First, open a local copy of Notepad and write the following email or something very like it: I am sure that your son Robert would never make such a trivial mistake, largely because he would never ...

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Can my former employer sue me if I don't give them the photos I took (taking pictures was not part of my job description)?
18 votes

Once your employer asked you to run a photoshoot for them and you accepted, taking pictures perforce became part of your job description. Since you took the photos as part of your job, the result is ...

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Putting in 2 weeks notice, but if I leave there is no replacement; how to address this?
18 votes

"...the company I'm employed with will be left with no tech..." You have already spent much time and energy trying to assure that <the company I'm employed with> will continue to have a tech. ...

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My boss wants me to text him two hours before my shift starts, what are my options?
17 votes

The important thing is to give your boss a punctual and reliable signal to ease his panic. When you talk to him, don't try to tell him that the early call-in is a bad idea; you'll only frighten him. ...

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What to do when I'm being blackmailed by an ex
16 votes

Describe her or show a photo to the doorman and security detail at your employer's premises and instruct them to deny her access to the building. Say that she's stalking you and will cause a ...

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Is it ok to record my colleagues around my workplace?
16 votes

When you report your annoyance to <whomever you intend to bring it up to>, it is very unlikely that the offensive jokers will deny talking loud and telling jokes. And if you quote them from your ...

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One partner wants the LLC in his name only
15 votes

Finish the job, split the $15000 equally three ways, and never talk to that jerk again. You are dealing with a fast talking con man who will be as rich as Croesus some day, and he will do it mostly ...

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Software created automated someone out of a job -- the software has a kill switch. How will this play out?
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14 votes

This is an urban myth that resurfaces every few years. Salient points demonstrating its mythosity (by OP I mean the Imgur poster, not USER_8675309): OP claims software was patented, but does not ...

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How to interview for a job I do not feel qualified for
14 votes

The proper question is -- How qualified are you to learn the job well and quickly enough to make hiring you a positive experience? Assume the person who contacted you is not stupid; he has read your ...

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How to discuss over code review?
13 votes

Ask for examples of better logic, and a discussion about why it is better. If your logic actually is poor, it is probably because you don't fully understand the problem to be solved. And if you ...

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Could you help me to understand this workplace situation?
12 votes

our partner, Steve, hasn't made it explicitly clear where my responsibility begins and Rick's begins If you want to advance in the company, when faced with this kind of ambiguity, you should just ...

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Should I reconsider job offer after redundancy
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12 votes

Terminate all communication with your former boss and strive to forget that he exists. The best anodyne for the bad feelings generated by this experience is the good feelings you will accumulate by ...

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Is it wrong not to renew a contract without notice? My company inserted bunch of new clauses at the last minute
12 votes

You would be acting extremely unprofessionally if you even hinted to your agency that their behavior is in any way acceptable. Professionalism constrains your behavior in two directions. You must ...

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How to react when client explains "it will be used for illegal activities"?
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I see three possible cases here. MrX is a stupid petty criminal who needs qualified help to enact his sordid schemes but who will never pay Freelancer more than some token amounts to keep him working....

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