@ventsyv Yes, I'm meeting him tomorrow, will ask these questions.

@JoeStrazzere It's true I didn't ask them - I was a bit upset in the meeting upon hearing that my probation will be extended for two more months. But more so, it was the HR who said those words, but I knew it was essentially the manager's words. I'm having a discussion with him tomorrow.

@Fattie I'm not going to give him an easy break! I'll call him more than his family does-the only fear here is-he's an inhouse recruiter, so the manager and he know each other.

@Fattie thank you so much for your encouraging words. I called him today 10 minutes ago and he told me "I'll call you either today after 17h30 or tomorrow", and then I asked "is it for sure", and he said "Yes, for sure". I really hope this time his shoddiness meter doesn't give a worse reading than it did before :)

@Fattie yeah I get it, except in my case, it was the recruiter who contacted me with the offer, not the other way around.

@TheQuantumPhysicist Yes, but he's so much incompetant that he forgets to contact me upon the promise that he'd? I mean once is okay, but three times?

@Roman: I hope that becomes true. But it's a small startup with 15 people and I worked with them in their office for 3-4 days to give them a feeling of my background and skills etc. There are things that came to my observation (which is irrelevant here) that gave me a feeling not to like them.

The job hopper part can be avoided by not mentioning the short term jobs at all in my CV, as in France, they don't do a check unlike in the US.

@TheQuantumPhysicist: but in this case, somewhat strangely, the recruiter is inhouse. This makes me wonder even more why I'm being played or setup or taken lightly?

@Roman so is it okay to take up a job offer that's my second choice and in the meantime, look for another? Sorry if I didn't quite get the message :) Thanks again!

@thursdaysgeek, then I've a follow up question I'd like to ask-it's more of a moral question than anything. Say I take the other offer that I don't like, and I keep looking for other jobs, and when I get one, I leave the job at the startup. Sure it seems legally fine, but I've moral concern there-the startup probably wouldn't hire me if I tell them that they're just a second choice and I'm looking for another job.

@ Charles E grant: good point. But then how can one be so careless that this is the third time he told he'd call me, but then didn't. It's not that he's not pickng up the phoen when I try to follow up, but all he's saying is he'll call me on this future date (and last time he told me that he was moving). The group is a well-known group in France, so I wouldn't expect either playing me or beig this much careless.

@thursdaysgeek No I'm not, have been looking for job for three months now. They knew my situation while interviewing, still they're acting pretty reluctant! I even told them to tell me if they don't have the position, but they didn't-hence my frustration!