Kilisi
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Invoices (owed to me) always late; also late on deliverables (me to them); past monies disputes; being strongarmed
84 votes

No you don't strongarm or anything like that. You just politely send your invoice and ignore anything that doesn't include payment. Don't enter into a dialogue, they already know the issue. This puts ...

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I messed up at the company party, got too drunk, flirted inappropriately. How do I make this better?
80 votes

Pretend it never happened, and deny any ulterior motives if asked. She may be uncomfortable around you in the future, but just act professionally. You made your move and it was rejected, leave it at ...

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How do I handle a colleague who fails to understand the problem, yet forces me to deal with it?
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79 votes

Also very often, he forces me to complete a section of the work even though I have to overtime. He threatens to complain to my boss Pre-empt him and talk to your boss about your issues with him. Don'...

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My employer (client) wants me to work in “ghost” mode
79 votes

You're a freelancer, if you want the money do the job. If it interferes with your ethics, but you still want the money, go to church more often or rationalise it another way. If it's totally at odds ...

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Should I respond to a sabotage accusation e-mail at work?
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78 votes

should I stay silent? Yes, if it doesn't involve you, don't get involved. There is no benefit to replying unless asked directly.

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Would it give a bad impression if I left my job because my past projects "keep following me"?
78 votes

would I leave a bad Impression if I leave my job for this reason. There is absolutely no reason to give this as your reason for leaving. Find another job, resign, say goodbye without pointing fingers ...

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(When) should you step in to defend a minority?
75 votes

this would be a male manager speaking on behalf on a female shop-floor worker. Absolutely, as a manager you back up your workers regardless of their gender or anything else. You don't let people ...

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Coworkers quitting under special circumstances -- should telling our manager be one of my options?
75 votes

Generally you don't act on third party information like this. It's unlikely these clowns are actually going to leave, they might be trying to stick it to you, not the company. For the plan to have ...

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Is it ethical to swap my chair with one in a conference room?
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70 votes

is it ok to swap my chair with one from the conference room No, not without permission, a conference room is also used for guests, it usually has the best stuff because it's supposed to produce a ...

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Is it appropriate to verify non-job-relevant claims on a candidate's resume?
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68 votes

Is it appropriate to ask questions of the candidate to verify that knowledge Yes it is, you can ask any questions you like to gauge a candidates honesty. If they claim competency then they should ...

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I may have been too hard during negotiating a salary; can I send an email saying that my numbers were more like a target than a hard-cutoff sum?
67 votes

if I send it I'm in a weaker negotiating position. Yes you would be. Before negotiating you should be prepared and then stand or fall by your words. You're best just waiting. Pay is just one of ...

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How to convince my boss that 6 days work-week is detrimental?
67 votes

If you're not being paid enough to compensate for your time working, then you have two options, and should probably do both. Address your concerns with your boss directly, and job hunt at the same ...

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How can I avoid being chastised for a project I inherited which was already buggy, but I was told to add features instead of fixing it?
67 votes

In this sort of situation you need to cover your back. Always get it in writing what the issues are and especially the managers response to ignore them and add features. It's as simple as sending an ...

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How can I ask/negotiate to work permanently out of state in a way that both conveys urgency and preserves my option to stay if they say no?
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66 votes

I would have the discussion with the boss with no mention of potentially leaving. That is a given. Any time there is a negotiation or discussion involving such matters there is an implication that ...

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Mass resignation (including boss), boss's boss asks for handover of work, boss asks not to. What to do?
66 votes

It's very simple. Stop communicating directly with your boss's boss. You shouldn't be doing that anyway.

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If I tried and failed to start my own business, how do I apply for a job without job experience?
65 votes

because there's nothing I've finished. So, finish some stuff. You can do what a lot of people do, find a job that pays the bills while you work on your skills and projects for the industry you want ...

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How to respond to an apology email from boss?
65 votes

Although phrased as one, this isn't really primarily an apology. It's an acknowledgement and praise for your efforts. One which has given the bosses a good impression of you and deserved mention (and ...

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Fired for posting information about my company online. What did I do wrong?
64 votes

I presume he means Workplace Stack Exchange If you want to know, don't assume, find out. From the question you never posted about your workplace here, or even accessed the site from your work ...

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Colleague posted paperwork on group chat
64 votes

what is the best way to go about protecting myself? When you feel the urge, resist it and don't post pictures of confidential information anywhere you're not authorised to.

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Is it reasonable to ask to work from home when I feel unsafe due to the risk of catching COVID on my commute and at my work?
62 votes

Snows answer is good. I just want to outline a potential risk. You have only been there 2 weeks, so a lot may hinge on your performance in that time which isn't very long. You were aware of the ...

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Etiquette for replying to eager HR acting as intermediary
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62 votes

Jane should be able to answer your questions since: Jane & Joe have the same role as well as seniority Your questions are rather general ones than specific to the position Jane agreed to ...

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How do I show concern to my manager, who is coming back from an emergency leave? Want to ask him if everything was good back at home
62 votes

You don't, you mind your own business and wait for him to share any personal information he might want to share. While it maybe ok in private if it's a good friend, it is not ok in a scrum meeting ...

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Boss not responding to my email about promotion
59 votes

Two years in a row he has reneged on his verbal promise. He's most probably not going to answer your email unless you persist, because he doesn't have a positive answer to give you.

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Work colleagues asking for lift home
59 votes

If you tell them when they're really stuck without warning then yes you will probably feel a bit guilty as you have left two people without a way to get home in the middle of the night. Inform them ...

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How to deal with colleague that starts arguments?
59 votes

Don't get sucked into conflicts you're not prepared for. Just diffuse them and document issues. 'Mate, flick me an email and I'll have a look into it later, I'm a bit busy right now.' or 'I'm having ...

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Is it a good idea for me to propose temporarily reducing my hours, so I can work on a '20% time' side-project unrelated to my job?
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58 votes

You would run several risks, a lot depends on your relationship with the company/manager. The three major ones I see are as follows: You might get stuck on the 80% if you deliver all the work they ...

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Is wearing a green sport jacket to an interview a terrible idea?
58 votes

Is wearing a green sport jacket to an interview a terrible idea? No, and given that it is all you have, there isn't any other option except go without a jacket. So choose between those.

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Colleague is not competent but gets away with it
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58 votes

You're looking at it as a problem instead of a good thing. As a contractor she directly benefits you. If the staff were able to do everything, you'd be unemployed. Log your hours, account for your ...

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Software Engineering Internship: Knuckle down and do work or build my portfolio?
57 votes

You can mess around doing your own thing, but that's not a great start to a career. As an intern you're given a chance to build soft skills, a work ethic, and experience. These are important in a ...

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How to disclose negative information about a candidate when I'd rather not reveal its source?
56 votes

You place too much emphasis on what you learnt from a brief encounter and you're extrapolating and rationalising it as a public service to women in your workplace, the team and anything else. But that ...

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