Denis de Bernardy
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How to respond to "Why didn't you do a postdoc after your PhD?"
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My answer was, "I do not want to go into academia, so for me the choice was simple. Also, the uncertainty in funding for postdocs did not appeal to me." No need to feel ashamed about it. The above ...

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Hold an inconsistent manager to their word
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Playing devil's advocate for a moment before answering... frequently deny receiving emails regarding important topics Happens all the time when you get tons more email than you can possibly cope ...

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How do I deal with potentially NSFW items appearing on my monitor?
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You're based in Belgium according to your profile, and are getting many replies that primarily apply to North America. What passes as NSFW or grounds for immediate dismissal in the US are mostly not ...

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Coworker using a demanding tone? Reality check
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It can sound somewhat rude when a foreigner first encounters it, but this is one of the ingredients that make Germany's "just get to the point" work culture so wonderful. Caricatured version of a US ...

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After getting laid off, should I wait for the corona pandemic to pass before applying for a new job?
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Getting laid off after only 6 months of starting somewhere is ofcourse never a good sign in someones resume. Depends when... You entered the job market 6 months before a huge crisis. No one will ever ...

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Overpaid 3 pay periods, months ago. Forced to pay back?
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It's legal, they can do this, and you should have raised the issue then and there. Much more importantly, in case you ever get a similar situation owing to a bank error or a tax refund error, you ...

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How can I deal with a team member who I personally cannot stand
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What I'm expected to do? Talking with him about this is rude and unprofessional as it is a personal issue. Not at all. From your team's perspective your job description in a nutshell is this: ...

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How to handle senior developer shirking his work and giving it to interns instead of doing it?
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First off, let it be, and take the opportunity to learn to not get frustrated about things that don't depend on you only. Him not wanting to do grunt work is not your problem, and him learning your ...

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What to do when during a meeting client's people start to (physically) fight with each other?
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Don't get involved, and prompt your own business to review where it's failing A few answers already cover the "don't get involved" bit, so I'll stick to where the problem actually comes from IMHO: ...

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How can I persuade my boss to license the software I need to use?
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When I said I wanted to continue using the program, he told me to use the community version or change to a different program. I've tried a few open source alternatives, but nothing seems as good for ...

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Is it ever worth asking a question if you know the answer is "no"?
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Based on your description, Option B might introduce complications in otherwise stable software, so you should expect some risk aversion if it adds little value. That said, there's nothing wrong with ...

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Is it OK for your boss to force you to clean the toilet after you just used it?
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A generally accepted rule (in Western societies, at least; I've travelled and have actually seen varying standards in developing countries), is to leave the toilets in a state you'd be reasonably ok ...

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Will applying for vacation directly after my probation period carry negative consequences?
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Just let your employer know you've some planned trips when getting hired. Companies that will have a problem with it are those which you probably don't want to work for anyway.

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Should I sign NDA without legal consultation?
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A quick sniff test is whether the NDA is mutual or not. If the NDA makes no distinction whatsoever between the obligations of both parties, there's little chance it'll contain inane language. So at ...

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How to handle a coworker who feels rejected
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Given that you've a close relationship with your colleague, it might be worth buying him (or her) a beer, ridicule the situation by bringing up that it's e.g. straight out of Dilbert, that you can't ...

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Etiquette of staying for pleasure after work trip?
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You're overthinking. It happens - though it won't always be accepted depending on the company. At the very least it'll cost you nothing to ask. Just don't put the WE expenses on the company. Worst ...

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How can I address being paid less than minimum due to forced unpaid overtime?
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There's an EU-wide maximum number of work hours. It's 48 hours on average. You're apparently expected to work 50 minimum, which is ludicrous. And not making the minimum wage to boot. The government ...

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Offered a hike in salary after asking to resign
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The trap to avoid is to accept to stay in your current company at a higher salary. Sometimes it'll work out fine, but more often than not they'll just buying time to replace you on their own schedule. ...

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Am I overstepping?
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My question is this, I have raised the issues with managers who oversee these things but their mentality seems to be its not their problem. They have no plans to fix the problems but that doesn’t sit ...

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How can I remedy incorrect answers to interview questions after the fact?
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You can drop them a line with the correct answers, of course. And they might pick up on the fact that you researched things after the fact and got back to them with correct answers later on. (For ...

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A coworker distracts me too often
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Try this construct: When you [behavior], then [consequence]. Example: If you don't mind me pointing something out, when you interrupt me to [whatever he did], I get less done than I want ...

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How to communicate to my manager that him being available while on vacation sets a bad precedent
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Bring it up during your next 1:1... If you don't do those, you can try to bring it up in passing at the next opportune moment -- once -- if you get along well. Apart from that, consider trying to ...

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Probation period passed but no formal confirmation
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You've passed your 6-months probation period. Had you failed, you wouldn't have been around for the past 4 months. You stayed, so it was implicit you succeeded - no explicit notice necessary. With ...

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How to ask colleagues to include me in Decisions?
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Assuming you're responsible for managing your team rather than merely giving it technical pointers, have a few conversations with the various stakeholders. Politely ask POs 1:1 to loop you in (cc) ...

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Should I tell an interviewer they hired me for a different job years ago?
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If someone hired you 10 years ago, the odds are good that they still remember you. The exception would be if you were so ordinary that they basically didn't register you (emotions help memorizing). It'...

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To a senior or superior, do you suggest or do you recommend
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Anecdotally, the two expressions sound the same to me, as would things like "raising a potential problem" or "thoughts on ...?" or "input on ...?" or "what about ...?" and a slew of other variations. ...

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Is there any motivation for the employer to downplay the number of candidates during the recruiting process?
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It could mean: You're the only credible candidate so far and we'd like to take a bit more time before deciding in order to find a few other credible alternatives to compare you with. But usually, ...

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Two employees do not talk to each other despite mediation
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Bit long for a comment, so posting this as an answer... You may find this piece enlightening: http://www.simplypsychology.org/robbers-cave.html It basically summarizes a famous social psychology ...

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How best to convince my manager I need an assigned seat?
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Gently nag your boss about it each week, until you get down to what is actually happening. At the very least your boss should let you in on why you don't have a desk yet. But I wouldn't put too much ...

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Giving feedback to someone without sounding prejudiced
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I held back until I saw more of a pattern. [...] I said things like "in this case, you did this, and the outcome was that, here's how it could become a problem for you in the long term, and here's a ...

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