MlleMei
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Employee is self-centered and affects the team negatively
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Something I want to make clear first: dealing with coworkers, attitude during meetings, respecting someone senior... These are all things that fall under an employee's performance. It's not just the ...

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Coworker asking me to not bring cakes due to self control issue. What should I do?
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I’m sorry it’s tough to see it! But so many other people enjoy this, I would feel horrible depriving everyone else of cake. Instead, is there something that we could do to help you resist those treats?...

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Bonus calculation: Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?
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there is too many good people on the team Since you didn't say anything about other employees not deserving a full bonus, I'll assume this statement is true. And if this is true (and you don't have a ...

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How to educate teammate to take screenshots for bugs without unwanted stuff
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You already talked two times with this colleague, so I wouldn't go back to him again. He didn't change things after the two first conversations, and if you go talk to him about this a third time, he'...

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Should my manager be aware of private LinkedIn approaches I receive? How to politely have this happen?
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I've worked in the kind of consultancy company you describe. The only way to get a raise/promotion/bonus/... was to threaten to quit. After a couple of years (and several people leaving), they started ...

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Cancelling an non scheduled arranged meeting
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Although you didn't get a calendar invitation, this meeting was scheduled. You had a date and a time, and you both verbally committed to it. The client won't be happy, and with reason : you didn't ...

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Chasing a vacancy where the end date for submissions keeps moving
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I wouldn't ask. It is none of your business why they pushed back the date. You have no reason or standing to ask that question, it will come of as weird or demanding. I would act like for any other ...

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Communicating to employer that commitment-/retention-agreement is legally void
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I've had a somewhat similar experience with a non-compete clause. I worked for a consultancy business (company A) for two years. During those two years, I only worked at one client (company B). I ...

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Should I ask about new intern behaviour?
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He's an intern, part of an internship is learning how things work in an office. So don't take things so at heart, tell yourself it's someone who just doesn't know better, and try to be kind/...

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My manager is forcing me to clean, vacuum, wash, and take out the garbage during trade shows
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First, try to find out how things went previously on other trade shows. Was this kind of work dispersed among all employees, or was someone in your role always the one doing everything ? Is it because ...

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Considering leaving a job after 6 months after refusing to negotiate a promised salary raise
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I've been kind of in the same situation. I accepted a job at a lower salary than I initially wanted because they were going to provide training for a skill I needed for the kind of job I wanted, and ...

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How to deal with colleague's extreme inflexibility and communication issues
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If he has a medical condition, you and your company should work with him to give him the best chance to do his work successfully. If in the end he can't or isn't willing to perform his duties, you ...

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Applying for jobs when I have an obvious scar
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I agree with all the posts who say you don't need to disguise or explain your scars. But interviewers might still ask what happened. They are human, and humans can be thoughtless. So I suggest you ...

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Exhausted by doing too many unrelated tasks
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I 90% agree with motosubatsu's answer, so I'll just say my piece on the 10%. it sounds like he is in need of an outlet to vent a bit. Listen to him, and re-assure him that you and your family want ...

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How can I write in my resume that I can relocate without any problem and do not need any kind of 'relocation money'?
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You could mention in your cover letter that you'd love to live in the city the company is based. Although it isn't necessary, the fact that you're applying there already suggests you'd be ready to ...

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How can I avoid the job I'm applying for contacting my current supervisor as a reference, and instead contacting my direct manager?
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It is a possibility that your interviewer will talk to your current manager. Because interviewers don't always just stick to the list you give them (and they're not always wrong to do so). For example ...

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Co-worker/friend asking for a code review
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If your colleague/friend just wants some pointers on how to improve his code, than yes you're being too uptight. If he wants you to rewrite his code, than you can take the decision you want. Code ...

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Am I responsible for the work produced by coworkers since we are a team even though they excluded me?
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Don't ruin your mental health on this. Yes, technically you are responsible for this since everyone on your team is. And if this was an issue that was limited to a small number of colleagues, my ...

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Should I talk directly to colleague or go directly to HR for inappropriate behavior?
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There are two issues here : the awkward jokes that don't land well or making him annoying, and the sexual innuendos. One is just about how to deal with an annoying colleague, the other is a more ...

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How to diplomatically reject an offer from second company?
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I just want to add something to Max Hodges' answer : you can inform company Y of your decision before they come back to you. While job hunting, if you're in the running for one or more jobs elsewhere ...

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How to deal with intrusive colleague?
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This is something I'd rather discuss with Boss. Repeat that every time, in a matter-of-fact tone, and then move on to show him the subject is closed. Hopefully he'll get the hint after a while. You ...

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Should I tell now my company my intention to quit in 3 months, though my notice period is only 2 months?
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I'm from Belgium, not sure if this is the same in Germany, but at least you'll get some food for thought and check if you have similar laws in Germany. When giving your notice, there's a notice ...

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Headhunted for a role in a Competing Company
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I second the "talk to a lawyer" advice, and to not blindly trust a recruiter. Little anecdote : I had a non-compete clause in my contract (I'm from Belgium, so the laws might not be the same in the ...

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Advice on leaving a new job
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To your fears of having a one month gap in your cv : you leave it out, it's as simple as that. You would list your old job as if you've never left. If you get an interview, then you can explain the ...

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Is this a normal scenario for a job negotiation?
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Until you have an offer, you don't have the job. I understand that when things go well, it's easy to think "This job is mine !", but something can always come up. Maybe you were great, but the next ...

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How to positively present "why I want to leave" in interviews with <1 year in current company due to working significantly below my level
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I really like John Spiegel's script. This explain that the company ended up changing your responsibilities to fit their needs, but left you doing work you had no interest in doing. I would add that ...

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Job role transitioned into that of a Team Manager from a Quality Manager. Basic Job Market research does not show avenues
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The best way for you to find out what "Project Manager" entails in your company is to ask your own manager. I see here some people equate it to team leader, scrum master, delivery manager. In my ...

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Is it reasonable to ask my company to reduce my notice period after agreeing to a longer one?
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From my experience, asking to reduce a notice period is quite normal. Even more so with employees who end up having long notice periods. Like you just saw, the work often dries up. Since you're ...

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Requesting to work remotely during my coop
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Could I ask to start a bit later? Yes, no problem with that. Be precise though, tell them which start date would work the best for you. If they accept to let you start later, be sure you can make it ...

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