John Feltz
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  • Ann Arbor, MI
How do I say nothing in an exit interview?
30 votes

Use the same strategy as breaking up a romantic relationship: "It's not you, it's me." And make it value-neutral. "I looked for and got a new job because I wanted a change. It's not that you're ...

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First "real" job search in late 20s. Don't know what to put in CV about 5 year gap
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22 votes

You ran a private business. Whether you filed paperwork or not doesn't matter from the point of view of the CV. Established and ran a private business in the MMO gaming industry, providing ...

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How do you set boundaries with a coworker who keeps walking into your office asking questions right away?
22 votes

The direct conversation is useful, but I would make it about productivity, not your personal feelings. "Bob, I need time to switch gears. It would be more efficient for us both if you gave me some ...

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Fired because your skills are too far above your coworkers
21 votes

If the only thing in common between the three situations is you, then you need to consider that something you are doing is a problem. Have you talked with your former co-workers and asked them to ...

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Labeling employee lunches that are left in refrigerator
15 votes

I've seen this issue before with communal refrigerators shared by 100 people. Some suggestions that worked well: Keep several marker pens attached to the refrigerator. Make the cleanout schedule a ...

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Disrespected by more senior employee
14 votes

I think there are other options you haven't listed. A direct look at him with a 3-5 second pause, and then a short response like 'Really?' or a flat, emotionless 'Wow' often works wonders here. You ...

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How do I have better one on one meetings with a shy team member?
13 votes

Structure. Have a detailed agenda for these meetings, make sure the shy person knows it in advance and has time to prepare something to bring, and make sure you are prepared as well. It's much ...

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How to respond to a ridiculous request from a senior colleague?
12 votes

Some things to consider: What are your other obligations? If some part of your time is dedicated to this person, and they have nothing else for you to do, then what's your objection? Yes, it's a ...

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Best way to approach manager with urgent issues when they are in a bad mood
10 votes

Your boss isn't going to change. When he's in a bad mood, there's no way to bring him additional bad news that won't result in a reaction like you've noted before. However, the bright spot in this ...

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How to handle a kind of conflict with my employers that I don't figure out?
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10 votes

This is a pretty broad issue to give advice on, but as to your last question - "Why don't they dare to answer my e-mail." Any number of reasons: They're embarrassed. The decision was made from ...

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Conflict of Interest between client and service provider
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9 votes

It would be a conflict of interest if you did any of the following: expected a finder's fee for recommending your friend expected a quid pro quo, in the form of an easier audit expected that your ...

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Why can't software engineers work from home most of the time?
9 votes

Two thoughts. Not everyone works well from home. Some people work better with a change in scenery - the different environment in the office is a psychological cue that gets them into work mode. ...

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Client is not happy about my ex-team's performance
8 votes

It became your business when your company's customer (Mr. A) complained to you. What you can do about it, however, depends on your company work culture. The least you can do is approach your boss ...

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Joining a team as a full-time perm role from self-employment
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8 votes

I'm sure others will have additional comments, but I would say that you should avoid the assumption of tenure, seniority, and familiarity with the owner. Just because you've freelanced for them - the ...

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Getting your message around scrum master?
7 votes

I think you need to consider whether you and your manager have the same expectations: the quality of the code, the lifecycle of the products, priorities, etc. If a site is going to be abandoned or ...

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Being asked to write a letter about why I'm fit for a promotion, expected?
6 votes

Self-evaluation is a very common thing, even if it's just part of an annual review process and not tied to a promotion. It's not strange at all.

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How to handle coworkers where complaining is a big-ish part of the work culture
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5 votes

I've never been big on complaining about things I couldn't change That right there is the key to dealing with it - at least internally for your own peace of mind. It's bad for your psyche to be in ...

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finding coverage for unanticipated sick day
5 votes

Right or wrong depends on your contract, your union status (if any), and local laws - and I wouldn't be surprised if there are specific provisions in the law for health-care workers. Employees being ...

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How to Handle Family/Friends asking about Classified Job
5 votes

I don't understand why someone would be offended by "confidential" - perhaps it's how you're saying it? Consider using "proprietary". Family and friends should understand when you say "I can't talk ...

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How to postpone job start date because I have not received OPT(working permission for international students)?
4 votes

They already know that your paperwork may be delayed. So just be truthful and to the point. In addition to the usual "I'm-happy-to-accept-your-offer" language, give the current state of your ...

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President Misleading Investors, Should Employees Tell?
4 votes

I was in this situation once. It's very difficult place, and regardless what you choose to do, it will be stressful for you and your colleagues. Some questions that you need to answer for yourself(...

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Is it a good thing to work in different fields throughout my career?
4 votes

The thing that you have that an R&D employer would value most is that you're willing and eager to learn new things. That's fundamentally what R&D is. What you have to avoid is giving the ...

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Newly assigned work, unclear demands, what should I do?
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3 votes

Your last paragraph shows your conflict. This shouldn't have anything to do with "how you feel", or about jumping ship when "they need you". They've given you a task without clear expectations. And ...

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How to develop work friendships?
3 votes

Don't try to befriend the entire group en masse. Strike up one-on-one conversations. If you have trouble breaking the ice with somebody with personal topics, do it with business needs. Identify an ...

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Boss frequently thanking me for doing my job
2 votes

I think you're overreacting. You don't indicate your country of origin, but your boss may be under the impression that your culture is more formal, and so he's going out of his way to adapt his style ...

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Being given tasks not related to my job description
2 votes

Have you asked about priorities? Hey, Mike, I need you to fax the contract/call the landlord/fix the printer. OK, boss, I can do that - but that means the bug fix for Customer X probably won't get ...

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Is it ok to ask CEO about his previous jobs?
2 votes

You didn't "stalk his CV" - you performed due diligence on the company you might be going to work for. That being said, you should ask questions that pertain to the current company during the ...

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Does anyone have suggestions/tips about presenting GitHub sample code to potential employers?
2 votes

I would also say that you should include documentation - github wikis are quick and easy to put together. A few pages about use cases/requirements, a discussion of the design alternatives you ...

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Held responsabile for not playing a role that I was never assigned
1 votes

We can't really answer questions like "is he right" or "is it fair". But given what you said, what he did is, arguably, justified from his perspective - given the environment at your workplace. It ...

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How to handle/deal with people pranking me at work?
1 votes

If they are messing with your property, especially if they are making your car potentially unsafe to drive, you need to go to a manager. Now. Document, in writing, what they've done and when. If ...

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